is this cheating????

alphaxidelta12 · #1 01-07-2002, 03:03 AM

This is kind of long...but just bear with me!!!

Okay after being in a relationship for about 8 or 9 months me and my boyfriend broke up (he ended it). This happened about 2 weeks before he was leaving to go out of state and sell fireworks (like far far away). Anyways, we talked one night and discussed doing something (such as a movie or something) when he got back from his trip (he was going to be gone almost month). I got really excited and he told me not to get any hopes up b/c he didn't know how things were going to work out. Basically telling me "I don't know if i want you back yet". We talked about ever other day on the phone, and things seemed to be going well. Then, one night when he was gone, I went to a club w/ friends, got pretty bombed, and ended up kissing this guy i was friends with. The next day he called me and asked me about what happened. Somehow he had found out. I told him the truth and he got really pissed at me. He told me that was cheating because I should have known we were going to get back together. My question to you is whether you would consider it cheating. I ask this for 2 reasons

1. WE WERE BROKEN UP!!!
2. I don't think that, "i should have known we were going to work things out" is a good enough reason to consider us even close to being in a relationship.

Could you please let me know what you think....its really bothering me and i am almost sure i didn't do anything wrong.

bruinaphi · #2 01-07-2002, 03:47 AM

What you did is not cheating. The fact that you are so concerned shows that you are a person of strong morals and values and that you should have dumped this guy long before he broke-up with you.

I'd focus on things with your "friend" who you kissed. It's always fun to have someone new around when you are getting over someone old.

NeonPi · #3 01-07-2002, 10:24 AM

In the immortal words of Ross (Friends) .....

"WE WERE ON A BREAAAAKKKKK...."

'nuff said

piss on him for stringing you along .... life is too short for little weenies like that

brooklineu - like that "King of Stupid" - excellent

valkyrie · #4 01-07-2002, 12:21 PM

I agree with what everyone else has said -- it was not cheating and you did nothing wrong.

It looks like he is playing games with you and is being unreasonable. You're not with this guy now, are you?

ZZ-kai- · #5 01-07-2002, 01:39 PM

First off, he skipped town to sell fireworks......SELL FIREWORKS!!!!. That alone should be reason to kick him to the curb. Secondly, you were broke up, so move on with your other man.

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Originally posted by alphaxidelta12
This happened about 2 weeks before he was leaving to go out of state and sell fireworks (like far far away). Anyways, we............

dzrose93 · #6 01-07-2002, 01:56 PM

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Originally posted by brooklineu
It's like the King of Stupid came over and knighted him.

ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Brooklineu, you are SO right! Sounds like this guy wants his cake but wants to eat it, too.

Newsflash: When you break up with a girl, you no longer get a say in who she kisses.

Peaches-n-Cream · #7 01-07-2002, 03:52 PM

You weren't cheating. That guy sounds like he doesn't want the responsibilities of being in a relationship with you, but he wants the benefits. He can't have it both ways. I write from experience; he was uncertain about what he wanted and this is just the excuse that he needed. Seriously, get him out of your life. He's not worth the stress especially when there are so many nice guys out there who are highly kissable.

valkyrie · #8 01-07-2002, 05:00 PM

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Originally posted by ZZ-kai-
First off, he skipped town to sell fireworks......SELL FIREWORKS!!!!. That alone should be reason to kick him to the curb.

LOL! I was thinking the same thing...

alphaxidelta12 · #9 01-07-2002, 07:29 PM

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It looks like he is playing games with you and is being unreasonable. You're not with this guy now, are you? [/B]

no we aren't together anymore. i had enough of his shit. he treated me really badly and i got sick of it...i just wanted to get someone elses opinion about the situation

i am a lot happier now that we're not together

XO_Princess · #10 01-07-2002, 07:37 PM

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Originally posted by dzrose93

Newsflash: When you break up with a girl, you no longer get a say in who she kisses.

Thank you! God love you for saying this..now I just wish guys would get the hint.

AlphaGamDiva · #11 01-08-2002, 01:45 AM

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Originally posted by dzrose93

Newsflash: When you break up with a girl, you no longer get a say in who she kisses.
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yeah...i feel that one, too...my ex always loved to check up on what i was doing, and he loved to get mad whenever he found out...

boys...i'd much rather just chill with my sistas sometimes, ya know? just as much drama, not as much stress!