Way to remember an AXO??

[Katey Alpha Gam]

Hey-
My name is Katey and I am an AGD from Eastern Mich. Univ. I'm sure some of you remember hearing about the tragic death of one of your sisters from Central Mich Univ. in Nov. '99 from a car accident. I was a very very close friend of her's from before she even went to school. I encouraged her to go greek and I have to tell you, even tho she was only in AXO for a short time nothing meant more to her than AXO and greek life!!! I learned to love being greek so much more from her! The reason I am writing you is that I have vowed to do everything in the greek community for her and her brother (he also died, he was a Delta Chi) and I was wondering if there is any special symbol I could wear/use w/out compromising your special sisterhood? If you had a mascot, I was going to get a charm of it or something like that. When I write something having to do with her I put AXO and AGD and use the same A b/c we are sisters regardless. Could you help me with a symbol of her love for your sisterhood that I could use? Thanks for helping me out and I have to say that from knowing her chapter and AXO through her I know how beautiful your sorority is.

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Katey, ZA chapter of AGD
"Could I have been anyone other than me?"-Dave Matthews

[AXO Alum]

Hi Katey - I am so sorry to hear about your loss and the loss of a sister, as well as her brother. That is a tragedy.

I don't know about wearing a symbol of ours, as the lyre is our official mascot, but there are ways to remember her by that will also honor AXO. These are just some ideas, but feel free to email me personally for some more or to discuss other ideas.

If you know her big and/or little sister, you could have matching letters for them made, and using the same fabric and colors, make AGD letters for yourself.

Or - if you don't know or aren't close enough to them for that, donate some money (even a small amount - say $25) to the chapter as a sort of memorial to your friend. Then it could be used as an award or scholarship type money (I'm going to use "Amy" since I don't know her name) -- so the chapter could take a vote on which sister best personifies AXO according to our standards, and whoever is voted on would receive the $25 towards her dues, books, etc. Maybe this would lead to a tradition that is awarded each semester. Our alum chapter offers this type of scholarship to our collegians in memory of our lost sisters.

Or - if you really want to make a lasting impression, Alpha Chi Omega recently revealed the Pathway to the Future - which is a brick garden located at headquarters. You can actually purchase a brick with her name and whatever else written on it. The money goes to the Alpha Chi Omega Foundation and the information can be found on our national website:
http://www.alphachiomega.org

Like I said, these are just some ideas, but I am so happy that you and your friend had such a wonderful relationship. I am glad that she represented our sisterhood well, and I am sure that she is missed by all who knew her, and for those of us that didn't but feel the loss in our Bond.

Let me know if you'd like any more info - or if you just want to chat. Take care -

Love in greekdom!

AXO Alum

[Hootie]

Wow. Your devotion to the memory of your friend is very sweet and I'm practically in tears.
I'm not an AXO but something that I just thought of that you could wear to remember her is a bracelet with a heart on it. You could have it engraved with her initials on one side and yours on the other. Or perhaps instead of a heart you could find a charm of a lyre and have her name engraved. That way it's not their actual badge but a symbol of it - kinda like the owl is a symbol of my sorority, Chi Omega.
Those are just my ideas. Let me know if you need help in locating a charm. I work for a jewelry store and we order charms from a company. I would be willing to see if they have a website you could go to. E-mail me.
Hootie

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What do you get when you cross and Alpha Omicron Pi and a Sigma Phi Epsilon? A beautiful Chi Omega!!!

[AXO Alum]

Hi all -
I moved this from the Alpha Chi forum to Greek Life because I think that there may be at least a few of us out here that have lost friends and loved ones in another organization. I think that we could all benefit from sharing our thoughts and ideas about ways to remember our friends. Hope this helps!

[shadokat]

When a brother of a fraternity died at my school, we all got these little bead bracelets with little heart charms on them. The beads were done in the color of the fraternity. I know it's not much, but we wore them all the time to remember this guy. The night I got into my sorority, we were at their house, and it was so sad when this happened. Hope this helps.

[ilovemyglo]

My freshman year I was not in a sorority and a friend of mine died, he was a Sig EP. All the brothers got arm bands with their colors on it, they gave little ribbons with purple red and yellow to everyone that knew him well to wear in memorium. I still have mine on my backpack. It reminds me of him everyday and believe me, three years later, it still affects me.

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If your going to go greek, why not be a goddess?

[Katey Alpha Gam]

thank you all for your help. actually, someone else gave me a really good idea that perhaps some of you might want to use as well. I am going to get letters made in green and red (as those are the colors that we shared) and then on the sleeve, down by the wrist I am going to put AXO on it in little embroidery, so that she will be connected to greek life still!!

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Katey, ZA chapter of AGD
"Could I have been anyone other than me?"-Dave Matthews