Sorors, SFs, One & All

[Humble]

I am a humble child of God, I am of good moral character, I am in good academic standing, I have been in public service my whole life, I have never missed a Delta event held at my campus, I have been to Delta national and regional conventions, I have met national presidents and other officers of Delta, I am a legacy, and I was denied membership. As you can imagine the devistation was incredible not only for me but my mother and the rest of the women in my family who are deltas. We have been waiting for this moment in my life to occur just as any other major step in life. I never had the attitude of what Delta could do for me, it was what I could do for Delta. I never wanted to strut with letters and stroll at parties. That wasn't important to me. I wanted to work on National programs and further the purpose of the organization. But I am not bitter, and I understand that if it wasn't my time it wasn't my time. I will continue to support Delta, as hard as it may be, because my love for the organization will never die. Yes it is hard but I cannot question the will of God. Everything happens for a reason and it is important to keep a positive attitude. I just want to encourage those on their journey to greekdom not to give up. It isn't easy but if you are in it for the right reasons, and it is in your heart, it will happen, in due time.

God Bless

[14dst01]

Thank you humble for your comment. I think that is the word that definitely has been missed throughout the conversation.

I want to take it back to when I said "overlyconfident." I agree with what Crucial Crimson said in that being arrogant and thinks that they should be the one sought after rather than approaching the sorority itself. That's fine if that's the type of person you are but that don't work in DELTA!!!! We are all women of purpose and one does not outshine the other.

Getting back to why I said OVERLY CONFIDENT. I made that statement based on the things I said and how I carried myself during my interview the second go round. You see I went in there thinking to myself, "I know all this information, I just need to know when the money is due and when should expect a phone call." I felt that since these were the same women I sat next to at the rush 2 years prior and I got to know them, that I was guaranteed acceptance. But with anything in life, stuff doesn't always happen the way we want it to and for that God had me wait a few more years because He knew I wasn't ready (Delta would have gone to my head if I crossed undergrad).

Yes you can carry yourself in a dignified way and full of pride and what have you but at the same time there comes a point where you need to be humble. Those who have gone through the process know what I'm talking about. I have a best friend that crossed Fall '95 at XU and when I was going through this she told me to pray for several things:

1. Meekness
2. Humbleness
3. Patience

I know there are a couple of other things but I can only remember those 2 right now.

But you get the point. Those who are interested please keep those 3 points in mind when praying because those are important characteristics to have when seeking membership and it will show in not only your interview but also in the way you carry and conduct yourself.

Thanks again for taking the time to read this long message.

Continue to be Blessed.

Soulful Inspiration
#14
Spr. 2k1

[CrimsonTide4]

While I appreciate the dialogue, this was not meant to be a DEBATE but instead a time for MEMBERS of BGLO sororities to offer POSITIVE SISTERLY ADVICE to prospectives of BGLOS. This is also a time for prospectives to take the SISTERLY ADVICE and use it for further encouragement.

Let us build one another UP not tear each other DOWN.

Continue on with the original purpose of this thread.

[14dst01]

Alumnae membership is not necessarily INVITE ONLY!!!
To prove my case, last night in FL, the Broward County Alumnae
Chapter had a rush. It was open to the public. For my situation yes it was invite only but each chapter does things differently within the guidelines.

Soulsearchin, I understand what you mean about give or take and I also agree with there being a time and place for everything. But what I also have experienced in both undergrad and alumnae rushes (yes I've been to 3) is the difference between those who know how to conduct themself and those that don't have a clue or just think this is some kind of extracurricular activity. Membership into DELTA is a lifetime committment so let's not be confused!!!

My view on being humble deals more so with once you are online. But it can also apply to things such as how you are at the rush and interview. I know how I was when I was an undergrad and HUMBLE was not one of them. That's just my experience and how I see things.

[TRSimon]

I pledged undergrad, but I hope this helps... It helped me.

Be your best . If you are the best you can be, then continue to strive for excellence. If it is truly for you, you will achieve it.

Be honest. Always be honest with yourself about why you want to join an organization, and what your qualifications are.

Seek guidance from God for your life. Sometimes God has other plans. Sometimes they don't include XYZ Sorority. Sometimes they don't include being Greek. If you seek what God wants for you, you will never be disappointed or lacking for anything.

I commend anyone who endures rejection to join a Greek organization.

If you are a person who did not get in despite humility, hard work, prayer and patience, never let yourself be defined or embittered by someone's shortsightedness.

TRSimon

[kizzie22]

Hello ladies of Delta Sigma Theta


I joined Undergrad (Fall'93) and I wouldn't trade the experience for anything in this world. I enjoyed every minute of it!!! My advice for the young ladies who aren't choosen this time is to hold your head up and keep that smile on your face. Because it will get better... Keep your grades up and continue doing your community service. Keep trying you will succeed!!!

[BeeJae]

You are confusing two different things.

Alumnae membership is by invitation.

A rush is and always has been a public function. Attendance at a rush means nothing if you cannot get a majority vote of the chapter... and if they don't know you - and haven't invited you... you can basically forget about being invited to membership.

Originally posted by 14dst01
Alumnae membership is not necessarily INVITE ONLY!!!
To prove my case, last night in FL, the Broward County Alumnae
Chapter had a rush. It was open to the public.

[DSTSolo01]

I pledged undergrad, I'm still in undergrad for that matter.. But I crossed the burning sands into Delta land on April 21, 2001. My situation is different from most in that when I expressed my interest to the women of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc., they were seeking membership in order to keep the chapter alive. My school and the school I pledged at are two predominantly white northern schools. And since there weren't any qualified girls at their school or many minorities at all for that matter, they branched out and opened membership to ladies at my school and another school in the area. Even with the knowledge that there wasn't much competition and most likely these women would accept me since they needed to keep the chapter alive, I still remained humble. I worked hard for Delta. Everyday I was on the internet or reading In Search of Sisterhood or calling Deltas to find out all I could about Delta. I made sure I knew all the Founders, the basic history, Five Point Thrust, etc... I was constantly calling members of the chapter, not to pester them or to suck up - but to get to know them. I never took anything for granted. I was THOROUGH. (Even more thorough now )

I know it's most likely more difficult in HBCU's... but for those sisterfriends who attend HBCU's or other schools with a lot of competition, I say keep striving for Delta.. Make yourself noticed, not in being a pest, but in being humble. Get involved on campus, be outspoken, be an overacheiver. However, you shouldn't do these things for Delta, but for yourself. And one other piece of advice FOR UNDERGRADS IN PARTICULAR, is to carry yourself correctly. Wearing skankish clothing, spreading gossip, being publicly intoxicated or under the influence, and acting wild at parties and just acting unladylike in general will do nothing but ruin your chances.

Good luck to all sisterfriends!!! Keep striving!!!!

#1 Braveheart
SP 01, Rho Iota

[discrete1]

I will like to say "thank you" to all the members of the NPHC, for encouraging me. Here is my story:

I was interested in a BGLO as an undergraduate student as of my junior year. I wasn't extended an invitation for a reason I wish not to discuss. I was very active on my campus, involved in various activities. I did untotaled number of hours volunteering off campus etc. In not so many words I wasn't accepted.

I graduated a year later. I moved back home and started seeking a graduate chapter in my area. I went through extreme measures to find the name and address of the advisor. When I found the information, I instantly mailed the advisor my interest letter. I never received a response. Each year I sent my letter to the advisor of the the GLO of my interest. (two years had passed). March of this year, I received a response. A great response, and I choose to leave it at that.

My point is, timing is everything. Maybe I wasn't ready during my college years. Since that time I have been more involved in my community, church and have sought so much information of the GLO of my interest. I've really been doing my homework. I can honestly say that now is the right time. I didn't know as much as I know now about the GLO of my interest as I do now, and I am sure there is an abundance of information to learn once i become a member I wish I could have had the undergrad experience but I didn't and I have to move on.

Thank you all again for encouraging me.

[CrimsonTide4]

I love your title. That has become my mantra these last few months. I have had things happen or people placed in my life or taken out and I repeatedly have to remind myself, What GOD has for me, IT (he) is for ME.


To Everyone, whatever it is, be it the sorority you want to join, the college you want to go to, the job you want, the man you want to be with, if IT/HE is in GOD'S WILL for you, it is YOURS!!

I just want to add that YOU are still complete without whatever it is you are looking to GOD for direction for. That thing/person only enhances who you are but it DOES NOT MAKE YOU.

[Steeltrap]

I came into AKA through a graduate chapter. When I was an undergraduate, I was busy with the school newspaper and seeking internships in my field. Because of that, I did not feel that I was able to devote the proper time and energy that the organization deserved.

In the interim years, I just made sure my stuff was together in case the time was going to come. Fortunately, it did and I'm pleased. Working for my sorority is pure joy.

[14dst01]

AMEN!!!! Both discrete's and Crimsontide's replies were very well said.

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
Phillipians 4:13

[dstbrat]

as i read through these posts, i reflected on my journey to delta. i became interested in delta my freshman year fall '92. one of the deltas on the yard took an interest in me and began encouraging me to get involved, inviting me out to events, etc. in the spring, my older sister went to rush while i cried because i didn't have the hours to apply. but i helped her, went to her probate, continued to stay involved and waited. the chapter was suspended during my sophomore year for 3 years. they came back the semester AFTER i graduated. my younger sister crossed that semester. i went to her probate jan 97. the local alumnae chapter had rush 2 weeks later. i was invited and made line. i crossed march 26, 1997.

the point is i watched both of my blood sisters become deltas while i waited for my opportunity. i wanted delta so badly i could taste it. but, it was not my time. there were girls who put off graduating to make the line that came back after the suspension. i finished school, got a job, and waited my turn. thank goodness i was ready! remember if you stay ready, you don't have to get ready when you get the call. if delta is in your heart, then your time will come. but the best advice i can give you is to put it in it's proper perspective, delta is extra-curricular. keep doing what you came to school to do. don't put off your goals to pursue it. that is contrary to the spirit of the sorority. it should enhance what you are already doing, not be the only thing you do.

for all of the perfect prospective members, in addition to meeting the minimum requirements you must receive the chapter vote!

be nice to the women you go to rush with, they might make it and you don't!
don't do any ugly talk about the chapter you are seeking membership in. they will find out.
don't tell fraternity men yur business, they tell us!
finally, humility is not kissing anyone's tail. it is understanding that membership is not owed to you.

sorors:
do not set your relatives up to fail. stop buying them those future delta shirts. teaching them to oo-oop and hold up the pyramid. that is where the attitude starts. they need to grow up and make their own decisions and seek delta for themselves not because you said they were going to be one when they grow up!

[aspiration]

This thread is truly inspirational & Thanks you for starting it!!
I have been pursuing Delta & studying my heart out for many years now. When I first had the opportunity to pursue membership I wasn't ready (in a number of ways). After that having to sit out of school for financial reasons didn't help either. Once I was able to return to school, I did so at a school in my home city, due to the fact that I don't attend one of the campus' that you have to attend for the local city-wide chapter I am not able to even attempt to pursue membership. Believe me I did try last year, and was given this information by one of the members. I have watched friends get accepted and even friends of my younger sister.
So, I said all that to say, being that I am a senior (an older one at that I have no choice but to wait and pursue membership at the Alumnae level. This is not deterring me though, I am still on track with this pursuit and my service, and I will not stop, if I'm not accepted at first attempt then I will try again, and again, and again............
I am a child of God and I know that if it is in his will then it will be done! To all my SF's out there on the pursuit into any organization, be humble, continue your service, Pray, and be patient, let's continue to strive for excellence together.

[lilZetagirl]

I attained membership through an undergraduate chapter. An experience that I will forever cherish.

As many have said, if attaining membership into a sorority is your hearts desire and you are unable to achieve that goal during your undergraduate years, it is important to stay positive and keep your eye on the prize. If it is meant to be, it shall be.

One thing I always emphasize, don't do service, maintain excellent academic status and forge friendships with people STRICTLY for the sake of joining a sorority. These are things you should be striving to do on a daily basis with or WITHOUT that organization. If you are ONLY doing those things to attain membership into said sorority, you may want to rethink that decision, you went to college FOR academics, so that should be your focus ANYWAY, service is something you should WANT to do, not something you are doing merely to meet membership requirements, if you are only doing it so Soror Such and Such will notice you and write that letter of Recommendation, you will have a RUDE awakening when that is EXPECTED of you once you attain membership.

All of that to say, make sure your head and heart are in the right place when you begin your journey. If they are, everything will fall into place!

Much success in everyones journey!