I_Love_Penguins' Rush Experience - Page 2

KSUViolet06 · #16 02-10-2006, 12:25 AM

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Originally posted by I_Love_Penguins

Anyone have any tips on how to cope with not getting in? Especially since two girls I live closely to got in and I have to see them in their letters and listen to their convos about pledging and everything?

* Go home and visit your family for awhile if you can! That will help get your mind off of it for a bit.

*Remember what you DO have. I'm sure there are many things in your life that you are proud of. Thinking "I don't have DPhiE=I have nothing" is only going to depress you. You do have something.

*Do not avoid your neighbors/roomie just because they got bids. Chances are that they are happy for themselves, but also sad because you didn't a bid with them. They are probably feeling a bit awkward about the situation but they still want to be your friend. So try not to have hard feelings, because avoiding them or being mean will make life in your room very awkward.

*I know it's hard, but don't become bitter and hate Greeks. If you walk around saying/thinking, "Stupid DPhiE's for not bidding me. What were they thinking?!" and being mad, you're not moving on and you'll be consumed with bitterness.

* Also remember that sororities have the right to their own selection processes, therefore it's useless to obsess over why you didn't get in. You can speculate, but you'll never really know.

*Although other campus activities are NOT meant as a substitute for Greek Life by any means, check out some campus orgs and see if any of them appeal to your interest. You might find something you never thought you'd like before.

tunatartare · #17 02-10-2006, 12:42 AM

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Originally posted by I_Love_Penguins
I'm going to wait a couple days before summing up how I felt about the whole experience, only because I don't want something angry and anti-sorority to come out of my mouth.

I don't post in recruitment threads very often, but I just wanted to compliment you on your class, level-headedness, and maturity in all of this. I hope that your college experience will still be a great one!

I_Love_Penguins · #18 02-10-2006, 01:17 AM

Thanks Daisy. I don't feel very level headed right now...I'm still pretty upset...but thank you for the compliments! I am trying my best to remain classy and mature instead of totally trashing the Greek system.

Buttonz · #19 02-10-2006, 02:18 AM

*hug* You really are very level headed about this, which is good. I'm sorry things didnt work out how you would have liked.

I_Love_Penguins · #20 02-10-2006, 09:32 AM

I talked to my roommate last night after she returned from her bids night party. (It was after 1 a.m. or something but I had a frozen coffee to cheer me up, so that's why I was still up.) Anyway, she told me that she got called about her bid as she was headed to catch the shuttle bus to go to the parking lot for her car. When she asked about my status (I mentioned we were roommates), she told me that the girls said I was very close to getting a bid, but then someone else got one. That made it hurt even more and my roommate told me she was unable to enjoy her party as much as she liked because she felt bad that I wasn't there with her.

I'm feeling a little better this morning, but still upset. I guess I need to move on though especially since I am going home this weekend and seeing some friends I haven't seen since before going back to school from winter break. I also get to do one of the things I love more than most things in the world...going to a hockey game. So I'm hoping to be feeling better by the end of the weekend.

AlphaFrog · #21 02-10-2006, 09:48 AM

Ali * I sent you a PM

Peaches-n-Cream · #22 02-10-2006, 12:52 PM

I'm sorry that you are disappointed. I suggest that you spend this time focused on improving your grades. You can try again next year if you really want it. I know some wonderful women who went through a similar experience before getting a bid.

I also agree with JocelynC's suggestions.

irishpipes · #23 02-10-2006, 12:53 PM

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Originally posted by I_Love_Penguins
When she asked about my status (I mentioned we were roommates), she told me that the girls said I was very close to getting a bid, but then someone else got one. That made it hurt even more and my roommate told me she was unable to enjoy her party as much as she liked because she felt bad that I wasn't there with her.

And we wonder why MS is supposed to be CONFIDENTIAL.

Honey, keep your chin up. Join things on campus, do well in school, and get the last laugh.

I_Love_Penguins · #24 02-10-2006, 12:56 PM

I am not sure if I am trying again next year. We'll see if I really want it. I am already a second semester sophomore...however...I know both D Phi E and one of the local sororities have pledged juniors without an issue. The one girl I met who's in D Phi E pledged as a junior. But as I said...we'll see if I really want it next semester.

A Random DphiE · #25 02-10-2006, 01:00 PM

i know you don't want to hear this now, but

"everything happens for a reason"

i know we ALL hate to hear that phrase,
but it proves to be true...
trust me.

let your heart heal, sit back, enjoy life, enjoy your friends,
and in due time you'll see there is something
bigger and better in store for you. &hearts;

KSUViolet06 · #26 02-10-2006, 02:10 PM

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Originally posted by I_Love_Penguins
.....she told me that the girls said I was very close to getting a bid, but then someone else got one. That made it hurt even more and my roommate told me she was unable to enjoy her party as much as she liked because she felt bad that I wasn't there with her.

I feel compelled to say this. I hope no one flames me. Do keep in mind that membership selection is the business of INITIATED members only. If your roomie is a New Member, chances are she has no clue why you didn't get a bid and is purely speculating. No one except initiated DPhiE's from that chapter know why you didn't get a bid.

AlphaFrog · #27 02-10-2006, 02:12 PM

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Originally posted by JocelynC
I feel compelled to say this. I hope no one flames me. Do keep in mind that membership selection is the business of INITIATED members only. If your roomie is a New Member, chances are she has no clue why you didn't get a bid and is purely speculating. No one except initiated DPhiE's from that chapter know why you didn't get a bid.

I agree...I was thinking that too when I read that.

adpiucf · #28 02-10-2006, 02:18 PM

I'm sorry recruitment didn't work out as you'd hoped. It's very normal to feel upset, sad, mad and/or disappointed. Take the time to feel these things and do something special for yourself.

It may not seem this way now, and yes, you're on a board composed of mostly Greek members, but Sorority Life, while it can be fun and fulfilling, is just one aspect to the college experience. You can try again if you choose or as someone else said, investigate other Campus Activities. For now--Go home for a visit, spend time with good friends, go shopping, do something fun for yourself.

Work on those grades and bring them up. Also, remember you are special, unique and wonderful. Not getting a sorority bid doesn't make you any less of a person. It's an ego bruise, but one that you can overcome by living your life, talking it out and keeping busy with school and friends.

Good luck and please stick around on Greek Chat!

sugar and spice · #29 02-10-2006, 02:51 PM

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Originally posted by JocelynC
I feel compelled to say this. I hope no one flames me. Do keep in mind that membership selection is the business of INITIATED members only. If your roomie is a New Member, chances are she has no clue why you didn't get a bid and is purely speculating. No one except initiated DPhiE's from that chapter know why you didn't get a bid.

Depending on the way membership selection works in a particular group, not even all of the iniated members may know.

achio_kerryann · #30 02-11-2006, 03:36 PM

any chance you might want to found your own sorority?