stay in or drop out?

[JMUduke]

I rushed in the fall, and it has been about 2 months now, and I am not so sure if I want to stay in my sorority. I enjoy the sorority, but I am not ecstatic about it. In fact, I am considering transferring because I am somewhat unhappy at my school. It is too big for me, and the emphasis is clearly on partying when I am not really into that too much. Although I have made friends in my sorority, I feel were I to transfer I wouldnt miss it too much. Next week is initiation, and I dont know what to do. I am not positive that I will be leaving, but i dont know if I should speak to someone or drop out, is it difficult to leave after initiation? Is it rude? I am really confused and saddened by this all, I admire the girls in my sorority but I dont want to be rude or offend them.

Please I'd appreciate any advice you have.
Thanks

[SSS1365]

That seems like it would be a difficult decision to make. I really don't know what to tell you. I can say that it might be harder for you to leave after you're initiated. If I were you, I'd probably talk to your pledge mom or someone you trust not to judge you or get angry with you for having second thoughts. Joining a sorority is a big decision, and it's definitely not for everyone! Hopefully everyone will understand if you do decide to leave. Good luck with whatever you decide!

[The1calledTKE]

I think if you that close might as well go thru with it. You are bound to meet memebers of your glo no matter where you go. I think would be more of an advantage if you became a sister.

[happyowl]

JMUduke,

I am glad that you do enjoy your sorority. Also, your feelings about the size of your school are not uncommon for incoming Freshmen. Due to the excitment of going away to school and the newness of the experience, some Freshmen under-estimate the amount of adjustment that is between high school and college. In other words, most freshmen go through an adjustment period during their first semester of school and this is a normal part of adjusting to college.

Regarding going through initiation, life being a new member to life after initiation are two separate experiences. The new member experience tends to be an extremely intense period filled with new member meetings, social events, not to mention the stress of obtaining all the requirments for initiation. However after initiation- sorority life becomes becomes more relaxed and less stressful (of course unless you are an officier
) . Also, the physical make-up of chapters tend to change as new member classes are added and seniors become Alum . This in turn can add a new "chapter personality" each academic year despite the fact that the sororities ideals are timeless. My advice is if you are happy about your sorority-go through the initiation-it is a wonderful experience.

Hope this helps
happyowl

[shadokat]

I can't say whether you should stay or go, because that is ultimately a decision you must make. But something to consider, if you drop out before you are initiated, you may, in the future, pledge again. If you become initiated, you will have to go through deactivation with your current sorority, and will not be able to join another group should you transfer or such.

Hope this helps.

[curiouss]

Oops!

[KillarneyRose]

Originally posted by curiouss
Oops!

Did you burp or something?

[IowaHawkeye]

No Tracy, i think Curiouss said something she knew might be incriminating...

[curiouss]

Originally posted by IowaHawkeye
No Tracy, i think Curiouss said something she knew might be incriminating...

Did you see it?

[IowaHawkeye]

Why yes i did curiouss... what soroity did you at one time belong to?

[curiouss]

Originally posted by IowaHawkeye
Why yes i did curiouss... what soroity did you at one time belong to?

That was dirty IHE.

[33girl]

I don't think it will offend the girls if you decide to transfer, as long as they know that this is definitely a problem you have with JMU itself and not the sorority. A sorority can sometimes help a big school seem smaller, but just being in a sorority will not solve everything if the school itself is not a good fit for you.

Whatever your decision, keep in mind that as shadokat said, if you do initiate you will not be allowed to pledge another NPC sorority EVER. You could possibly affiliate with a chapter of your sorority at another school.

Sit down and make a pro and con list of everything about the situation - it helps sometimes to get it all out on paper. Good luck.

[aephi alum]

I'm sorry to hear you don't seem to be bonding with your new sorority...

33girl gives good advice, as always. Once you're initiated into an NPC sorority, you're a member of that sorority for life. If you transfer, you can join a collegiate chapter at your new school if one exists, or join an alum chapter. But you can't join another NPC sorority. You could possibly join a local social sorority, and you can always join a professional and/or service GLO (if you don't already belong to one).

If I were you I'd talk to your new member educator, your big sister, maybe your chapter president, and/or any sister you're close to. Definitely give this matter a lot of thought. Joining a GLO is a big decision, and so is leaving one.

Good luck with whatever you choose.

Originally posted by curiouss


Did you see it?

You'd be surprised to know that MANY people saw it.

Mama always said....one lie always leads to another...and another. Eventually you get caught up in trying to cover up your tracks.

[lyrelyre]

If you know where you are thinking about transfering you could check to see if there is a chapter of your current GLO there. If there is I would probably go ahead and be initiated. If there isn't and you want to be involved with a sorority I might depledge and rush again at your new school. Just be sure!!

Good Luck