What would you say/do?

[PerfectPearl]

I am distrustful of men in general, but I always thought (after hearing sisters,clients, etc talk about how their mates had treated them) "not my husband". In addition I cannot count the number of times I have been approached by (wedding finger on the hand) married men who don't understand what the big deal is about having sex with someone other than their wives. The most scary thing is the sistahs that r dying of HIV/AIDS. "I'm sorry baby" doesn't cure you. I can't explain why I'm not stark raving mad, only that maybe things were going so well for us that I was waiting for the proverbial shoe to drop. And that there is still the possibility that they didn't sleep together.

[Gyrl7]

Originally posted by PerfectPearl
When my husband came back we had a long talk and he vehemently denied doing anything with this chick. He admitted she had come on to him and he hadn't told me because he thought it was silly. He said she was overly flirtatious and he wasn't attracted to her at all. He told me he had called her to resolve the matter and when she didn't return any of his calls he left a message saying she was interfering with our marriage and it was best she didn't call anymore, he was not interested in working on any projects with her. He said he felt that she probably felt slighted as she thinks everyman wants her and was trying to get back at him for the message to refuse to do the project. Well, I told him he should have been honest with me and that I still don't know if he did or didn't do anything. But I don't trust him. I pulled up her picture on her company's website and if she looked like Jill Scott I knew I was in trouble- either it was a bad picture or she looked extremely plain. That didn't make me feel better but I didn't feel worse. Anyhoo, I wish I could say this is resolved but it isn't. I don't trust him and now I have to seriously think about the possibility of what his potential infidelity could mean for me- (i.e. HIV/AIDS). African-American women are being infected and dying at an alarming rate. Thanks to all who gave me advice and was ready to open up a can of wa.

I'm sorry, I really wish you the best of luck but I really don't believe your husband at all. You know him better than any of us. I guess it took your son's entire practice for him to come up with that one huh? As someone said on the prior page(s), just go with your gut.

[abaici]

Originally posted by soulfulremix
I did just that while reading this post.

Me too! I love my brothas...all of them, but especially the good ones.

I would ask him some questions...in a calm, non confrontational way.

[abaici]

Originally posted by onlyme
I'm thinking the same thing.

Add me too

[AXEAM]

This sounds a little too over the top (1) Why would someone bring their personal business to a forum like this? (2) Why did it take so long to confront the guy?(3) Even if it is true a public forum is not the place for this personal type of problem.

[PerfectPearl]

Like my grandma used to say...opinions are like a##holes-everyone has them. ENJOY YOURS!!!!

[Jody]

Hi Perfect: edited because I typed your user name incorrectly!

Just another viewpoint: When I first got married, there was a woman who called me to tell me that she was with my husband the previous evening. On the surface, she could have gotten away with it because we were living in different cities during the week.

So I have woman telling me she was with my husband the previous evening but I was with him (I had gone to see him in the middle of the week)

Some garden instruments just like to make trouble. My experience is anytime a woman calls your house and "wants to talk, but she's married" is f*king crazy. If she ever calls again , call her husband, that will shut her a** down.

TO AXEAM: Buddy, you were way out of line, if you don't like the topic of this thread...NEWSFLASH....don't post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[PerfectPearl]

Thanks Jody for your input. Unless someone has experienced it they don't know how confusing it can be.