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Danshun · #1 10-24-2005, 12:36 PM

Im just curious about how you guys feel about this. Where I goto college almost no one is single and I can not think of a single 21+ year old who is sinlge. My school does not have a greek life but from what i here sorority girls are more likely to be sinlge, but from what i see if you are 21 you would at least be engaged.
So what is it? In my opinion it is stupid and rare to be in your 20s and not in a long term relationship. Your 20s are ment to be planning your family, or atleast be with the person you are going to spend your life with. I am not dissing greek life, infact I am planning on joining one next year, but to all the single sorority girls.....think.... Look around and you will see that most people your age are engaged. Start thinking about marriage before its to late.

ladygreek · #2 10-24-2005, 12:38 PM

I agree, this topic is strange.

Lindz928 · #3 10-24-2005, 12:47 PM

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Originally posted by ladygreek
I agree, this topic is strange.

I think the opinion of the OP is a little strange.

I'm single, 25, and happy. I know tons of people (greek and not) who are in their mid-20s and single. I have chosen to use this time to figure out who I am as a person. I don't need a relationship or a marriage to define me and my life.

I think if I had gotten married when I was 21 (and trust me, I thought I was ready at the time) I would be divorced already. I would rather wait until I'm older but be more SURE about it.

MReed1081 · #4 10-24-2005, 12:56 PM

I am 24, and just now getting to the point where I am considering engagement. I believe that marriage is for life, not just a few years. I have grown such much in the past few years- I cannot imagine making such an important decision at 20 or 21. Besides, rarely at such a young age are you financially stable, nor mature enough to make hard decisions. (there are the exceptions, my sister was married at 21 and it worked for her, but doesn't reccomend it for everyone). I feel that marriage has been down-played in our society, and is seen as just something "fun" not an actual life changing event.

Little E · #5 10-24-2005, 12:57 PM

The OP is 17 (unless I messed up that math, which is totally possible) born in 1987 (how scary is that)

If you are serious with your post, enjoy life, become a legal adult, get your first real job, let your car insurance rates go down and then worry about marriage.

My letters define an organization I'm a member of and ideals I strive for, they do not, in any way, define my personal relationship status. Your status with a greek organization has no barring on your relationship status. Anyone who would tell you different is on crack. Maybe I'm getting old, but I figure I'll live to be oh say 80, which means that if I got married tomorrow, I could be married for 57 years. Why not live a little, figure out who I am, date different types of guys and let things fall into place rather than rush.

btw: How are you going to join a sorority when your school has no greek life?

edited for spelling

Lindz928 · #6 10-24-2005, 12:59 PM

Ok, the thread starter was born in 1987.

Clearly not someone to bother listening to about getting married.

ETA: Oops we said the same thing at almost the same time.

Danshun · #7 10-24-2005, 01:03 PM

My school has no greek life but it is a community college. I am trasfering next year and the school that I am planning on going to has greek life. And yes I am serious. There are pleanty of people in my classes 20+ and not one of them is sinlge. I also think one should be thinking about marriage at that age. Do not discriminate againsitt me because I am 17.

valkyrie · #8 10-24-2005, 01:13 PM

You should spend more time thinking about grammar and less time thinking about what other people are doing with their lives.

KTHXBI.

adpiucf · #9 10-24-2005, 01:14 PM

We're not discriminating against you because you're 17. We just discriminate in general when it comes to sweeping generalizations.

Every person is different, every college is different and every region is different. It could just be that where you live, people marry earlier.

In today's society, most people are older when they marry. A lot is due to economics and education. More and more people are going on to advanced degrees, and some are waiting until they are through with Master's degrees or certifications before making the financial and emtional committment of marriage. Also, in recent years, it has been documented people who marry younger may be divorced within a few years.

Don't set a timeline for yourself when it comes to marriage-- you will just get frustrated if you don't meet a goal that is out of your control. Get your degree, travel, explore, have fun, date a lot of people and get to know yourself. When you meet with right one, you'll settle down-- whether you're 20, 25 or 47... or even older.

rhochi2002 · #10 10-24-2005, 01:32 PM

I thought that we had finally reached an era where a woman is defined by who she is rather than her martial status!!
That aside. I know plenty of women in sororities that are engaged and I know plenty that are not (while in college).
I am 24, I have been in relationships for long periods and I have also been single for long periods. I would not trade either expirances, because I have grown as a person.
I think that you should spend more time worrying about getting an education and less time worrying about "boys."

sugar and spice · #11 10-24-2005, 01:44 PM

DO YOU GO TO BRIGHAM YOUNG?

JK, JK.

Anyway, the only person I know who got married before they were 25 ended up divorced within three years.

Obviously this could change at some point in the future, but I honestly can't see myself getting married any earlier than 26.

valkyrie · #12 10-24-2005, 01:47 PM

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Originally posted by sugar and spice
DO YOU GO TO BRIGHAM YOUNG?

It's good to get married young so you can spend many years populating the earth!

mu_agd · #13 10-24-2005, 01:50 PM

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Wow, I needed that laugh.

Ok, I just thought about marriage. Yeah, still not ready.

Little E · #14 10-24-2005, 01:52 PM

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Originally posted by valkyrie
It's good to get married young so you can spend many years populating the earth!

These days you don't even need to be married to populate.

PsychTau2 · #15 10-24-2005, 01:54 PM

I think that part of the OP's observation that "everyone" in his/her classes are engaged or otherwise is because this observation is being taken at a community college.

Think about it...most people who go to community college are older students...most are people who have a spouse or kids (or are a single parent). Certainly not all comm. college students fall into this category (a surprising number of them are high school students), but I think it is enough to skew the "results".

A community college isn't a representative example of traditional college age students.

And OF COURSE 20 year old females are thinking about marriage...they are figuring out what rings they like, dresses they want, etc. etc.

PsychTau