Can someone clear this up for me?

#1 05-24-2000, 08:33 PM

Hi all! I have a question that I am hoping you guys can answer. I am considering rushing in the fall, but I will not be a freshman, I will be a junior. I rushed last year, but was cut from all but one of the sororities rush parties on the second to last day of parties. At this point, I was not really interested in continuing rush, and I dropped out. I have thought about rushing again next fall, but have wondered if there are any rules that state if you have been cut from a particular sorority during rush that you can never become a member of that sorority ever, even you go through rush the next year. I did not know what Panhellenic rules there were (if any) on this sort of thing, and was just wondering if there is any way to find out if the specific sororities on my campus would have a such a rule. How would one go about finding this out? I would hate to waste my time in rush if it is not going to get me anywhere. Let me know your opinions.

Cucci74 · #2 05-24-2000, 08:52 PM

Don't you worry. As far as the rules go, you have a chance of being taken by one of the sororities that dropped you. In fact, at my school, if a sorority drops you because they made a mistake or you just slipped through, they can pick you up that semester. We do something called continuous ongoing bids. And we take people that we have dropped in the same semester just because they slipped through. So you can go through again and be picked by a sorority that dropped you.

33girl · #3 05-25-2000, 10:03 AM

I've seen girls go thru rush 3 times & get picked up by a chapter that cut them twice. Don't worry about it. A lot of times it's all about timing.

And if anyone is trying to tell you "since we cut you once, you can't rush us again"...it's BS, and they are evading trying to tell you why you got cut. They're weenies. If you have the balls to ask they should have the balls to be straight up with you.

SoCalGirl · #4 05-26-2000, 01:21 AM

Actually if they're telling you that BS about "dropped you once can't take you now" it's because they CAN"T TELL YOU! NOT BECAUSE THEY DON'T WANT TOO!

Even after girls are iniated they're not allowed to know what was said about them; so there is NO WAY that you can know!

Just go through rush and be yourself. And BE HONEST about why you didn't end up in a chapter.
I remember one girl that was really impressing one of my sisters. When the subject of her going through rush twice came up; the girl straight up LIED. My sister knew it too. She remembered her from the year before and knew lots of girls from her Rho Chi group. That rushee didn't come back.

#5 05-31-2000, 04:54 PM

If you rush one year and either drop out or decline your bid, do your chances decrease if you rush in the next year?

I was wondering if a rushee is perceived as "damaged goods" if they are rushing and it is not their first time. (sorry to use the "damaged goods" term, but that is the only way that I can really describe it.)

Please help (I am talking strictly about NPC sorority Rush).

33girl · #6 05-31-2000, 05:35 PM

Tulip,

It depends on your campus. At schools w/ smaller systems, a lot of times girls drop out for various reasons (class overload, parents need persuading, $$ trouble) and they rush again w/ no prob.

But from what I've heard & read about schools w/ huge systems (Like U of Illinois, Penn State, like that) if you don't get it the 1st time forget it. This is just my assumption so if I'm all wet, please correct me.

Speaking of correcting me - thanks SoCal - you are right in saying no one can ever find out what was said about them in selection discussions. I didn't quite put that right. What I was trying to say is, if anyone gives the "you got cut so you can't ever join" speech, it's a bogus excuse. You DID get cut for a reason, and you might never get a bid, but it has NOTHING to do with any rule like that. If they are putting you off saying things like that the best thing is to forget that sorority & move on.