Marriage, Age and Other Stuff

[The Truth]

Originally posted by ladygreek
Ya don't have to be married to have the kids - LOL.

Wasn't ready for you to say that.

[dsteazye74]

Y not?What are ur views TheTruth?

[ladygreek]

Originally posted by dsteazye74
Y not?What are ur views TheTruth?

She was addressing that to me because of what she knows about me.

[dsteazye74]

oh ok. I got it now.

[ladygreek]

Originally posted by The Truth
Wasn't ready for you to say that.

I am full of surprises.

Seriously, I am not saying that children out of wedlock should be the norm. But sometimes it happens, and as college educated women we need to be prepared to handle it if it does. Plus I know many married women who are essentially raising their children alone, as well as divorced women who receive no support from the father. So I guess I am saying that we as Black women need to be prepared to handle our business in any case.

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally posted by ladygreek
I am full of surprises.

Seriously, I am not saying that children out of wedlock should be the norm. But sometimes it happens, and as college educated women we need to be prepared to handle it if it does. Plus I know many married women who are essentially raising their children alone, as well as divorced women who receive no support from the father. So I guess I am saying that we as Black women need to be prepared to handle our business in any case.

Plus spouses do also pass away. Delta women are strong and like Soror said, we need to be prepared to handle parenting and life come what may.

[ladygreek]

Originally posted by dsteazye74
I don't have the patience right now for kids. I have a really quick temper as well, so I know I need some1 2 help me.

In that case you probably shouldn't have kids--married or not.

Carla, is there anyway you can spit this thread and move it to a new one? We are really off topic here and I apologize for contributing to it.

[dsteazye74]

you are so right.Sometimes things do happen

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally posted by ladygreek
In that case you probably shouldn't have kids--married or not.

Carla, is there anyway you can spit this thread and move it to a new one? We are really off topic here and I apologize for contributing to it.

1. I thought the same thing.

2. Sure. Give me a minute. No worries.

[RedVelvet]

Originally posted by dsteazye74
I want 2 be married b4 30 because i don't want 2 be old having kids. I'm not having kids if i get 2 be 35.

Why? I married at 37, had my first child at 38, and my second child at 39 (late life fertility spurt and a trip to Jamiaca ). I became a stay-at-home mom after my kids were born. I'm having the time of my life!

[mulattogyrl]

Originally posted by dsteazye74
I want 2 be married b4 30 because i don't want 2 be old having kids. I'm not having kids if i get 2 be 35.

I can understand your thinking here. I didn't want to have any more kids by 35 either, but since I'm not married and don't think I will be anytime soon, I don't think I'm having any more kids. Being a single mom is fine but I don't want to do it again. I just feel like I won't have enough energy to raise kids any older, I'm just so worn out all the time now

[Gyrl7]

Originally posted by RedVelvet
Why? I married at 37, had my first child at 38, and my second child at 39 (late life fertility spurt and a trip to Jamiaca ). I became a stay-at-home mom after my kids were born. I'm having the time of my life!

See that's what I want, hell, that's more and likely what I'm going to get. And all though I talk that game about not being ready to have children with Dr. Mr. Gyrl7, I guess he knows me betta! Let's just say mentally I am ready......(waiting for my lashing from btb87)

[The Truth]

Originally posted by dsteazye74
Y not?What are ur views TheTruth?

Well I don't want to get married and I don't want kids. I just don't have the tolerance for either.
Benny Frank is the only man for me.

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by dsteazye74
If ur brother's not seeing any1 tell him 2 hit me up. I"m single and looking. I'm 24, i'm a grad student pursuing a Master's in Accounting. For any further info please pm me.

You know if you get married and have kids, the party is over! Say bye-bye to being young and carefree.

This goes to show how people can be sooooo different. I'm almost the same age as you....thinking about marriage and children makes me flat out DEPRESSED.

Now, dating is fine. So I would not mind if someone on here hooked me up with their brother also.

Oh yeah, I have a single brother too, but he's only 21 and I don't think he will be your type.

[Wonderful1908]

Originally posted by Dionysus
You know if you get married and have kids, the party is over! Say bye-bye to being young and carefree.

This goes to show how people can be sooooo different. I'm almost the same age as you....thinking about marriage and children makes me flat out DEPRESSED.

Hey the party is over? Why didn't anybody tell me?

dsteazye74 ,

I am 27 and married with 2 kids. No I can't just at 11:13 pm go out on the spur of the moment, or spend 1/3 of my next check on a purse without weighing the options but the party is not over. You just trade the party all the time for sometimes. Its odd because my husband was at work last night and my oldest is in Louisiana for the summer with grandparents and the baby was sleep. As I was sitting there eating my tasty steak, I thought I wish my husband was home to eat with me. Being married is a beautiful thing, we try to balance the party life with the life that requires hiding christmas gifts, talking in silly voices, making grilled cheese sandwiches, buying poptarts, receiving sloppy kisses, good hugs and numerous request for school to be eliminated from our third graders routine. It also means having to never look for a date, someone to kill spiders, laugh with and think I am oh so fine all the time, and split the bills with. It's HARD work but so worth it!