Legacy: would you care if...

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally posted by preciousjeni
So, ummm, if I do the same for my kids, would it be over the top to have my daughter(s) memorize Theta Nu Xi poems and facts in the place of poems and play monologues???

LOL!

Yes!!!!!

[Jill1228]

No daughters yet (just a 15 year old stepson). i would love for him to Go Greek.

I do have a niece and a goddaughter and I would also be excited for them to join a Greek org. I would be fine with whichever one they join.

If we are blessed with a daughter...hell yeah, I hope she goes Greek!

[TXADPi]

Every woman that has pledged in my family went to a different sorority here at UT. My mom pledged DG and I've had an aunt in Chi O, A Chi O, Pi Phi, and Kappa. I believe my grandmother was a Theta at Georgia The men are all SAEs.

I guess it'd be interesting to see how different it would have been to be a 3rd generation legacy or something, but it's kind of comforting to know that they didn't expect me to join a certain one just because they all did.

[PSUSigKap]

All of the women in my family are Sigma Kappas except for my younger sister, who is a Theta. (There's no SK at her school.) I didn't really feel the pressure to go Sigma Kappa, my family, especially my mom just wanted me to find my home.

I do think being a 3rd generation legacy hurt me with some chapters, I think they assumed that I'd go SK and that I was an easy person to release. That said I love my org and I'm happy that my mom, g'ma and aunt were able to come to my initiation. Six of us showed up for my cousin's initiation this past spring and it was a blast!

If I have a daughter or a son, I'll make the same rule my parents had for me, you have to go through recruitment, get all the information and decide if it's for you. If not, that's fine, you don't have to do it. I just want them to make an informed decision, because you never know what can happen. One of my best friends was fairly anti-greek, then she saw how much fun I had and I convinced her to go through recruitment our sophomore year. She found her home and was a huge asset to her chapter.

[GCrose34]

I would love to have a family member or future daughter become an Alpha Xi. As far as I know i am the first in my family to go greek. It is something I will encourage any one in my family to Rush and find a house that they match with.

Legacies are awesome. When we installed our chapter we had two mother daughter pairs. As if initiaitions and installing a chapter aren't emotional enough.

[Wolfman]

This question was posd strangely! I would have expected it to posed in a positive fashion. Why would someone NOT want their child to become a legacy? Of course, the decision belongs wholly to the child but my take is this: I understand the problem with legacies being one of "peer pressure" and lack of fit in some chapters but what about the meaning of why someone not only pledges but remains active and committed to your organzation? Fraternitie embody certain ideals and values and,as one grows as a human being, these things grow in importance. I have brothers in my graduate chapter who bring their sons to service events and other social functions. These boys see what the Fraternity is really all about. I've talked to some sons of Ques(Omegas) who didn't become members but still respect the Fratenity and hold it in great honour because of the example set before them. It's a way of life not just a fleeting two or three years of "partying and carousing" that makes this life so attractive, even with all te attendant problems faced. Is there a somewhat different perspective that NPHC and PIC/NPC groups have?

"Que Psi Phi 'til the day I die"

[Tom Earp]

Sorry, but sasy What?

So, a person who is a Legacy finds another GLO who they feel better with is bad?

Dang, let them find their way, let them be happy.

So a New Legacy will be born!

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally posted by Wolfman
This question was posd strangely! I would have expected it to posed in a positive fashion. Why would someone NOT want their child to become a legacy? Of course, the decision belongs wholly to the child but my take is this: I understand the problem with legacies being one of "peer pressure" and lack of fit in some chapters but what about the meaning of why someone not only pledges but remains active and committed to your organzation? Fraternitie embody certain ideals and values and,as one grows as a human being, these things grow in importance. I have brothers in my graduate chapter who bring their sons to service events and other social functions. These boys see what the Fraternity is really all about. I've talked to some sons of Ques(Omegas) who didn't become members but still respect the Fratenity and hold it in great honour because of the example set before them. It's a way of life not just a fleeting two or three years of "partying and carousing" that makes this life so attractive, even with all te attendant problems faced. Is there a somewhat different perspective that NPHC and PIC/NPC groups have?

"Que Psi Phi 'til the day I die"

[lostu10]

Wow Andre! This group is bumpin'

YITB Sanchez

[33girl]

Originally posted by Wolfman
This question was posd strangely! I would have expected it to posed in a positive fashion. Why would someone NOT want their child to become a legacy?

I think the OP was saying, would you want to put that pressure (even slight) on your child to join your org. Also, when you're in a group you do know some things about the chapters and you might not want your child to be in that chapter...i.e. if I know a chapter is full of very snobby and materialistic girls (and we all have some) would I want my daughter to be in that chapter of ASA? No.

There are some instances though where the pressure on the child to join the legacy org is tremendous and has very little to do with what is good for the child....it's all about carrying on the legacy...kind of like a child being forced to go into the family business even if they want to do something totally different.

I hope the future 33kids (if such a thing comes to pass, LOL) do whatever makes them happy, whether it's being a member of my sorority, in another sorority, or not Greek at all.

[ladygreek]

Originally posted by Wolfman
This question was posd strangely! I would have expected it to posed in a positive fashion. Why would someone NOT want their child to become a legacy? Of course, the decision belongs wholly to the child but my take is this: I understand the problem with legacies being one of "peer pressure" and lack of fit in some chapters but what about the meaning of why someone not only pledges but remains active and committed to your organzation? Fraternitie embody certain ideals and values and,as one grows as a human being, these things grow in importance. I have brothers in my graduate chapter who bring their sons to service events and other social functions. These boys see what the Fraternity is really all about. I've talked to some sons of Ques(Omegas) who didn't become members but still respect the Fratenity and hold it in great honour because of the example set before them. It's a way of life not just a fleeting two or three years of "partying and carousing" that makes this life so attractive, even with all te attendant problems faced. Is there a somewhat different perspective that NPHC and PIC/NPC groups have?

"Que Psi Phi 'til the day I die"

Does Omega have an automatic legacy admission clause?

[DeltaEtaKP]

I would love for my daughter (if I have one) to join my sorority, so I would have someone to share that with. However, I will not put pressure on her to join my organization, but she will be exposed to it. I think though that just by joining a GLO, we will have something in common. I find now, when I talk to my friends from high school, I really enjoy talking to my friends that are in GLO's about the way they do things, what they get out of it, etc... Even though they are in other organizations, we do have a common bond of being Greek.
Also, I would probably want my sons to join the fraternity that I hang out with the most (that is unless their father is in a different fraternity...) because I see what a positive impact it has on the lives of its members.

[AXiDTrish]

After I joined Alpha Xi my sister came to college with me. She did NOT want to leave high school let alone be Greek, but a roommate of mine encouraged her to go through Recruitment. On move in day....she and my parents came to my room where she preceeded to cry because she didn't want to be in college. I called a sister to sit with her while I walked my parents out and without Rachel knowing Buckley from Eve she just bawled in her arms for a half hour. Mind you we were breaking every NPC pre-recruitment rule out there, but she was my sister for Pete's sake! =)

She did join Alpha Xi (Amen she cut the wrong group for her second Pref! Devine intervention there!!), but to be honest I would have been heartbroken had she gone somewhere else. She even called my mother to say how much she loved Tri-Delta (had to give you kudos girls b/c my sister is awesome!) In the end we have great memories of our collegiate days together.

Our other sister doesn't want anything to do with our sorority....just because we are in it. We cannot figure that one out! If she did choose another chapter to join....I wouldn't be quite as heartbroken, but it would still hurt!

[TxGirl]

First - go carnation with 9 daughters! Alas, I'm stuck with only a couple boys, but have hope in a niece.

I think if I had a daughter that it would be impossible for me not to put pressure on her as I work so much with my organization and she would see how much it means to me. I think it would be more disappointing to me to have her go to a university without and Alpha Xi Delta chapter and pledge somewhere else because then she never had the chance to see if it was for her. I honestly don't know if I could resist putting pressure on her to join Alpha Xi Delta or putting pressure on the chapter to pledge her. One of the most special memories I have with my mother was when she was initiated into my chapter as an alumnae initiate. Because Alpha Xi Delta means so much to me it is another bond we share as mother and daughter.

Of course as I don't think I'm going to have anymore children (although accidents have been known to happen ) I realize that I have hundreds of daughters in the collegiate women that I work with - they are the daughters of my heart - and how wonderful - they're all already Alpha Xi's!!!

My two cousins are in different sororities - Kappa and Alpha Phi. The older hated it and suspended her membership after a year the younger loved it and was a very active member of her chapter.

On the frat front, my cousin was a Sig Ep that was closed for hazing after he graduated. I hope by the time my boys are ready for recruitment, fraternities (and sororities for that matter) have realized that hazing doesn't get you anything but gone.

As for my niece, I've got 13 years to work on my her. I think it's time for her to start learning door songs!

[TXADPi]

It seems to me that legacies can get a little out of hand sometimes. My big is a 3rd generation ADPi and was released from all other sororities quite early. Her little sister will too when she goes through recruitment this next year. There was a girl in a friend of mine's recruitment group who was a 4th generation legacy but because the oldest sororities on campus have more legacies than quota coming in some years, they have to release some of them, and this girl just happened to be one they didn't like . So this poor girl not only felt like she let down her entire family, but she had nowhere else to go.

I realize that I might just not know what it feels like to have the legacy, but I would honestly be a little upset with my mom is she had practically forced me to join her GLO and not let me find for myself what she found. I think for the most part they were just so thrilled I decided to go greek, where I ended up wasn't the biggest issue. But then, that may come from that fact that I have a family member in half the NPC sororities on campus. When I have a daughter I would love for her to be an ADPi here, but who knows what the chapter will be like then or if she fits into it. I want her to be happy, whatever GLO she may join or even if she just wants to be a GDI.