going back to a cheater?

CUGreekgirl · #1 07-14-2004, 10:36 PM

So has anybody ever went back to a guy or girl who has cheated on them and things have worked out?

theres guy I talked to/flirted with for about a month and then dated/screwed for another month. At the end of May, while I was gone for the weekend, he ran into his ex girlfriend who he hadn't seen in 6 mnths and ended up hooking up with her. He broke it off with me as soon as I got back in town.

Well, now its a month and a half later and he's IMing me again. We're not in the same town right now but we will be as soon as I go back to college.

SO do you believe "once a cheater, always a cheater" or can a guy change?

I guess I'm giving a little more leniency than I normally would a guy, b/c it was his ex he cheated on me with.

James · #2 07-14-2004, 10:41 PM

Did you even have a verbal committment? A month is not a long time to be dating.

ITs not so much, once a cheater always a cheater. Its more once they cheat on you they will likely do it again.

Why? Because those circumstances will often come up again, or something similar and they got away with it already.

swissmiss04 · #3 07-14-2004, 11:10 PM

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Originally posted by James
Did you even have a verbal committment? A month is not a long time to be dating.

ITs not so much, once a cheater always a cheater. Its more once they cheat on you they will likely do it again.

Why? Because those circumstances will often come up again, or something similar and they got away with it already.

I'm with him on this one! I mean, a month? Geez! It's not like he had time to get bored, and if he lacks the grapes to end the relationship b/c he's not happy, then he is not worth the time. If you let him screw around w/ you, he will. You'll be his "on da side" girl if this continues. So don't let it.

Rudey · #4 07-14-2004, 11:54 PM

I'd just like to say guys do the screwing, banging, hitting, etc. Girls get screwed, banged, hit, etc.

-Rudey
--Thanks.

CUGreekgirl · #5 07-15-2004, 12:19 AM

Yes, we had a verbal commitment. On our 2nd date he asked me to be his girlfriend. We pretty much spent every day together from then on.

valkyrie · #6 07-15-2004, 12:40 AM

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Originally posted by CUGreekgirl
Yes, we had a verbal commitment. On our 2nd date he asked me to be his girlfriend. We pretty much spent every day together from then on.

He sounds like trouble, the guy who will say anything to get some. I'd be creeped out by someone who asked me to be his girlfriend on the second date, but that's just me.

labeachgrl · #7 07-15-2004, 12:54 AM

I would date him, but wouldn't ever be exclusive with him. It doesn't seem like his deal. You're young, have fun, don't get serious with him.

winneythepooh7 · #8 07-15-2004, 08:15 AM

if you want to have fun, date him. if you want to settle down, it won't be with him.

Kevin · #9 07-15-2004, 10:41 AM

The saying that comes to mind is "There are other fish in the sea".

I don't know about "Once a cheater, always a cheater". But, it does look like he doesn't take monogomous relationships seriously at this time in his life. Unless he's made a big decision to change, don't expect anything earth-shakingly different.

winneythepooh7 · #10 07-15-2004, 11:34 AM

actually this sounds just like a guy one of my friends was recently seeing. he told her flat out that he just got out of a long-term thing so he didn't want anything except fun. he im's her all the time too, doesn't really go out with her anywhere but will call her on a Fri or Sat nite when she is out and ask her to "stop by on her way home". if someone is just looking for a sexual relationship they are not gonna change for you. i agree that he is not at the point in his life where he is looking to settle down.