how soon is too soon?

tunatartare · #1 08-05-2005, 12:05 AM

Question for anyone who's ever been in a relationship: how long do you think you should be together before you meet his/her parents? If you're in a relationship now, how long did you wait before meeting your SO's parents?

bcdphie · #2 08-05-2005, 01:46 AM

My fiance met my parents before we started dating. I met my fiance's parents on our first date - like everything in relationships I think it's a personal choice.

Both my fiance and I are very family oriented and very close to our parents - we didn't think twice about it when we met each other's parents so early on in the relationship or even before the relationship began.

omegamcgee · #3 08-05-2005, 09:25 AM

I think anytime is fine, it's pretty much a personal choice. As long as it doesn't freak him out, go for it!

I used to not understand the "meeting the parents" thing. I'm from a really small town, and we all grew up together, so we knew each other's parents. But then I went to college. Wow. Parents can be scary...

Buttonz · #4 08-05-2005, 02:54 PM

He met my mom the morning after he asked me out when she found us outside on my stoop still talking. I met his parents about 2, 2 1/2 weeks later at dinner for Father's Day.

AKA_Monet · #5 08-05-2005, 05:13 PM

Matter of preference...

My husband met my parents on our first physical meeting on our first date before we were married... I think he handled himself quite well...

Before I was married, I had a bad habit of picking lusers, so if I did not want to be used, I'd have the guys meet my parents. If the guy acted out of sorts with my folks, they would let me know immediately and I would get pulled out of getting into a nasty situation...

I did not meet my husband's folks after we had our official JP ceremony. I met his dad on the way to our religious marriage ceremony and his mom the day before the ceremony...

So much for how soon is too soon...

And we are past the 2 year mark!!! Yay!!!

AGDee · #6 08-07-2005, 12:33 AM

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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Matter of preference...

Before I was married, I had a bad habit of picking lusers, so if I did not want to be used, I'd have the guys meet my parents. If the guy acted out of sorts with my folks, they would let me know immediately and I would get pulled out of getting into a nasty situation...

I use my dog to judge character now. Dogs are excellent judges of humans. If she doesn't like him, he's definitely a bad egg.

LeslieAGD · #7 08-07-2005, 09:40 AM

I think my fiance met my parents, informally, within a month. I met his after almost two.

texas*princess · #8 08-07-2005, 11:43 AM

I don't really think there is a set timeframe on when they should meet the parents.

I'm not in a relationship right now, but in my most recent ex-relationship I met his parents before we started dating and he met my parents shortly after we started dating. It wasn't a big deal or anything to be nervous about, just really casual.

I don't think our parents ever met each other... that's a whole other ball game...

SuperSister · #9 08-07-2005, 03:38 PM

My bf was scared of my mother (not my dad, just my mom) for the first several years we were going out. I can't remember how long it was before we met the parents though, I think it was sometime around when the movie "Meet The Parents" came out because I remember joking about it.

Lady Pi Phi · #10 08-07-2005, 07:05 PM

I don't think you can have a timeframe on things like this.

I actually just got back from meeting my new boyfriends parents. Actually it was the WHOLE family. I joined him at a family reunion. It was absolutely terrifying, yet exciting and rewarding all at the same time.

ETA: We've been together almost 2 months.

Munchkin03 · #11 08-07-2005, 08:00 PM

Like most people have said, there's no reason to put a timeframe on something like this--it depends on the individual circumstances of the couple in question. If you and your SO live in the same city as your parents, chances are they'll meet much earlier than if everyone lives in different cities. Some parents don't want to meet every person you're casually dating, and would rather wait until things get remotely serious.

AKA_Monet · #12 08-10-2005, 09:05 PM

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Originally posted by Munchkin03
Like most people have said, there's no reason to put a timeframe on something like this--it depends on the individual circumstances of the couple in question. If you and your SO live in the same city as your parents, chances are they'll meet much earlier than if everyone lives in different cities. Some parents don't want to meet every person you're casually dating, and would rather wait until things get remotely serious.

You know that's funny because, when my husband met my folks, all of us were in Vega$... And I told my mom that "this guy" and I will have a "dinner date" at PF Chang's in the Aladdin. Anyhoo, she proceeded to tell ALL her little Vega$ friends to met her and my dad at PF Chang's and when my "now husband" and I sat down to eat, all my mom's friends proceeded to walk down and greeted my "now husband"...

Nonetheless, I couldn't imagine the horror. But he handled it quite well. That's part of the reason why I married him.

And I also felt sorry for him having to face all these folks who knew me as a kid...

Interestingly, he seems to like meeting all the folks in my "family arena"...

I have yet to meet all the folks in his "family arena"...

Rio_Kohitsuji · #13 08-10-2005, 11:21 PM

I met his in roughly a month, and he met mine in about 2 weeks.