Great Sex Fiasco of 2005

AlphaGamDiva · #1 05-27-2005, 12:22 AM

help!!!

parents just recently found out that my v-card has been cashed in. this is traumatizing. remember, kids, that i come from a strict Southern Baptist household.....sex, drugs, and rock and roll are no-no's........i've kept this lil info a secret for a while now, but the cat is out of the bag, so to speak, and it's been hell. my mom still has that 1950s health class mentality of:

"if you have pre-marital sex, you'll end up looking like this: <insert picture of female with some nastay STD/big ol' pregnant belly and government cheese>"

she wouldn't even drink after me the other day.

and dad was devastated. the boy is not thrilled this info came out on his watch, but what can ya do?

did i mention i'm 23? yeah, 23 years old, but in dog years i'm only 3....apparently that's what they go by.

anyone have advice as to how to smooth all this out without being a total bitch "i'm an adult i do what i want"? b/c i'm at a loss.......

#2 05-27-2005, 12:43 AM

Honestly I really don't think there's anything you can do or say to smooth this out, because I highly doubt your parents will stop believing what they do.

I say you should just grow a spine and not give a rat's ass what they think because what's done is done. What's that saying again? You can't teach an old dog new tricks.

I mean seriously, what are you going to do to try to appease them? Give up sex until you're married? Mon, you know that won't happen.

Just apologize for being a huge disappointment to them and move on.

Peaches-n-Cream · #3 05-27-2005, 12:47 AM

How did they find out?

I'm sitting back because this will be a good story.

sugar and spice · #4 05-27-2005, 12:53 AM

I ditto both of the posts above.

UlChiOCutie26 · #5 05-27-2005, 08:17 AM

I am surprised that your Mom and Dad let you join a sorority. I know that some of the girls that came from strict religious homes in Chi O (southern baptist being a big religion here in KY and Catholicism) and their parents were like, "no, the devil is in that 'club'." "you cant join" yadda, yadda....

They joined anyway

aephi alum · #6 05-27-2005, 09:54 AM

I've been down this road - I have very conservative Catholic parents, and they were none too thrilled when I moved in with my then-fiance.

There's not a whole lot you can do other than say "I'm an adult, I'll do what I want." You are an adult, and it's time your parents accepted that. They may not agree with every decision you make, but they need to acknowledge that you have the right to make your own decisions. It's your life, not theirs.

Rio_Kohitsuji · #7 05-27-2005, 12:59 PM

*waiting on story*

33girl · #8 05-27-2005, 01:01 PM

"But Mom and Dad, I thought if it took under 5 minutes it didn't count."

Not saying that was the case

but it is a snappy excuse.

CutiePie2000 · #9 05-27-2005, 01:10 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by AlphaGamDiva
she wouldn't even drink after me the other day.

I have no idea what this means? Translation anyone?

starang21 · #10 05-27-2005, 01:15 PM

this is where you tell them you're a grown ass woman

AlphaFrog · #11 05-27-2005, 01:16 PM

I guess her mom is not only conservative, but misinformed and thinks you can get an STD by drinking from the same glass as someone.

Lady Pi Phi · #12 05-27-2005, 01:58 PM

If her parents are strict southern Baptist, then in their eyes, she did do something wrong. (I'm not saying that it is, but I'm pretty sure that's how her parents are feeling)

The only thing you can do is wait. Give them some time and they will hopefully come around.

valkyrie · #13 05-27-2005, 02:02 PM

1. Get thee to a nunnery.
2. Move at least 1000 miles away.
3. Agree to disagree and try not to discuss it.
4. Marry the first guy you see on the street and pop out a kid so they'll think you're an honest woman, finally.

AlphaGamDiva · #14 05-27-2005, 03:06 PM

valkyrie....i was waiting on your response the most.

lady pi phi is right, it is SO wrong in their eyes, but the "personal decision" card, the "adult" card, etc. have been played. and it sucks b/c everytime i look at my mom, i see her calling me her slutty child in her sunday school class and everyone having a group prayer about my sexual prowess.

sad/scary, but true. well, true unless she's too embarrassed to even ask for prayer for my tainted soul.

and cream.....she found out by reading my journal.....same thing she did when i was 15. i gotta quit writing this isht down.

amycat412 · #15 05-27-2005, 03:13 PM

She should not be reading your journal. You are an adult.

Do you live at home? Move out.