divorced needs advice...

kirene · #1 07-31-2007, 08:37 PM

I pledged with a sorority years ago and my then fiance made me quit...I married...had 2 kids and am now divorced. I'm attending the same school in August. My question is....will they let me back in the house if I'm divorced and have kids? I'm one of those that seriously fell of the face of the earth. I feel horrible about the whole deal. And I really miss being involved!!! Please tell me what you think. I'm 26 and I'm just now standing up for myself...

NutBrnHair · #2 07-31-2007, 08:40 PM

Honestly, at this stage, if I were you, I'd pursue other avenues. There are many ways to get involved in a community (university or otherwise). Focus on your kids and yourself.

sageofages · #3 07-31-2007, 09:07 PM

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Originally Posted by kirene

I pledged with a sorority years ago and my then fiance made me quit...I married...had 2 kids and am now divorced. I'm attending the same school in August. My question is....will they let me back in the house if I'm divorced and have kids? I'm one of those that seriously fell of the face of the earth. I feel horrible about the whole deal. And I really miss being involved!!! Please tell me what you think. I'm 26 and I'm just now standing up for myself...

I think it really depends on the nature of your school, whether you were initiated, your "free time" etc.

I was a collegiate member with a small child as a single parent. At the time, I was the same age as the rest of my chapter sisters. It was hard at times, but with effort, we made it work.

If you would be so much older than the rest of the chapter, will you really be able to participate in a manner that would be meaningful to you and the chapter. Will you be able to bear the expense? Are any of the current collegiate members even your contemporaries?

My thinking is right now your life is traveling a different road, but that is only for you to honestly decide. I sense you want the belonging again and perhaps looking to recapture what you feel was taken from you. There are so many ways to belong and move ahead, not back.

I wish you the best on this journey.

Tom Earp · #4 07-31-2007, 09:18 PM

In the words of my 4 th grade teacher, Ms. Cortwight, " The dumbest question is the one you do not ask".

Approach the Sorority, meet some of the ladies and ask them what they think. If yes fine, Okay, if not, well, look for other avenues as was suggested.

As you know, being a Greek can take time and time is your most precious commodity with two kids!

Just check it out and see what happens.

Good luck!

kirene · #5 07-31-2007, 09:26 PM

Thanks for the replies...it actually helps to get some outside thoughts on this.

Does anyone know if you have to be a graduate to join an alum chapter? I guess I really need to ask someone from my past chapter. But it still doesn't hurt to see what you have to say. At least I can have all my questions ready...

UGAalum94 · #6 07-31-2007, 09:30 PM

What group are you a member of?

Tom Earp · #7 07-31-2007, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaGamUGAAlum

What group are you a member of?

Sorry, not really a proper question is it?

At least at this point in time.

adpiucf · #8 07-31-2007, 11:14 PM

If you left your chapter following your initiation because you dropped out of school, then you are considered an alumna (so long as you didn't owe the chapter any money before you left).

Contact your national HQ to confirm that you are listed as a member in good standing.

From there, you may join the local alumnae association, serve as a collegiate chapter adviser, etc., but you may not be part of the collegiate chapter itself.

Good luck and congrats on "dropping back into school." Best of luck with school and your career!!!