Dead Babies getting birth certificates

[Rudey]

There was no reason to erase this thread. It violated no rule or the Terms of Service. You may not like a topic, but that doesn't give you the right to erase it so don't open this thread if you don't like adult discussions.

Women usually have miscarriages and stuff like this happens. It's nature. It's reality. But only in America, do the women feel the need to celebrate a life that never existed.

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/05/22/us/22stillbirth.html

Last summer, three weeks before her due date, Sari Edber delivered a stillborn son, Jacob. “He was 5 pounds and 19 inches, absolutely beautiful, with my olive complexion, my husband’s curly hair, long fingers and toes, chubby cheeks and a perfect button nose,” she said. So Ms. Edber joined with others who had experienced stillbirth to push California legislators to pass a bill allowing parents to receive a certificate of birth resulting in stillbirth.

-Rudey
--OOOOH MY POOOR BABIIIIIIES!

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by Rudey

There was no reason to erase this thread. It violated no rule or the Terms of Service. You may not like a topic, but that doesn't give you the right to erase it so don't open this thread if you don't like adult discussions.

Women usually have miscarriages and stuff like this happens. It's nature. It's reality. But only in America, do the women feel the need to celebrate a life that never existed.

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/05/22/us/22stillbirth.html

Last summer, three weeks before her due date, Sari Edber delivered a stillborn son, Jacob. “He was 5 pounds and 19 inches, absolutely beautiful, with my olive complexion, my husband’s curly hair, long fingers and toes, chubby cheeks and a perfect button nose,” she said. So Ms. Edber joined with others who had experienced stillbirth to push California legislators to pass a bill allowing parents to receive a certificate of birth resulting in stillbirth.

-Rudey
--OOOOH MY POOOR BABIIIIIIES!

I heard about this awhile ago...it raises a whole lot of issues about even declaring it life or non life...defining what 'birth' is.

[James]

I think it was my joke that got the thread erased. So I apologize for its inappropriate placement.

Originally Posted by Rudey

There was no reason to erase this thread. It violated no rule or the Terms of Service. You may not like a topic, but that doesn't give you the right to erase it so don't open this thread if you don't like adult discussions.

Women usually have miscarriages and stuff like this happens. It's nature. It's reality. But only in America, do the women feel the need to celebrate a life that never existed.

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/05/22/us/22stillbirth.html

Last summer, three weeks before her due date, Sari Edber delivered a stillborn son, Jacob. “He was 5 pounds and 19 inches, absolutely beautiful, with my olive complexion, my husband’s curly hair, long fingers and toes, chubby cheeks and a perfect button nose,” she said. So Ms. Edber joined with others who had experienced stillbirth to push California legislators to pass a bill allowing parents to receive a certificate of birth resulting in stillbirth.

-Rudey
--OOOOH MY POOOR BABIIIIIIES!

[Rudey]

Originally Posted by James

I think it was my joke that got the thread erased. So I apologize for its inappropriate placement.

Apologies accepted. We can joke about that sort of thing in another forum...like Academics. Lets stay serious here folks.

-Rudey

[JWithers]

I'm not sure it's a new thing. My mom had two stillbirths in the early 60's and both were issued birth certificates.

One was delivered at 7 months, one was full-term, but stillborn. Maybe it depends on the state??

I know when I had a miscarriage, the medical forms called my baby "products of conception". Could that be any colder? At least give me 'fetus' or something that sounds human.

[Rudey]

Originally Posted by JWithers

I'm not sure it's a new thing. My mom had two stillbirths in the early 60's and both were issued birth certificates.

One was delivered at 7 months, one was full-term, but stillborn. Maybe it depends on the state??

I know when I had a miscarriage, the medical forms called my baby "products of conception". Could that be any colder? At least give me 'fetus' or something that sounds human.

Well your moms case sounds warmer but do you refer to them as your dead siblings? To me it doesn't make sense to try and humanize it but I don't know. These are our opinions. Plus I also have heard most women have miscarriages so going around referring to them as your dead babies is even stranger than if it was a stillborn.

-Rudey

[ISUKappa]

Originally Posted by Rudey

Plus I also have heard most women have miscarriages so going around referring to them as your dead babies is even stranger than if it was a stillborn.

I believe the most commonly used number is 1 in 4, but that does not figure in those women who miscarry before they even know they're pregnant. The number could be as high as 1 in 2 with those.

I personally don't call my miscarriages "my dead babies" but for my son's birth (and any subsequent children I have, I assume) I had to list the number of pregnancies and number of live births resulting from those pregnancies. So someone, somewhere, wanted that information.

Also, miscarriages are losses that happen prior to 20 weeks. Anything past that point is medically considered a pre-term loss.

[JWithers]

Originally Posted by Rudey

Well your moms case sounds warmer but do you refer to them as your dead siblings? To me it doesn't make sense to try and humanize it but I don't know. These are our opinions. Plus I also have heard most women have miscarriages so going around referring to them as your dead babies is even stranger than if it was a stillborn.

-Rudey

I refer to mine as 'the baby we lost'. Even if you were only a few months along, those children become very real to you. You think of names, make plans, feel them kick. What else would you call them? They are babies who are now dead. Seems a good name. I have a hard time with 'dead' though. It kind of sticks in my throat.

And yes, we always called them our brother and sister. They were buried, too. They looked like 'real' babies and everything and had names. We loved them even if they weren't 'human' by your standards. They were a part of our family.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by JWithers

I'm not sure it's a new thing. My mom had two stillbirths in the early 60's and both were issued birth certificates.

One was delivered at 7 months, one was full-term, but stillborn. Maybe it depends on the state??

I know when I had a miscarriage, the medical forms called my baby "products of conception". Could that be any colder? At least give me 'fetus' or something that sounds human.

ok..I remember why it caused a debate...

article:

http://www.heraldtribune.com/apps/pb...30305/-1/RSS01

Last portion:

"... some have questioned whether the bill promotes the pro-life cause, but supporters say stillbirth cannot be linked to the abortion debate because it involves no voluntary termination. Florida's pro-choice groups haven't taken a position"