Best Advice You Ever Received (Or Have to Give)

lovehaiku84 · #1 05-18-2007, 11:29 AM

Ladies,

What is the best advice that you ever got (as you went out into the world after high school/college or have to give to young ladies trying to make their way in the world? I am a new college graduate (May 2006) and I have learned so much in this past year. Some of it I think is stuff that you can only truly learn through experience, but there are also some things that I think can and should be passed on. My little cousin will be transferring to my alma mater next year (BTW I'm SO excited for her!) and I try to share as much useful information with her as possible because I wish someone would have shared it with me, and when she graduates I'll continue to do the same thing. SO, I'm thisclose to starting to ramble so I'll just open it up for discussion. I hope to "hear" a lot of good responses.

Peace.

SummerChild · #2 05-18-2007, 11:59 PM

It's a cliche but
"you can do anything that you put your mind to."

I heard this every time that I talked to my father about wanting to do anything in life...from being president to just anything or having anything - the entire time that I was growing up it was "Dear, you can do anything that you put your mind to" after he listened to whatever my goal was that I was telling him about.

It has helped me b/c after someone tells you that and basically encourages you from the time that you are a child until you are an adult, you begin to believe it.

So that's the advice that I got, that I will pass on to my kids one day in the same way that I was passed this information, and, although it's cliche, I would pass it on to the young women. It really is the very essence of believing in one's self and perservering through (inevitable) life obstacles, keeping it moving and making it happen...even when someone else may not believe in your dream, whatever that dream may be.

SC

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Originally Posted by lovehaiku84

Ladies,

What is the best advice that you ever got (as you went out into the world after high school/college or have to give to young ladies trying to make their way in the world? I am a new college graduate (May 2006) and I have learned so much in this past year. Some of it I think is stuff that you can only truly learn through experience, but there are also some things that I think can and should be passed on. My little cousin will be transferring to my alma mater next year (BTW I'm SO excited for her!) and I try to share as much useful information with her as possible because I wish someone would have shared it with me, and when she graduates I'll continue to do the same thing. SO, I'm thisclose to starting to ramble so I'll just open it up for discussion. I hope to "hear" a lot of good responses.

Peace.

luv4denzel · #3 05-19-2007, 02:12 PM

The best advice I've ever received is the advice I got from my Beloved, late mother. I used to have her advice as my signature, but I have since changed it. I also give this same advice to my sons. Mama always told me, "Nothing beats a failure but a try." I live by that. I was very sick during my senior year in high school, and was told I wouldn't be able to attend college. I was convinced that I would never get a chance to go to college, and my mother gave me that advice.

Whatever you choose to do in life, whatever goals you want to achieve--before you say that you can't do it, remember that you'll never know if you can do it or not unless you try, hence, nothing beats a failure but a try.....

prettybreak1908 · #4 05-19-2007, 06:55 PM

The best advice that I have ever recieved was from my mother. I was having a very hard time.....I was getting overwhelmed with everything that was happening with school. I was pushing myself very hard but I felt like I was having the worst of luck. This is what she said......

"When the good Lord is for you there is nothing that the devil can do against you!" -My Mommy

ladeia · #5 05-21-2007, 03:05 PM

The person in the mirror is the one the LOVES you the most......

mariet58 · #6 05-21-2007, 03:28 PM

My mother has been a wonderful source of good advice:

1. Keep your eye and ears open and your mouth shut.
2. Get good grades, go to college, and get a good job. I would add create a business for yourself and your family.

My closest friend expressed the following sayings which has benefitted me.

1. Look for the silver lining in everything.
2. When the student is ready, the teachers are there.

Just my .08 cents.

BlessedOne04 · #7 05-30-2007, 10:32 PM

My advice is to not get so caught up in your own life that you don't have time to hear about the lives of those who you care about. I say that because often times we (and I have been guilty of this recently!) get caught in our own situations that we don't have time to hear what our mothers, sisters, nephews, brothers etc have going on. Listen now because you may not have that opportunity later.

My mom always told me "Shoulda, coulda wouldas don't count in this world."

Grace&Mercy · #8 05-31-2007, 01:05 PM

I am so blessed to have been raised with a common-sense, head-on-her-shoulders, strength-filled Black mother. I was her and my dad's first born and they found out that I had hearing loss. They were determined to raise me as a strong, confident woman. Add to that the wonderful women who have been my "aunties" and have held me up, I have SO MANY good words. Here's one for starters:

Dad:
I was talking to him about whether or not I should think about going to some really big, prestigious schools in order to further my education. He said "I have seen people come out of no-name schools that are brilliant, and Ivy League graduates that shame their schools. It is about YOU. Do NOT be intimidated by these people or their names, it means nothing. Just become the BEST at what you do and you will be fine." Coming from someone who is an acclaimed professor/researcher at a prestigious school, it was really saying something to me. Over the years in grad school, this has helped me so much.

more to come later...

yangstar · #9 06-01-2007, 05:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Grace&Mercy

I am so blessed to have been raised with a common-sense, head-on-her-shoulders, strength-filled Black mother. I was her and my dad's first born and they found out that I had hearing loss. They were determined to raise me as a strong, confident woman. Add to that the wonderful women who have been my "aunties" and have held me up, I have SO MANY good words. Here's one for starters:

Dad:
I was talking to him about whether or not I should think about going to some really big, prestigious schools in order to further my education. He said "I have seen people come out of no-name schools that are brilliant, and Ivy League graduates that shame their schools. It is about YOU. Do NOT be intimidated by these people or their names, it means nothing. Just become the BEST at what you do and you will be fine." Coming from someone who is an acclaimed professor/researcher at a prestigious school, it was really saying something to me. Over the years in grad school, this has helped me so much.

more to come later...

So true. Life is what you make of it, it's not all about what school you come from. Think of how many college students there are out there, bottom line is if you give it your best then that's all that matters. :]

SKEEphistAKAte · #10 06-03-2007, 03:19 PM

"Never make someone your priority when you are only their option"...I still struggle with this. But I'm trying.