Question about the VST training...

[susan314]

Sigh...I've learned of a possible conflict with the Pittsburgh training. Looking for some insight from those of you who might have a better idea how the agenda is shaping up...

(First, the conflict - my husband's childhood friend passed away in a car accident at the beginning of February. He had a daughter. My husband and his friends decided to host a memorial golf tournament to raise money for an education fund for her - to be held on Brian's birthday. My husband is the primary organizer of the event and wanted me to assist with things that day - checking golfers in, helping to oversee the dinner afterwards, etc. Since the guys had been talking about it being "on Brian's birthday," I just realized that the date of the event is June 30th - the Saturday of TLC weekend for advisors in Pittsburgh.)

I'm trying to figure out some sort of compromise - I don't want to miss Pittsburgh (looking forward to meeting everyone, and also of course as a new CA I need all the training I can get ). But, I also know how much my husband was counting on me to be at this tournament to help, and how much it means to him.

I believe the training is scheduled for 6/28 through 7/1...would it be terrible to go for only half the weekend, returning home for the tournament on 6/30? Without a copy of the agenda, I don't know what parts I'd miss. Is there enough business to be covered on Thursday/Friday where I'd still get some benefit out of the trip? (Not as much benefit as making the whole weekend, of course, but again...I'm desperately trying to figure out a compromise!) I'm not concerned about the actual travel part - I was planning to drive to Pittsburgh anyhow. (The drive from Toledo to Pittsburgh isn't bad) But I wasn't certain whether actual training would occur on Friday, or if we were getting down to the nitty gritty on Saturday? If I miss Saturday/Sunday, am I going to be missing the bulk of the information?

Any suggestions? I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place here. I know my husband would be a trooper if I told him no way, no how...I absolutely have to go to Pittsburgh no matter what. But I also know how much this event means to him and how hard he took his friend's death - I'm sure that (even though he'll never admit it, being a guy) aside from needing my time to do tasks at the event, he needs my emotional/moral support too.

[AGDee]

I PMd you...

[GtownGirl98]

I don't know what the pm said but... a few options.

A. You skip this year and just attend Convention next year, with him understanding that NOTHING will stop you from attending convention.
B. You promise to help get everything organized for that day and find someone to fill in for you on Saturday.
C. You just tell him this is my thing, that is your thing.
D. You stay with him and help him through this time.

I like all but C. Sorry, I can't help more, I'll keep you in my prayers.

[greeklawgirl]

Susan, check your email. There should be something in there today...if you didn't receive it, PM me your email address and I'll forward it to you.

[susan314]

Originally Posted by greeklawgirl

Susan, check your email. There should be something in there today...if you didn't receive it, PM me your email address and I'll forward it to you.

Thanks so much for the heads up - I did receive the e-mail!

I'm encouraged by the tentative agenda on the memo - looks like all the training specific to Alpha Gam and the new VST structure will be on Friday. Saturday is general leadership development concluding with a group dinner.

Ordinarily, I'd welcome the opportunity for leadership development ideas and a chance to mingle with everyone at dinner. But, in light of my conflict, sounds like at least the agenda is shaping up where I'd be able to make all the critical Alpha Gam specific training.

Thanks again for your input ladies!

[AGDLynn]

Looks like fun and informative!