Deltas I truly need ya'll help

[ColorfulCre8ion]

Greetings my fellow Sorors and SistuhGreeks!

I have a huge dilemma and I am seeking advice and/or encouragement. I recently crossed into Delta Land Spring of 2006. Due to the nature of this post I will keep my chapter and line name secretive (all those wanting to know can send me a PM.) Anyway, I was so excited that my dream was finally a reality but little did i know that things would drastically change.

About 4 months ago I came 'out' to my sands. And not like OWT with the Bruhs but 'out' about me being a lesbian. Instead of support that I expected my sands completely turned on me, ridicule me, told me I was going to hell and a host of other mean things. Lately they have been ignoring me, calling me names, excluding me from activities, having 'get togethers' without my acknowledgement, mean muggin my girlfriend when she walks on campus and a list of other cruel actions.

I went to our advisor and she told me "it takes time for people to adjust to that, give it time and things will be normal" Well it's been four months and things are worse! I went back to our advisor recently and she told me that my sands are doing mean things to me in order to uphold the image of Delta.

I tried explaining to my Sands that they are like family to me and that I already had to deal with this mistreatment from my biological family. I also told them that my check to Delta is just as good as there's. I deserve to be a Delta and I cannot choose my sexuality just as much as I can choose to be black.

So, I am wondering what is my next step? Should I contact HQ? I can't take this much longer. I am now known on my campus as 'THE GAY DELTA.' It has become the joke in pro-shows and all over the yard. Its 2007, dammit and I would assume that people would be more excepting of this by now.

I have cried many nights over this, stressed myself to the point where I throw up and don't even eat. Please somebody tell me what to do. PM if you need. Thanks!!

~Yours Truly~
'ColorfulCre8ions'

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by ColorfulCre8ion

So, I am wondering what is my next step? Should I contact HQ? I can't take this much longer. I am now known on my campus as 'THE GAY DELTA.' It has become the joke in pro-shows and all over the yard. Its 2007, dammit and I would assume that people would be more excepting of this by now.

Such is life. Homosexuality still isn't accepted in all walks of life.

You just crossed into this chapter which probably means you don't know your chapter that well and you probably don't even know your line sisters that well (depending).

What do you think NHQ would be able to do besides make you "The Gay Delta Who Dropped Dime?"

My only advice would be make contacting a regional or national officer a last resort.

[Senusret I]

Any other time this would be spam or shameless self-promotion.....

Okay, so it is.

www.oldgoldsoul.com, go there, buy a book called LAZARUS about a gay dude who pledges a fraternity.

Yeah, I wrote it, so what? LOL

But on the real, that's a tough situation and I really don't have any advice other than to continue being yourself and continue striving toward a sisterly resolution.

OH YEAH, and I am going to PM you the address of an LGBT NPHC yahoo group that may be able to provide some support.

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Any other time this would be spam or shameless self-promotion.....

Okay, so it is.

www.oldgoldsoul.com, go there, buy a book called LAZARUS about a gay dude who pledges a fraternity.

Yeah, I wrote it, so what? LOL

But on the real, that's a tough situation and I really don't have any advice other than to continue being yourself and continue striving toward a sisterly resolution.

OH YEAH, and I am going to PM you the address of an LGBT NPHC yahoo group that may be able to provide some support.

This is more of self-promotion tie in! And that is all right with me.

Soror, I wish you well as you handle this situation. Continue to love Delta and know that many women face adversity within the sorority, be it their line sisters, prophytes, etc. Also Delta is bigger than just the chapter you are currently a member. Stay true to yourself and don't let them make you act unsisterly towards them.

[ColorfulCre8ion]

Thanks to everyone that responded. But I just feel so helpless. I have two more years left at this campus and I would hate to have to transfer because of this mess. I feel like I am the one being inconvenienced for being who I am and they can get away with being mean and nasty.

[jojapeach]

Originally Posted by CrimsonTide4

Soror, I wish you well as you handle this situation. Continue to love Delta and know that many women face adversity within the sorority, be it their line sisters, prophytes, etc. Also Delta is bigger than just the chapter you are currently a member. Stay true to yourself and don't let them make you act unsisterly towards them.

Co-sign

I wish I could stand by you at your campus because I'm known for being "gay friendly". I know your relationships with your LS's and chapter are a great concern, but this situation sounds like a bigger campus-wide issue because other Greeks are making issue of it. If your student body is not accepting of homosexuality, maybe you'll be the catalyst that challenges others' views and treatment of gay students on your campus and homosexuality in general.
Just maybe....

This thread is so sad and enraging in 2007.

And seriously, buy Senusret's book. It's great literature.

[Infamous12]

Originally Posted by jojapeach

Co-sign

I wish I could stand by you at your campus because I'm known for being "gay friendly". I know your relationships with your LS's and chapter are a great concern, but this situation sounds like a bigger campus-wide issue because other Greeks are making issue of it. If your student body is not accepting of homosexuality, maybe you'll be the catalyst that challenges others' views and treatment of gay students on your campus and homosexuality in general.
Just maybe....

This thread is so sad and enraging in 2007.

And seriously, buy Senusret's book. It's great literature.

Triple-co-sign

It angers me that we as a people can be so caught up in the issue of homosexuality and totally neglect the more pertinent issues facing our society. Sometimes I look at my calendar and truly wonder what year it is..2007 or 1957?


Have you had any contact with any of the GLBT groups on your campus? Perhaps some sort of educational programming is in order. That and aLOT of prayer and meditation.

Check your PM.

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by ColorfulCre8ion

Greetings my fellow Sorors and SistuhGreeks!

I have a huge dilemma and I am seeking advice and/or encouragement. I recently crossed into Delta Land Spring of 2006. Due to the nature of this post I will keep my chapter and line name secretive (all those wanting to know can send me a PM.) Anyway, I was so excited that my dream was finally a reality but little did i know that things would drastically change.

About 4 months ago I came 'out' to my sands. And not like OWT with the Bruhs but 'out' about me being a lesbian. Instead of support that I expected my sands completely turned on me, ridicule me, told me I was going to hell and a host of other mean things. Lately they have been ignoring me, calling me names, excluding me from activities, having 'get togethers' without my acknowledgement, mean muggin my girlfriend when she walks on campus and a list of other cruel actions.

I went to our advisor and she told me "it takes time for people to adjust to that, give it time and things will be normal" Well it's been four months and things are worse! I went back to our advisor recently and she told me that my sands are doing mean things to me in order to uphold the image of Delta.

I tried explaining to my Sands that they are like family to me and that I already had to deal with this mistreatment from my biological family. I also told them that my check to Delta is just as good as there's. I deserve to be a Delta and I cannot choose my sexuality just as much as I can choose to be black.

So, I am wondering what is my next step? Should I contact HQ? I can't take this much longer. I am now known on my campus as 'THE GAY DELTA.' It has become the joke in pro-shows and all over the yard. Its 2007, dammit and I would assume that people would be more excepting of this by now.

I have cried many nights over this, stressed myself to the point where I throw up and don't even eat. Please somebody tell me what to do. PM if you need. Thanks!!

~Yours Truly~
'ColorfulCre8ions'

I am so sorry you are going through this. My honest opinion? I'll PM you that one . Basically, if someone can't accept you for who you are, you don't need them. There are those out there that will accept you for who you are. This is a trying time for you, but you will get through it. Oh and check your PM.

[DSTinguished1]

Wow, this is sad. Like everyone said there is no excuse for their behavior. I currently work for Residence Life so hearing that people are acting like this on a college campus, really disturbs me.

Originally Posted by ColorfulCre8ion

I am now known on my campus as 'THE GAY DELTA.' It has become the joke in pro-shows and all over the yard.

~Yours Truly~
'ColorfulCre8ions'

But what really disturbs me MORE than anything else is the line about you being teased at Pro-shows?!?!?! WTH? What are they saying and doing? Whose pro-show? Like WHAT? This seems sooooo childish for grown folks to be acting like this. I am so sorry this is going on. I would aslo suggest seeking encouragment from some LGBT organization on your campus. Take care Soror!





Where is MamaBuddah?

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by DSTinguished1

Where is MamaBuddah?

MamaBuddha would go to that campus and kick they @$$.

I was looking for her number, but I can't find her card.

[dzdst796]

WOW. Let us not get it twisted there are many people in all the BGLO's that don't have the courage to stand up for themselves and COME OUT OF THE CLOSET. IMO it would not have mattered when she came OUT to them. Also it was her choice. What is the big damn deal anyway? She is who she is.
I personally think that her line sisters are just a bunch of idiots. Her sexuality does not make her any less of a Delta than any of us.

Soror just take care of you and be proud to be the woman that you are and a Delta. They will get over it and if they don't to bad for them.

[MaMaBuddha]

ColorfulCre8ion...

it's been a minute since i've been on greekchat. thanks for pm'ing me.

i really do miss the greekchat, but alas work calls and blocks all websites.

plus i do so much work in the LBGT communities...there are not enough hours in the day.

now....

i am very sorry to hear about what's going on with your chapter. honestly, i don't think contacting the nationals will be able to do much. unfortunately, you can't force people to like or accept your lifestyle. you just asked that they respect you.

this will be a long battle that seems like it will never end; asking people to accept you for who you are and not caring about what goes on in you bedroom. frankly, it is none of their business and i am sure you are an outstanding soror that does her part in the chapter.

transferring would just let them know that they won. so do not let them discourage you. is there a LGBT on campus? talk with them.

there are a few replies that were on the money and then there are a few typical replies that are to be expected.

people feel like you owe them explanations about your sexuality. you don't. heterosexual individuals everyday freely express how they feel and how they like. i can't count how many times i've seen pictures of sexy men on this forum and lord if i post my idea of a sexy women, all hell would break loose. if homosexuals do, it's called forcing it down people's throats and wearing it on your sleeve. people are not use it to. me personally, i make them use to it.

i am also very disappointed that this happens to be a joke in the probate shows. i am even more disappointed that your LS's don't have your back. it's childish and ridiculous. makes me wonder what backward ass school allows this to happen. maybe you do need to transferr, to a more diverse school.

last but not least, you did post in this forum and there are more seasoned sorors on here. don't expect all soror's to understand. it's all constructive criticism. take it put it under your hat, but don't let it discourage you.

there are several greeks in the life from all Divine 9. you would so surprised. i will send you a link to a few websites that cater to us. you will be surprise who you meet and the positions they hold in their respective fraternities and sororities.

Senusret I, *muah*

i would definitely kick behind on that campus...you know i don't play. i gets my respect from everyone. i will be in DC february 17, visiting some sorors. we definitely have to get up. one of our sorors does a fantastic party @ The Republic Gardens for the community.

[ColorfulCre8ion]

*HUGS* (((MamaBuddah)))! You are amazing and yes I would love to receive those sites. Thanks so much, I heard great things about you from Sensuret I. Anyway I appreciate the support, please keep in contact with me. Thanks again

[MaMaBuddha]

Originally Posted by ColorfulCre8ion

*HUGS* (((MamaBuddah)))! You are amazing and yes I would love to receive those sites. Thanks so much, I heard great things about you from Sensuret I. Anyway I appreciate the support, please keep in contact with me. Thanks again

awww..you gonna bring tears to my eyes....

[ladygreek]

{{{Ma Ma Buddah}}}
Yay, you're back. And belated Happy Born Day by the way.

Girl, don't forsake us again.