Uncooperative Girls...

[BlueEyedButrfly]

Thanks everyone, this issue has been resolved!

[Xidelt]

From what you've said, these girls sound like they are in the sorority for the recogntion of wearing the letters (ordering merchandise) and the power trip that they are getting from dominating others (causing drama at your meetings to force a compromise, looking forward to paddling pledges, etc.) They are also a definite liability to your organization because of how they want to treat future pledges (And honestly, who paddles pledges these days? Fraternity guys in movies?). It really might be for the best if they leave the sorority, whether it is their own decision or more of a "mutual" decision. Perhaps everyone could sit down (or you could just sit down) with these 2 girls and discuss everyone's real reason for founding/joining the sorority. Emphasize your motto/creed and the non-hazing aspect of it. Remind everyone that if these are not the reasons that they are involved or dedicated to the organization, they may want to rethink their involvement. This will hopefully make it clear to these girls that if they are not in it for the right reasons, they need to leave.

[Xidelt]

I don't think you neccessarily need a sorority manual. I'm an alumna of a local sorority and our main guiding document was our constitution. (We were required by the Student Activities office of our university to have this before we could be recognized by our university.) You also need to start running meetings according to Robert's Rules of Order. Don't change anything for ONE person--you need at least a 2/3 majority! That's setting a bad precedent. This is not ONE person's sorority--it is a sisterhood that is being crafted by all of you! You are allowing yourself to be manipulated by one girl just so she will agree to stuff. She's using you to get her way. That's not sisterhood.

[Xidelt]

Yes, I would scratch the contract you have with that girl and have everyone vote on the changes according to Roberts Rules. Once the changes have been agreed to according to 2/3 majority, everyone can sign them. (This could be a temporary working document you all agree to abide by until you have a constitution in place. ) Then my next project would be a constitution. Or maybe you could just scratch these "contracts" altogether (if that's okay with everybody), run the meetings according to Robert's Rules, and just get to work on a constitution for your sorority.

It's okay to have bumps in the road! You've never founded a sorority before.
Feel free to pm me if you want.

[Jimmy Choo]

Originally Posted by BlueEyedButrfly

I had to come here and post this...

So, one of the uncooperative girls (UCG) called another member (we'll call her J)to see how she was feeling b/c she is not feeling well. So, J answered the phone and asked who was calling and UCG told her. J could not understand her so she asked again and UCG responded with:

"UCG, you know, from Sigma Iota whatever it's called"

Imagine how po'd I am right now.

That is all I can say about that!!!

[Xidelt]

I'm with ecupidelta on this one!!!! UCG just showed her a$$ and needs to leave!!!!