Trust

Buttonz · #1 09-23-2006, 03:15 AM

After you have been seriously hurt by an ex, how do you trust someoen new nto to hurt you again?

_Opi_ · #2 09-23-2006, 03:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Buttonz

After you have been seriously hurt by an ex, how do you trust someoen new nto to hurt you again?

It's different for everyone. I look at it this way, I kind of don't forget, Ideally, I'd like to trust the new guy (if he earned it), but I figure that he is also capable of that same kinda hurt (or worse).

KAY10 · #3 09-23-2006, 03:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Buttonz

After you have been seriously hurt by an ex, how do you trust someoen new nto to hurt you again?

You can't. The new person has to earn your trust and even then that guy may do the same thing. I guess it's like gambling, just with your feelings instead.

Buttonz · #4 09-23-2006, 03:42 AM

I'm just so afraid that, when the time is right, not being able to trust a new guy after I've been hurt as bad as I was. I've been hurt before my current ex, but not nearly as bad.

KAY10 · #5 09-23-2006, 03:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Buttonz

I'm just so afraid that, when the time is right, not being able to trust a new guy after I've been hurt as bad as I was. I've been hurt before my current ex, but not nearly as bad.

It happens to all of us. I just said the hell with it and stayed single.

AchtungBaby80 · #6 09-23-2006, 11:00 AM

I don't know the answer to that question. I guess it's one of those that you just have to say is different for everyone and leave it at that. I have a hard time trusting people--not because of anything specific that happened, and not just guys, but people in general. So, I operate on the innocent-until-proven-guilty idea...I try to trust people until they give me a reason not to.

valkyrie · #7 09-23-2006, 01:42 PM

You just do it.

KAY10 · #8 09-24-2006, 04:25 AM

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Originally Posted by AchtungBaby80

I don't know the answer to that question. I guess it's one of those that you just have to say is different for everyone and leave it at that. I have a hard time trusting people--not because of anything specific that happened, and not just guys, but people in general. So, I operate on the innocent-until-proven-guilty idea...I try to trust people until they give me a reason not to.

That's true.

Buttonz · #9 09-23-2006, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by KAY10

It happens to all of us. I just said the hell with it and stayed single.

Might be easier....

ProspeKt · #10 09-23-2006, 08:18 PM

What's that??

KAY10 · #11 09-24-2006, 04:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Buttonz

Might be easier....

To me it is. For you it may not be though. Everyone is different.

aleha · #12 10-04-2006, 05:16 AM

After getting hurt or being the victim in a relationship that turned sour, its only natural to fear trusting again. Even I would not be ready to take the plunge again and indulge even in a short relationship of some kind. We are mere humans and we also need some time alone to lick our wounds and let it heal. to some ti may take even years before they actually feel ready to take the stake and consider dating. It took me 2 years and some mo. before I got the courage and strength to trust again,but as it goes "Once bitten, twice shy", I have had a taste of those sour grapes, so I would be foolish to trust totally again!

I keep a ratio- its 70% of not trusting and 30%-trust ( but then I let him believe the its a total 100% trust that he's got!!!) I find this much better!