When is it ok?

[AKΨ_BRO@DSU]

Hey, lets say that your best friend has just broken up with someone they've been going out with for awhile and they randomly ask what did you think of the person the whole time they were going out. If you really wasn't diggin the person, is it wise to them the complete truth as soon as they ask you that? I know it may seem simple, but chances are that when people that have been together for a long time break up, they have a high chance of getting back together shortly after...and I think that not prolonging a completely truthful answer to that question would make things awkward if that were to happen. The last thing I would want is my best thinking that I'm totally against their relationship. What do you think?

[AGDee]

Your best answer in that situation is "I just want you to be happy. If he/she made you happy, then I am happy for you. If he/she can't make you happy, then I hope you can find someone who can." Thankfully, I used that line when my dad and his girlfriend (who I hated) broke up because she is now his wife. Stay diplomatic.

[valkyrie]

I'd tell the truth as tactfully as possible. Instead of saying "Man, she was a harpy bitch from hell," I might say, "Well, she did seem a bit controlling at times, like when she told you you couldn't have any more beer that night we were heckling Barry Bonds."

I consider it my duty to be honest with friends on important issues, even if it isn't always easy or what they want to hear.

[AKΨ_BRO@DSU]

Both of your answers are good and I've previously considered both of them if the situation were to arise. I was leaning more towards diplomacy because of the fact that they could get back together at anytime and I don't want to seem like I'm hating...however, I have considered being completely honest because if I could show my friend what I've noticed and why I think he made a good choice, then I could save him a lot of wasted time by getting back with her....I dunno .

[OtterXO]

My thing is, if the person asks you about it then you should give your honest answer. Obviously don't be a jerk about it, but be honest. Most people know that friends sometimes see things they don't and if you're not rude or offensive then they shouldn't take it the wrong way. There's no sense in lying to your buddy and acting like you thought the girl/guy was really good for them, you know?

[AKΨ_BRO@DSU]

Yeah. I never planned to lie to them, just kinda dance around the issue, lol. But honestly, its not them taking it the wrong way that I would be worried about, it would be how they would view my outlook on the relationship if it were to start back up.