How do you know if you're in love?

[kddani]

Sappy thread, I know.

How do you know when you're in love?

It's been so long since i've been in a relationship that's gotten to that point, and to top it off I am so analytical and think about everything probably too much.

So, you GCers out there, how did you know when you fell in love with your spouse or bf/gf?

[33girl]

The things that would ordinarily drive you nuts, you think are cute.

And then when you fall out of love they drive you nuts again.

[kddani]

Originally posted by 33girl
The things that would ordinarily drive you nuts, you think are cute.

And then when you fall out of love they drive you nuts again.

Hahaha... that is SO applicable to my BF

[GreekLetterGirl]

if you have to ask, then you aren't in love.

its just one of those things you sort of know.

[adpiucf]

^ I hate that kind of answer.

I refuse to believe that if and when I meet my future spouse, I'll just "know."

[kddani]

Originally posted by adpiucf
^ I hate that kind of answer.

I refuse to believe that if and when I meet my future spouse, I'll just "know."

I agree. I'm too logical of a person. I feel it, but my nature is to argue with myself. I do trust my gut instinct about things, but the way I process everything in my life isn't condusive to that sort of thinking (I call it an occupational hazard of my profession, thankfully the bf is the same sort of thinker). Particularly since i'm a little older than last time I was thinking in this sort of light, i'm much more serious about it. Instead of oh wow this guy is fun and I really like him, i'm in love with him! It's more along the lines of is this the person i'm going to spend the rest of my life with.

[KSigkid]

Honestly, I just knew; there was a point when I thought "hey, I actually love this girl," and that was that. I thought a bit about it, but there was a point where it didn't seem crazy for me to say "I love her" or to tell her that I loved her. It wasn't a specific moment or a specific thing, it just happened.

I'm a thinker too, and generally a overthink things. Honestly, I probably overthought this too.

[BobbyTheDon]

kddani,

I am so happy that you have found love. Sign that prenup because you don't want some sap takin your cash.


You don't just "know" you are in love. The feeling that greeklettergirl is talking about is called lust.

you know you are in love when you talk about the other person alot, you just smile when you think about them, or you get an erection when you see them naked.

[Jestor]

Hell, it's been about three years since I've been in love.

Of course, I can't say the same for having my breath taken away. That happened this semester, not that it matters all that much.

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by GreekLetterGirl
if you have to ask, then you aren't in love.

its just one of those things you sort of know.

This is spot-on. You just know and don't have to ask -- at least that's how I've experienced it. Like they say in Taoism, "the name that can be named is not the eternal name." It just is. It doesn't matter what you do for a living or how old or serious you are. Those things speak to different issues -- they don't tell you whether you are IN love, but they tell you how you will react to love when you have it, or what you will accept as "love" if you don't.

[BobbyTheDon]

Originally posted by valkyrie
This is spot-on. You just know and don't have to ask -- at least that's how I've experienced it. Like they say in Taoism, "the name that can be named is not the eternal name." It just is. It doesn't matter what you do for a living or how old or serious you are. Those things speak to different issues -- they don't tell you whether you are IN love, but they tell you how you will react to love when you have it, or what you will accept as "love" if you don't.

who are you and what have you done with my favorite lesbian Valkyrie

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
who are you and what have you done with my favorite lesbian Valkyrie

Lesbian? I thought I was known far and wide for digging black men?

[BobbyTheDon]

Originally posted by valkyrie
Lesbian? I thought I was known far and wide for digging black men?

Wtf. You aren't a lesbian?


And why have you not posted in my Rocky IV thread yet? I will bust you fool!

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
And why have you not posted in my Rocky IV thread yet? I will bust you fool!

I've never seen a Rocky movie. Isn't bustin' a foo' a Mr. T thing?

[adpiucf]

Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
kddani,

I am so happy that you have found love. Sign that prenup because you don't want some sap takin your cash.

We want prenup!