How NOT to act

[quillogold]

So yes this is a common sense thread but the PR chair and I are putting on a program about how to act at socials/mixers for our newly initiated sisters. We want to make it somewhat humorous but yet informative. Please we will take any suggestions on either how TO act or how NOT to act at socials/mixers.

Thanks!

[sageofages]

Originally posted by quillogold
So yes this is a common sense thread but the PR chair and I are putting on a program about how to act at socials/mixers for our newly initiated sisters. We want to make it somewhat humorous but yet informative. Please we will take any suggestions on either how TO act or how NOT to act at socials/mixers.

Thanks!

You mean as in

"only accept beverages handed to you by anyone you know AND trust" and "keep your drink in your hand at all times" in today's world of rohypnol (sp)?

[LightBulb]

Do a skit!

[quillogold]

Originally posted by sageofages
You mean as in

"only accept beverages handed to you by anyone you know AND trust" and "keep your drink in your hand at all times" in today's world of rohypnol (sp)?

Yeah that's kind of where I'm going but I also mean like "don't hook up on the busride" and "don't drink underage" and "don't puke", etc.

[RUASTgrrl]

The sister is responsible for anyone she brings to a social; if they get drunk, unruly, offensive then the sister and offending party will be asked to leave. i.e Don't bring a date to Formal that will get trashed and make fun of your patron, loudly, during dinner.

[KSUViolet06]

*If you are of age, DRINK RESPONSIBLY. Yes, it's fun to drink at a social, it's NOT fun to fall out and puke in front of all the boys.

*No hanky panky at the event. Ew.

*Respect the property you're hosting the event on, whether it be the fraternities' home, a party center, country club, etc. Trashing the venue will RUIN any chances of your chapter being able to book that place in the future.

[winneythepooh7]

*Do not hook up with 2 frat boys at once. They will NOT be discreet about it, and yes, you will be embarassed about it, as will your sisters at a later date.
*Try not to get drunk and hook up with frat boys in general. Most of them have girlfriends in other sororities and it always creates unwanted drama and chaos and is the root of most of the problems with other GLO's on campus.
*Just because you become brave and think it is appropriate to kick someone's ass from that other sorority/fraternity that you hate because you are intoxicated, does not mean this is the wisest idea. Don't get pissed off at your sisters when they tell you this and try to stop you.

[alphaxikt]

have you considered a section on how not to dress? we had a "fashion show" during bid week each year to help show new members (and sometimes remind older members) what to wear and what not to wear to exchanges, fraternity parties, etc...

[winneythepooh7]

Originally posted by alphaxikt
have you considered a section on how not to dress? we had a "fashion show" during bid week each year to help show new members (and sometimes remind older members) what to wear and what not to wear to exchanges, fraternity parties, etc...

That's a good one. Classy not Trashy is always a positive .

[gococksgo]

When dancing, both feet must be kept on the floor.

[norcalluvbug]

Originally Posted by gococksgo

When dancing, both feet must be kept on the floor.

WOW, that is all I can say. maybe i have a dirty mind, but is this reffering to a little hanky panky on the dance floor. now girls, these mixers are a time for you to act like a lady, not a slutbag. ok

[Betarulz!]

Some simple things that, at least from this guy's view, are appreciated in terms of risk management, courtesy to the hosts, etc. (some of these might vary based on your campus, but this is taking the most conservative view and will keep anyone from getting in trouble). These are all things that pissed the hell out of me when I had a party house and freshmen girls would come over.

*Do NOT go outside! Especially if you are underage, drunk or loud. I don't care how long the line for the bathroom is, or how hot/loud it is (maybe if youre hot, you could take off your coat, and if you really can't use your cell inside, ask me if you can go into another room). I have neighbors who don't appreciate 20 people running around outside. People outside a party house is the easiest thing to fix to avoid getting a party busted.

*Do not pee outside...that's about the worse thing ever, and the surest thing that will get neighbors to call the cops.

*Be frugal with the toilet paper...I NEVER went through as much toilet paper in one year as I did last year, I was constantly out. Also, the tri-delts twice flooded my bathroom b/c they were using so much.

*If something happens that is far beyond your ability to take care of on your own (eg. the toilet floods) GET THE HOUSE OWNER ASAP or tell one of the fraternity members. If the girls who flooded my bathroom would have just told someone about 10 minutes earlier when they first did it, then it would have made everyone's life easier.

*Do not go into rooms that have the door closed, without getting permission. There is probably a damn good reason why that door is shut...especially if it has been shut all night.

*If you absolutely must smoke, make sure to find someplace appropriate. Many leases have no smoking clauses, but the garage is usually a safe bet.

*If some older guys starts yelling at you to stop doing whatever it is you are doing...don't get pissed off b/c he's ruining your fun, more than likely it's his house and he's doing you the favor by hosting your little underage drinkfest, and whatever youre doing is dangerous and/or stupid.

*Don't go into the cabinets or the refridgerator, and keep your fucking hands off my food, and my good bottles of alcohol. If there is no mixer left, don't assume that the half open carton of OJ is for you.

*If the guys ask you to pitch in with the cost of alcohol, don't get pissed off that you have pay $2-5 for one night of binge drinking (never mind the fact that you're drinking for free most nights)...in less than three years youre going to be paying 4x that amount to go to the bars and that will be a cheap night for you.

*Remember, you are representing your sorority at all times. Any sort of things you do will characterize the rest of your house. After the two flooding incidents, Tri-delt was no longer welcome at my house...

*Also, it is probably 100% likely that any older fraternity members know girls in your house, and if you do something dumb, or steal my stuff, or break something, or just generally cause problems, it will get back to your house/chapter.

*Finally, if the cops do come: First, shut up if someone tells you to be quiet - please hang up your phone too. Second, put down your beer or cup (typical MIP probable cause). Third, if the cops bust the party, leave as they tell you to, don't try to exit out the back door/hide/go through a window, do not say a word, and for god's sake don't talk about how drunk you are. When outside, call sober sis, or let some other sober person take you home. Do not drive home (saw that DUI happen...). Also, don't talk about going to another party, b/c the cops may follow you there, and then you've busted up another party.


EDITED TO ADD:

Along with the not going outside, do not take cups or cans or bottles out with you. Never know when a cop may pass by and see you with it. Also, NEVER, NEVER take drinks into the sober drivers car.

[sirfratalot]

Originally Posted by Betarulz!

Some simple things that, at least from this guy's view, are appreciated in terms of risk management, courtesy to the hosts, etc. (some of these might vary based on your campus, but this is taking the most conservative view and will keep anyone from getting in trouble). These are all things that pissed the hell out of me when I had a party house and freshmen girls would come over.

*Do NOT go outside! Especially if you are underage, drunk or loud. I don't care how long the line for the bathroom is, or how hot/loud it is (maybe if youre hot, you could take off your coat, and if you really can't use your cell inside, ask me if you can go into another room). I have neighbors who don't appreciate 20 people running around outside. People outside a party house is the easiest thing to fix to avoid getting a party busted.

*Do not pee outside...that's about the worse thing ever, and the surest thing that will get neighbors to call the cops.

*Be frugal with the toilet paper...I NEVER went through as much toilet paper in one year as I did last year, I was constantly out. Also, the tri-delts twice flooded my bathroom b/c they were using so much.

*If something happens that is far beyond your ability to take care of on your own (eg. the toilet floods) GET THE HOUSE OWNER ASAP or tell one of the fraternity members. If the girls who flooded my bathroom would have just told someone about 10 minutes earlier when they first did it, then it would have made everyone's life easier.

*Do not go into rooms that have the door closed, without getting permission. There is probably a damn good reason why that door is shut...especially if it has been shut all night.

*If you absolutely must smoke, make sure to find someplace appropriate. Many leases have no smoking clauses, but the garage is usually a safe bet.

*If some older guys starts yelling at you to stop doing whatever it is you are doing...don't get pissed off b/c he's ruining your fun, more than likely it's his house and he's doing you the favor by hosting your little underage drinkfest, and whatever youre doing is dangerous and/or stupid.

*Don't go into the cabinets or the refridgerator, and keep your fucking hands off my food, and my good bottles of alcohol. If there is no mixer left, don't assume that the half open carton of OJ is for you.

*If the guys ask you to pitch in with the cost of alcohol, don't get pissed off that you have pay $2-5 for one night of binge drinking (never mind the fact that you're drinking for free most nights)...in less than three years youre going to be paying 4x that amount to go to the bars and that will be a cheap night for you.

*Remember, you are representing your sorority at all times. Any sort of things you do will characterize the rest of your house. After the two flooding incidents, Tri-delt was no longer welcome at my house...

*Also, it is probably 100% likely that any older fraternity members know girls in your house, and if you do something dumb, or steal my stuff, or break something, or just generally cause problems, it will get back to your house/chapter.

*Finally, if the cops do come: First, shut up if someone tells you to be quiet - please hang up your phone too. Second, put down your beer or cup (typical MIP probable cause). Third, if the cops bust the party, leave as they tell you to, don't try to exit out the back door/hide/go through a window, do not say a word, and for god's sake don't talk about how drunk you are. When outside, call sober sis, or let some other sober person take you home. Do not drive home (saw that DUI happen...). Also, don't talk about going to another party, b/c the cops may follow you there, and then you've busted up another party.


EDITED TO ADD:

Along with the not going outside, do not take cups or cans or bottles out with you. Never know when a cop may pass by and see you with it. Also, NEVER, NEVER take drinks into the sober drivers car.

That was a pretty awesome post dude. Don't get me wrong I love sorority girls for the most part, but they can be rude and disrespectful as shit. Another thing I would like to add to this: If you have a friend/boyfriend in a fraternity who makes a pledge give you a ride somewhere or if the fraternity makes pledges pick you up for anything, DO NOT complain about the music/temperature/the way the driver is driving. It's been awhile since I was a pledge, but I still remember how hard it was to restrain from slapping the shit out of a few girls. The pledges usually will not say anything for fear of getting balled, but they will remember who was a douche to them. Later those same pledges are going to be members and they will remember. I know of fraternities that will stop giving rides to members of certain sororities because they suck at generally being decent people to pledge drivers who are giving them a ride free of charge, not to mention, that most fraternities make pledges buy their own gas to pick girls up. It's also probably certain that that pledge doesn't want to pick you up and would rather be doing something else. So as a rule of thumb with pledge drivers. . and ALL other people who do you favors Greek related or not. . be grateful.

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by sirfratalot

That was a pretty awesome post dude. Don't get me wrong I love sorority girls for the most part, but they can be rude and disrespectful as shit. Another thing I would like to add to this: If you have a friend/boyfriend in a fraternity who makes a pledge give you a ride somewhere or if the fraternity makes pledges pick you up for anything, DO NOT complain about the music/temperature/the way the driver is driving. It's been awhile since I was a pledge, but I still remember how hard it was to restrain from slapping the shit out of a few girls. The pledges usually will not say anything for fear of getting balled, but they will remember who was a douche to them. Later those same pledges are going to be members and they will remember. I know of fraternities that will stop giving rides to members of certain sororities because they suck at generally being decent people to pledge drivers who are giving them a ride free of charge, not to mention, that most fraternities make pledges buy their own gas to pick girls up. It's also probably certain that that pledge doesn't want to pick you up and would rather be doing something else. So as a rule of thumb with pledge drivers. . and ALL other people who do you favors Greek related or not. . be grateful.

I back you up on that. I feel bad for them anyway...they're tired, they would much rather be partying, and they've got enough on their minds anyway besides your inane chatter and complaints.

[sirfratalot]

Originally Posted by sirfratalot

That was a pretty awesome post dude. Don't get me wrong I love sorority girls for the most part, but they can be rude and disrespectful as shit. Another thing I would like to add to this: If you have a friend/boyfriend in a fraternity who makes a pledge give you a ride somewhere or if the fraternity makes pledges pick you up for anything, DO NOT complain about the music/temperature/the way the driver is driving. It's been awhile since I was a pledge, but I still remember how hard it was to restrain from slapping the shit out of a few girls. The pledges usually will not say anything for fear of getting balled, but they will remember who was a douche to them. Later those same pledges are going to be members and they will remember. I know of fraternities that will stop giving rides to members of certain sororities because they suck at generally being decent people to pledge drivers who are giving them a ride free of charge, not to mention, that most fraternities make pledges buy their own gas to pick girls up. It's also probably certain that that pledge doesn't want to pick you up and would rather be doing something else. So as a rule of thumb with pledge drivers. . and ALL other people who do you favors Greek related or not. . be grateful.

I want also to add to my own post. If you puke in a pledge's car you officially suck at life and will be ridiculed at the next chapter. Half of the pledges in every single pledge class have someone puke in their car and this is neither classy nor respectable. If you have any doubts as to whether you will puke, do not get into a pledge's car. Like I said earlier, these pledges are often mentally, physically, and emotionally abused and when you puke in their car, you really fuck things up for them.