Advice for high school girls??? From high school sorority sponsor

[u4hnnsfh]

Hi,

I'm the sponsor of a high school sorority in the South, and we like to think we are preparing these girls for college sorority life. We plan to talk to the girls about how to act when visiting our nearby colleges during this football season. Of course, no drinking, smoking, etc. But also things like: don't wear a sorority or fraternity shirt while visiting the college because other sororities might think that you've already "chosen" that sorority. Even stupid stuff like: Don't hang on the frat guys, because an ex-girlfriend might get you cut when you come through Rush. I'm basically just wanting some insight to keep them on their toes. It's been 7 years since I graduated from college, and it's hard to remember the petty (but damaging) things that came up about girls during Rush. I would appreciate any advice that you could pass along that we could give to these girls.

Thanks.

[DZBookie]

If you are looking for the little picky things....

1. Don't wear too many rings/necklaces. It is possible to over accessorize!

2. Matching underwear is a must. There is nothing stranger than being able to see vibrant underwear showing thru clothing. Being "trashy" will get you cut from most houses.

3. Make sure the picture submitted for rush is up to date and a "head and shoulders" shot. There was one poor girl who went thru rush when I was active that submitted a photo of herself posing on the hood of her car. She was known as the "hood ornament" all thru rush.

4. Start getting your references as soon as possible. Some schools only require a reference/recommendation from just the house you join while other schools want the recs/refs from each house before rush begins.

5. Buy your white dress as soon as you know you are interested in rush. Don't wait until you pledge to purchase! White means nancy nurse white, unadorned without any colored trim. Same for the shoes.

6. Don't assume that you will automaticly get a bid if you are a legacy. The path may be there but you still have to work to get in! Many schools have so many legacies going thru rush that no preference is given to them.

7. Make a list of your high school activities, honors and achievements as early as possible. Service to civic/school/church organizations is very big now. Making the list early will help to see what areas need to be improved. Put this in a resume format with your other personal information. You will need to provide this to each alumna who is giving you a rec/ref. If the alumna does not live near the school be sure to provide the chapter address.

8. Make a list of questions to ask during rush. If you are shy talking to strangers, this will help keep your thoughts organized as well as make you appear interested.

9. Practice applying your makeup in a natural light.

10. Do not over perfume yourself! Overwhelming the rusher with aroma will not leave a good impression.

That's all I can think of now. Hope it helps.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by DZBookie

5. Buy your white dress as soon as you know you are interested in rush. Don't wait until you pledge to purchase! White means nancy nurse white, unadorned without any colored trim. Same for the shoes.

Sorry, but no. You should a) not assume that every group uses white dresses, and b) not assume that you will get a bid...wanna see that white dress hanging in your closet the day after you get dropped from recruitment? Didn't think so.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Sorry, but no. You should a) not assume that every group uses white dresses, and b) not assume that you will get a bid...wanna see that white dress hanging in your closet the day after you get dropped from recruitment? Didn't think so.

Put it this way: get one that's from someplace you know you can return it and don't take the tags off. That way if you need it you have it, and if you don't (either cause of no bid or the group you get doesn't use it) you can take it back. They're such a pain to find that it doesn't hurt to be prepared.

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Put it this way: get one that's from someplace you know you can return it and don't take the tags off. That way if you need it you have it, and if you don't (either cause of no bid or the group you get doesn't use it) you can take it back. They're such a pain to find that it doesn't hurt to be prepared.

Or just get one that you can use for something else. It's not a bad idea. I'd also make sure you could pair it with a sweater (or that it has sleeves in the first place) if you needed to. I know not everyone has the same requirements in that department, but I think a lot do (and it'll depend on what the requirements are for badge dress).

I lucked out...my graduation dress was white, so I re-used it. But we had several girls wearing "closet dresses"...the most tacky things you can imagine, that were left behind because they couldn't find a white dress in the fall.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl

But we had several girls wearing "closet dresses"...the most tacky things you can imagine, that were left behind because they couldn't find a white dress in the fall.

There was a girl in my chapter who made her own. Without a sewing machine.

[NUBlue&Blue]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Sorry, but no. You should a) not assume that every group uses white dresses, and b) not assume that you will get a bid...wanna see that white dress hanging in your closet the day after you get dropped from recruitment? Didn't think so.

You should always have a white dress, a black dress and a string of pearls...really.

[ΑΓΔSquirrel10]

Originally Posted by NUBlue&Blue

You should always have a white dress, a black dress and a string of pearls...really.

I totally agree! Those three items always come in handy...

Try to buy a white sundress or something like that. You can wear it in the spring and summer, and get good use out of it! Can't hurt to have one on hand...at least it's an excuse to go shopping

[wear-a-kite-LSU]

Chapters at LSU have been known to lend out white clothes to new pledges. But the more in the know girls always seem to have their own white dress.

I knew a girl who had to wear a white t-shirt and white gym shorts in a room full of white sundresses on her bid night. I bet she would have perfered planning ahead

[CutiePie2000]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

You should not assume that every group uses white dresses.

Co-sign. In some GLOs, the attire is provided for the new would-be initiates. Therefore, don't run out and buy a white dress.

[dgdramadawg]

Originally Posted by CutiePie2000

Co-sign. In some GLOs, the attire is provided for the new would-be initiates. Therefore, don't run out and buy a white dress.

I think the point is that you shouldn't get your bid at 5:00 and have to show up at the house for the bid party at 7:00 in a white dress, thus spending the two hours in between trying to find one at the mall or in a friend's closet if it IS necessary. Better to have a white dress you don't use for the purpose you bought it for than to not have one when you need it.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Sorry, but no. You should a) not assume that every group uses white dresses, and b) not assume that you will get a bid...wanna see that white dress hanging in your closet the day after you get dropped from recruitment? Didn't think so.

Just out of curiosity, are there any NPCs that don't use white dresses? I don't see the harm in buying a white dress that can be returned should you not receive a bid, especially since July and August are great times to buy a white dress. If your school has deferred recruitment, you're SOL.

[kddani]

Originally Posted by JessSigKap

Just out of curiosity, are there any NPCs that don't use white dresses? I don't see the harm in buying a white dress that can be returned should you not receive a bid, especially since July and August are great times to buy a white dress. If your school has deferred recruitment, you're SOL.

I think it is safe to say that the vast majority of NPC sororities wear white dresses for initiation, etc. It's really not a secret. Pictures are taken in whites, during convention everyone is walking around in white, etc. It's something that I don't think is really feasible to keep a "secret".

I had to find a white dress in October (rush was last week of September at my school)... thankfully I had one that I wore for my high school graduation.

[alum]

Thanks to the great advice on GC last summer, we bought the white dress in July for the following January recruitment. If it hadn't been discussed, this necessity for a white dress would have slipped my mind completely in the midst of frenetic packing for a new collegian.

[33girl]

Originally posted by u4hnnsfh
But also things like: don't wear a sorority or fraternity shirt while visiting the college because other sororities might think that you've already "chosen" that sorority.

Not to mention that if sorority members see a high school girl (or anyone who's not a sister or pledge) WEARING THEIR LETTERS she might get her butt kicked into next Tuesday...are there really people out there who do this??

Another thing I can think of to add to the list is don't ever talk about any of the Greeks where you can be overheard - bad OR good stuff, you can talk yourself into a jam either way.