Cheating boyfriend

MTSUGURL · #1 12-01-2003, 10:19 PM

So, I started seeing this guy in September, but for purely shallow reasons I wouldn't make it official when he asked. He kept trying, calling me, emailing me, and being really sweet when he knew I'd been sick or had had a bad day, and I finally gave in and said "I'm being an idiot. I don't want to be alone, and there's this great guy who is super intelligent, sweet, and really really likes me and wants to be with me. I need to get over the fact that he's not the most gorgeous guy in the world and has an extremely annoying laugh and give him a chance." I figured it was about time I proved that I believe what I say about looks not being the most important thing in a relationship.

I did give him a chance, and things have been going really well until I went to his apt today during my lunch break. (He gave me a key so I can go over whenever I want.) I was going to check my email, and he left on the screen a conversation with another girl saying how much he loves her (stuff he said to me last night). I wasn't snooping - he literally left it right there and he knows I check my email on my break. So I caught him. I ended up talking to her, and they've been together for 6 years. She was really nice, and said that she thought he was cheating, that she was done with him, and she wished me the best. We both broke up with him today. I'm extremely angry. He's been talking about me going to Vermont to meet his family, trying to get me to talk about marriage, etc. I keep putting him off, because I've only known him for a couple of months. Still, what a jerk. That's all I just needed to vent.

smiley21 · #2 12-01-2003, 10:26 PM

what a fathead. he needs to be taught a lesson

SigKapKatzue · #3 12-01-2003, 11:01 PM

that's so horrible sweetheart-- vent away. it's horrible that people can be two faced and hide things. i guess you're just supposed to trust men, but so many don't deserve to be trusted. same with women though. good luck.

absolutuscchick · #4 12-01-2003, 11:05 PM

That's so awful, what a LOSER is he!!! Ahh, I hate cheaters soooo much!!! Hope that you feel better soon!!

AchtungBaby80 · #5 12-01-2003, 11:06 PM

I'm so sorry!

Man...I can't even imagine. That guy needs to get his priorities in order. You did the right thing.

lovelyivy84 · #6 12-01-2003, 11:49 PM

You got off lucky.

Think about what that poor girl who invested six years with this guy must feel like.

Still, I know it sucks to have your trust betrayed. *sending you a hug*

MTSUGURL · #7 12-02-2003, 12:48 PM

She dumped him too. I went back to get something that I left, and he didn't even bother to say anything. No surprise, but it would've been interesting to hear how he'd try to defend it. Thanks for the support gals!

honeychile · #8 12-02-2003, 01:03 PM

What. A. Loser.

I'm so glad that you found out before you invested any more time in him, Sweetie! *HUGS*

Vent on!

adpialumcsuc · #9 12-02-2003, 03:45 PM

It amazes me that people cheat and thik no one will find. I am so sorry for you and the other girl. Keep smiling

SDTSarah · #10 12-02-2003, 04:09 PM

Aww, I'm so sorry...it reminds me of a simillar situation a friend of mine is in. She started seeing a guy, but before she did, she asked him several times if he had a girlfriend. He said no, but a few weeks ago she heard from one of her friends that he did. This guy is so dumb...his girlfriend (of 3 years) goes to Emory, too...in fact, I think she transferred for him. My friend was even walking with him one day (before they were dating) and they saw his girlfriend, but he said something like, "Oh, she's kind of stalking me." Anyway, my friend asked the guy again, and he denied it. When she confronted him about it, he was kind of like, "Umm..." What a clueless asshole. Now he's going around telling everyone that my friend is crazy...he has serious problems.

Cheaters suck.

GeekyPenguin · #11 12-02-2003, 04:27 PM

BOO on cheaters. I caught a cheater in a fairly similiar method once. I feel sorry for his current girlfriend that he wants to GET ENGAGED to - I really hope he's changed, because minus the cheating, he was a great guy.

[[[[hugs]]]]]

MTSUGURL · #12 12-02-2003, 04:37 PM

I just got an email from him apologizing and begging my forgiveness and asking me for another chance.

First of all, over email? Grow some balls and call me or ask me face to face.

Second of all, umm no. I told him where to go. Of course I put it in as sweet and classy way as I possibly could.

MeLikey · #13 12-02-2003, 07:03 PM

Aw, I'm sorry-- but at least you found out sooner rather than later-- that's the upside, if you had to look for one!