Online romances

[Rudey]

I was just wondering which of you losers partake in these things? LOL

-Rudey
--I'm not cussing and I'm not attacking anyone...I was just wondering.

Originally posted by Rudey
I was just wondering which of you losers partake in these things? LOL

-Rudey
--I'm not cussing and I'm not attacking anyone...I was just wondering.

Mwahahahahahaha....you're so baaaaaaaad.

[KillarneyRose]

You have to understand, Rudey, I'm old and I still look at this whole Internet thing with a mixture of awe and distrust. So, even if I didn't have a Mr. KillarneyRose, I couldn't see myself partaking in an online romance.

I understand a lot of the kids are doing it these days, though!

[ucfcutie]

I have never dated anyone online either. It's just not for me. I'd rather meet some in person first.

[Peaches-n-Cream]

My sister met her ex on match and her current bf online, too.

I prefer meeting my men in person.

[MeLikey]

I know a girl who met her boyfriend online. They dated for a while, but they're no longer together. On AOL, guys used to instant message me all the time trying to initiate something, I just ignore them.

[bethany1982]

I've never done the online thing, but I know someone that it has worked for.

[KSig RC]

Originally posted by Rudey
I was just wondering which of you losers partake in these things? LOL

-Rudey
--I'm not cussing and I'm not attacking anyone...I was just wondering.

so no one's found their love connection on the interweb? weird

[FiReKraCkEr]

Originally posted by KSig RC
so no one's found their love connection on the interweb? weird

Almost tried it once, and let's just say... it didn't work out. It's cool though, I wouldn't knock anyone for finding their mate using cyberspace. Eh, people need lovin'!

[navane]

<Kelly raises her hand>


8 years ago, like at the dawn of the internet, I was on a usenet newsgroup for cultural exchange (not a single's dating group). I was looking for someone from Poland so that I could ask about a particular holiday tradition. While there, I managed to get into a random conversation with another university student who lived in England - he was looking for people from DCI. For two years we were internet "pen pals". If anyone would have asked, I would have gladly called him my friend, even though I had never met him and I only saw his picture on the 'net.

Then, one summer I moved to England on a work visa. Since I was working in the same town he was, we decided to meet up. After all, if he was some kind of sicko, it would have surfaced in two years worth of daily e-mails. He was just as funny and engaging in person as he was online - completely consistent. Like some bad movie, we realized we had feelings for each other. That was 1997. Of course, I did have to go home eventually and we worked out a long-distance relationship.

Then, by good fortune, his company sent him to California on a project (he was a management consultant). So, he was living in the US; but he had to go back to Britain eventually. Because my dad worked for an airline, we were able to visit each other "often enough". Then I received an offer to study for my Master's degree at the University of Bristol in England. Hooray, together again.

So, for those of you not keeping track, Neil and I have been together for 8 years, 6 of those as boyfriend and girlfriend. My family loves him, his family likes me and it's all good.

The key is that, back when this occured for us, meeting people from the internet wasn't that "weird". After all, most people on the net at that time were computer geeks or students.

For what it's worth, one of our friends met his girlfriend through an online ad and they've been together a long time and are quite happy.

It can happen, you know!

.....Kelly

[MereMere21]

I prefer the term "extreme blind dating"

Actually I met my husband on AOL - even though he was good friends with a friend of mine. Our mutual friend gave each other our screen names because we were both in the medical field (he was in Fire Academy and I was going to Nursing school at that point) So we talked for about a year and finally after much convincing by our friend, we got together (with her) and had lunch. It was instantly love at first sight and we have been together - happily I might add - ever since.

I'm split about the whole thing - I don't recommend meeting people online, even though it worked for me. The whole thing was a strange coincidence. If it had been just some random IM, I know I never would have gone for it. I do think God has a funny way of putting people together sometimes

[Munchkin03]

I wouldn't call anyone a loser for doing it. Some people are in locations where there just aren't a lot of eligible young singles within their age range (I would rather find someone online than resort to dating someone from my HS just 'cause they're around, as a lot of my hometown buddies do). Just because I'm the type of person who loves going out three nights a week doesn't mean that I'm better than a less extroverted person.

On the other hand, I am very wary of those people who are serial internet daters (like my aunt, who falls deeply in love with a new man every six months or so). Some people really do use it as a crutch in order not to try to meet people in real life, and I think that's wrong.

[cashmoney]

I have mixed feelings about the whole online ordeal. On one hand you have those International people who want to meet Americans or get married or what not. In my view its not pathetic for someone from Albania, Bosnia, Russia etc etc etc to look for a man or woman here in America. They're just trying to better their lives. Now, what is bad is the fact that there are some American guys out there who go online and meet all these International women, have them come over here, run through them for a little while and then dump them out on the street. Thats FUBAR! I know a guy who met this girl from the Uzbekaistan, had her come over here and live with him for about 3 months and then he kicked her out on the street after he was tired of her. That was just wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong!

[Anchorgirl]

I have heard of these working for some people. My roommate's mom met her boyfriend online. However, I am still a skeptic. I just would never trust that the person I met online was who they said they were. You hear the horror stories all the time....it is just a risk I don't think is worth taking. Especially when there are so many cute fraternity boys!

[SoProud2BeAnAlphaXi]

I know three Alpha Xis (two are cousins, two different chapters involved) who met their now-husbands on match.com. It would frighten me a bit, but it certainly worked well for them!