Scruples #6 - Gold Diggers

PinkCashmere · #1 08-30-2000, 09:13 AM

Situation: A guy went to a happy hour at one of the local hot spots and saw a young lady that was absolutely stunning and was turning heads in the restaurant. He approached the young woman and began talking with her. He found out that she was into real estate and was also a student. He saw that she wore a Rolex and drove a Lexus. She also confessed to him that she was an ex-golddigger who dated professional athletes. He told the young woman that he was thinking about selling his house and buying another and wanted to get her opinion on his house. A couple of days later she went to see the house. He lived in a $400,000 house and it was apparent that he was living very comfortably. They went out a couple of times and in about 1 1/2 weeks after meeting they slept together. Three days after that she asked him for $500 to help pay her tuition and to give her some extra cash until payday. The guy wonders why he keeps meeting these golddigging women. He doesn't like to reveal what he has when he first meets women because he believes that they all will want him for his money.

Question: Why after sleeping with a man, a woman wants him to give her money? Is it o.k. to ask for money after sleeping with a man? Does that make you a gold digger, prostitute, or what?

Discogoddess · #2 08-30-2000, 09:34 AM

*Sighing*

Is it okay for a man to sleep with someone who HAS TOLD THEM UP FRONT what kind a person she is, and then act new when the request is made?

Why oh why is the blame always on the women, but never the dumb@#$ men who more than happily sleep with them, give them money and brag about how they get all the "stunning" women? And what do you expect, meeting someone at a happy hour?

Geesh!

[This message has been edited by Discogoddess (edited August 30, 2000).]

AKAtude · #3 08-30-2000, 10:15 AM

Maybe they are made for each other.

Sexy Mocha · #4 08-30-2000, 10:30 AM

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Originally posted by PinkCashmere:
Question: Why after sleeping with a man, a woman wants him to give her money? Is it o.k. to ask for money after sleeping with a man? Does that make you a gold digger, prostitute, or what?[/B]

For the record, I am not condoning asking men for money after sex (unless you're a whore,... then I say go for it

)...BUT, if a woman has straight up told his *ss that she has gold digging tendencies, he shouldn't act surprised

when she does ask!
Any man going to "happy hour" to meet women, should expect just that...a few happy hours.
I mean it's not THE ideal place to be searching for a soul mate or woman to get serious with, so he should expect anything that happens. And, it's not just the women that are putting themselves out there as gold diggers, men are in these bars tryin' to be baller of the year with their Rolexes and yappin' about how much money they make

... in a nutshell, saying "You can have all of this if you play your cards right". So if they're main goal is to sleep with the woman they pick up, is it so bad that the woman's main goal is to get money from him?
Like DiscoGoddess said, Don't try to act new, when she starts using you for money, like you've been using her for some *ss!

AKAtude · #5 08-30-2000, 10:46 AM

I was waiting for Sexy Mocha to chip in her 2 cents.

1 N A million · #6 08-30-2000, 03:47 PM

I think it is trashy and degrading for a woman to ASK a man for money! It says one thing..........and I don;t think I need to spell it out! When I first start dating my man, I was hesitant about taking money from my man when he offered, let alone ask him. But now, after some years, of course it is a different story!!!!!!!!

Professor · #7 08-30-2000, 05:23 PM

LOL LOL LOL

"For the record, I am not condoning asking men for money after sex (unless you're a whore,... then I say go for it"

Sexy Mocha · #8 08-30-2000, 07:36 PM

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Originally posted by 1 N A million:
I think it is trashy and degrading for a woman to ASK a man for money! It says one thing..........and I don;t think I need to spell it out! When I first start dating my man, I was hesitant about taking money from my man when he offered, let alone ask him. But now, after some years, of course it is a different story!!!!!!!!

Just curious...Do you also think it's trashy and degrading for men to ASK a woman they barely know for some *SS?

Girl, I have seen men plot, plan , scheme, and act in the worst way... all in the name of getting P*****. Now, that's tacky! Shoot, some men should OWE women money after the garbage they put out in bed!
Now, once again, I'm not saying it's right for woman to ask for money after sex...hell, it's not proper for any self respecting young lady to do....BUT...I'm just saying let's not forget all the tasteless things they do, in comparison to them, a woman asking for money doesn't seem all that bad to me.

Classy_Diva5 · #9 08-30-2000, 07:57 PM

All that I can say about the topic is this: I believe that when she put her nature up front, he knew what he was getting into. I mean, after 1 1/2 weeks and sex has occured, what did he expect from her? I'm not putting all of the blame on the woman, because I know a lot of men that are doing the same thing, but using different tactics to get what they want.

Like it was said earlier, what do you expect going to a nightclub @ happy hour looking for true companionship? The man said that he doesn't like to reveal in the beginning what he has, but at 1 1/2 weeks, how well DO you know a person?? But back on topic, I think that asking for money after sex is just downright disrespectful to yourself (unless that is in your profession) because it makes you as a woman look bad-people may think that you feel that your body has a $$ amount.
But of course this is just my opinion.

Classy_Diva5

Diarra · #10 08-30-2000, 09:40 PM

They deserve each other... both of them are plain idiots... I mean if you are going to be a gold digger, how about not showing your true colors during the first night and certainly not give it up a week and a half later. If you are a guy and you are just looking for some free p*^% go for the ugly one... alright I am kidding...

but seriously like DG was saying and Sexy Mocha, I find it unfair to always blaming it on the woman.

1 N A million · #11 08-31-2000, 08:23 AM

I am not blaming the woman, I am just saying any respectful woman wouldn't act that way. ANd most respectful woman would sleep with a man that quick. I mean come on.......To each his own.......but RESPECT yourself. Just because someone is out for the p****, that doesn't mean you have to give it up.

Diarra · #12 08-31-2000, 09:51 AM

1 N a million you are absolutely right, I think we all agree with you, but the question is why is it that we always talk about how a respectful woman should act, and never about how a respectful man should behave. It is like we are criticising because the woman can't keep her l... closed but it is almost expected that a man should think with his d... And the worst part is that no man is going to come out and say that he is a whore... nooo he is too cool for that. That is what annoys me.
Anyway... girl I feel you!
Have a blessed day ladies

thesweetestone · #13 03-02-2002, 07:15 PM

I KNOW THIS IS AN OLD THREAD BUT...

MY PROBLEM IS WITH THIS GUY TRYING TO BLAME HER FOR THIS SITUATION GOING BAD. SHE TOLD HIM UP FRONT THAT SHE WAS A RECOVERING GOLD DIGGER. WHY DID HE TAKE HER TO HIS $400,000 HOUSE. HE GOT WHAT HE WAS ASKING FOR.

SHE GOT WHAT SHE DESERVED TOO FOR TELLING THAT ALL SHE WANT WAS MONEY. BOTH OF THEM REALLY NASTY FOR SLEEPING WITH SOMEONE YOU MET A WEEK AND HALF AGO.

novella000 · #14 03-02-2002, 08:26 PM

his fault, her fault... both are consenting adults...
lmao @ $500... damn, 1.5 weeks!?!?! she doesn't waste any time. so did he give her the money? that's what i wanna know

and ANY way... the only difference between a PROSTITUTE and the average chick/dude in the 21st century is that a Prostitute is a professional.. they charge a FEE. Few people will give without looking to get. The average chick/dude will ask/manipulate HOPING for a return they deem appropriate. Prostitutes are just smarter about it... they make the fee known up front. If you don't pay, you get beat down by the pimp... no one likes to get beat down by the pimp.
Whether the return is companionship, $1500, or pleasant conversation... your average individual wants SOMEthing or other when they give ANYthing. It's not just sex and money.
If that's what you are about, that's what you roll up on. You get what you bone for...

fatto · #15 03-02-2002, 08:28 PM

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Originally posted by PinkCashmere
Situation:
Question: Why after sleeping with a man, a woman wants him to give her money? Is it o.k. to ask for money after sleeping with a man? Does that make you a gold digger, prostitute, or what?

If they handled their biz properly she shouldn't have to ask. Before sleeping with someone and beginning a potential relationship you should know your partners wants, needs, etc...

It should be apparent, through conversation, that she is having financial troubles and if the man is willing, he should then offer. If he doesn't offer or give a valid reasoning for why not, then this man probably isn't one that you should be accepting favors from.