Charming your guys parents!!!

MoonStar17 · #1 05-25-2003, 12:39 AM

Hello everyone!

OK...so my guy is FINALLY taking me to meet his parents....this is a HUGE step!

I need a lil advice from all the ladies, and gents perhaps on sure fire ways to charm his parents! I wasn't born a southern belle, so these things do NOT come naturally for me.

I am hispanic and come from a large and humble family...he is a cowboy...

should i bring his parents a lil something? if so what???

i had made them an apple pie...FROM SCRATCH...this past easter..his mom loved it so much she told my guy that it is about time we meet this girl who makes such great apple pies...

welllllllllllll...i was gonna make another one..but time is limited..anything else you think might be appropriate for a lil memorial day get together??

HELPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!

Hootie · #2 05-25-2003, 12:45 AM

I'll never forget when I met my ex-fiancee's family for the first time. I wanted to bring something but was running behind (since I was traveling to Austin then to San Antonio.

So...I ordered some filet mingons from OmahaSteaks.com and got them the veggies and NY Cheese Cake to go with and then had it overnighted. They were really appreciative.

For something like this, I may bring a desert, a plant or flower, a candle, some tea? Anything small and nothing too extravegant so you look like you're trying too hard. Besides, bringing a home-made desert proves you're able to handle the kitchen well!

AXJules · #3 05-25-2003, 12:45 AM

Honestly, girl, just remember your manners. Emphasize your love for your family, be real, and don't forget to bring a copy of the pie recipe to give his mom.

They will love you.

WhiteDaisy128 · #4 05-25-2003, 12:55 AM

I think a small, nice windchime would be a lovely gift. Just act like it's rush, be nice, polite, and yourself. They'll love you!

MoonStar17 · #5 05-25-2003, 01:51 AM

You ladies are GREAT!!!

Thanks for the great words of encoragement! Your nice words made me SMILE!!!

Its going to be alot easier since he will be there with me...

I cant help thinking of that TJ Maxx commerical where the guy and girl are going to meet the parents, and the mom loves her skirt..LOL i hope it goes as easy as that did..

I talked to my guy about it and he said to just be myself, that they have already heard great things about me and cant wait to meet me.

I think for safe measure im going to make the pie. It is 1:30 am here and i cant sleep b/c of nerves anyways so might as well put that nervous energy to use!

Thanks a million for all your help!!!

Hopefully there will be no mishaps along the way

AlphaGamDiva · #6 05-25-2003, 01:53 AM

if you bring anything that required some thinking on your part (like any of the above mentioned gifts), i think they will totally be charmed.

just be yourself, the whole "yes, ma'am/sir" thing always goes a long way. helpin out in the kitchen all that......and i've always seemed to gain points with guy's moms if i can bust on the guy a bit. like, jokingly call him out for something he did that wasn't exactly proper ("i know yo' mama raised you better than that").....depending on how much the mom babies her son, of course, and providing she's not one of those out LOOKING for something wrong with you. my last b/f's mom and me were always crackin on him and it was great.

just have a good time with them and get to know them....the more relaxed you are, the better you will be able to charm them!

The1calledTKE · #7 05-25-2003, 01:59 AM

When Nina met my parents she didn't need to bring anything, but my parents are cool an laid back.

Kevin · #8 05-25-2003, 03:09 AM

Damn... you're stressing about this.

I think it'll be most important to just be sociable. Be talkative, have social graces.

First impressions are important.

Now, bringing gifts? I didn't even know you could do that

MoonStar17 · #9 05-25-2003, 10:58 AM

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Originally posted by ktsnake
Damn... you're stressing about this.

I think it'll be most important to just be sociable. Be talkative, have social graces.

First impressions are important.

Now, bringing gifts? I didn't even know you could do that

Yup I am. He is on his way to get me now, then we are heading north!

The pie came out beautiful...I stayed up sooooooooo LATE baking it. It is beautiful with a lattice top and everything. The hardest part is peeling all those apples!!!!! Hopefully they will like it. From what my guy told me they LOVED the one i had made him to take to them this past easter.

I just felt that I should bring them something, i dunno just felt right.

I will tell you wonderful advice givers how it went

The talking and stuff like that should be fine cause I do that normally... No matter how nervous I get I put on a smile and talk and act so friendly... LOL

WISH ME LUCK

!!

BYE

SATX*APhi · #10 05-25-2003, 04:10 PM

Best of luck! I hope everything goes well, which I am sure it will. Let us know how it goes.

KillarneyRose · #11 05-26-2003, 07:02 PM

I'm dying to know how the big meeting went! Did they love the pie??? I'm sure they loved you 'cause you seem like such a sweetie

MoonStar17 · #12 05-27-2003, 08:37 AM

Hi everyone!

I got back last night late at night.

Let me just say...it was AMAZING!

When I first got there I gave her the pie and she was so happy, she was like ohhh what a treat the first one you sent was so good, thank you so much! which made me smile

She also told me that she had heard such nice things about me, and that everytime her son talks about me he has a smile from ear to ear, which of course made him turn bright red...

We spent the first day with his parents and his grandparents, we took a ferry boat ride to this resturant on a little island and had dinner on the patio overlooking the ocean...it was really nice and they were friendly and asking me questions.

That night instead of staying at his parents he surprised me and took me on another ferry boat to an island and we stayed at a really nice hotel, more like a collection of little cottages, it was so beautiful.

we met his mom and sister (who lives here so that made me a lil less nervous since i had already met her...she was visiting home too) at the beach and lazed around all day.

Then at night she cooked dinner and we all sat and talked and then we left on the road for our 4 hour drive home.

But at the end of the day when we were getting ready to leave i was helping her put dishes away and my guy was packing up the car and she told me that i was a very sweet girl and that she is so happy that i make her son so happy, and that i was welcome anytime in her home, and if i ever need anything to not hesitate to ask.

IT WAS GREAT! I feel like im on cloud 9...
I swear i wasnt expecting it to go so flawlessly

Thanks for all your WONDERFUL ADVICE!!!

It really gave me the courage to go out there and be myself!!! thanks a bunch!!!

KillarneyRose · #13 05-27-2003, 10:50 AM

Thanks for sharing, MoonStar! I'm so happy things went well for you

docetboy · #14 05-27-2003, 11:47 AM

If my parents are any sign, guys parents really aren't that bad. My parents will love anyone I bring home...especially my mom... as long as they like me and want to hear childhood stories and pictures....

I swear...once I think I destroy the last copy of this certain picture, my mom pulls out another next time I bring a girl home...

Atleast i'm not my brother though - when he was in first grade, he starred as Bambi in the school play. My parents have copies of that hidden all over in different locations, always ready to be pulled out when he brings a girl home...my mom loves it.

MoonStar17 · #15 05-27-2003, 11:51 AM

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Originally posted by docetboy
Atleast i'm not my brother though - when he was in first grade, he starred as Bambi in the school play. My parents have copies of that hidden all over in different locations, always ready to be pulled out when he brings a girl home...my mom loves it.

LOL thats hillarious!!!!!

I didn't get to see any funny pics, but his mom told me a BUNCH of stuff on him that was HILLARIOUS!! I have lots of blackmail material....

Plus she was telling me all about his favorite snacks so if i ever feel up to baking more than just pies, what to make to make her son melt...lol