a real good woman would...

[The Original Ape]

Hey yall, finish that statement!

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[Sexy Mocha]

A real good woman will love her man no matter what. She will always be there for HER man, picking up after him, cooking his favorite meals, adjusting her schedule to fit around his. Let's not forget, she has to please him in any and every way she knows how! (Shoot! She better not have no headache!) Going out every night with the boys? Sure, baby! She'll just sit at home. (there must be something she can do...Oh, yeah! The button on his shirt needs to be sewn back on ) A real good woman would do all of this and more for her man, and PLEASE can't we do it with our mouths shut?!? This, Original Ape, is what Sexy Mocha thinks a real woman would do......................NOT!!!!
Seriously, in a nutshell... A real good woman would have her cake and eat it too. She would have an enjoying career, be a SuperMom to her children, a loving and understanding woman (not to mention best friend) to her man, and still be able to have time to tend to her self physically, emotionally, and spiritually...this aspect is most important of all because without taking care of herself, she will not be able to give of herself to help others. And that's my two cents worth!

[thatgirl]

A real good woman would be as real as she was when she met the man for the duration of the relationship. We *women* have a tendency to put on airs when it comes to men. Just be real and stay real. It's a lot easier that way. Then again, that's probably why I'm single *s*.

[Sexy Mocha]

LOL! ThatGirl, your points are INDEED valid! If ever the truth was told, you just told it. Talk about putting on airs!! I think that's why I can't stay in a good relationship for more than a few months! I'm a gemini (moody, split personality, etc.), anyway, when I meet a guy...of course I don't want him to see this side of me (not yet anyway), so I just act as sweet as a peach pie...then after a couple of weeks, my true self emerges and they have the nerve to trip They're all like "Dam girl! What happened to that nice, sweet young lady I met?!?" Then my head turns 360 degrees (think Exorcist) and I say " She's no longer here" Your post has got me to thinking, maybe if I keep it real from the beginning....hmmmmm.

[Professor]

No C O M M E N T ! !!

[thatgirl]

Originally posted by Professor:
No C O M M E N T ! !!

Ohhhhhhhh. Come on, let's get the male point of view.

[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by Sexy Mocha:
A real good woman will love her man no matter what. She will always be there for HER man, picking up after him, cooking his favorite meals, adjusting her schedule to fit around his. Let's not forget, she has to please him in any and every way she knows how! (Shoot! She better not have no headache!) Going out every night with the boys? Sure, baby! She'll just sit at home. (there must be something she can do...Oh, yeah! The button on his shirt needs to be sewn back on ) A real good woman would do all of this and more for her man, and PLEASE can't we do it with our mouths shut?!? This, Original Ape, is what Sexy Mocha thinks a real woman would do......................NOT!!!!
Seriously, in a nutshell... A real good woman would have her cake and eat it too. She would have an enjoying career, be a SuperMom to her children, a loving and understanding woman (not to mention best friend) to her man, and still be able to have time to tend to her self physically, emotionally, and spiritually...this aspect is most important of all because without taking care of herself, she will not be able to give of herself to help others. And that's my two cents worth!

That's worth alot more than two cents!

[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by thatgirl:
A real good woman would be as real as she was when she met the man for the duration of the relationship. We *women* have a tendency to put on airs when it comes to men. Just be real and stay real. It's a lot easier that way. Then again, that's probably why I'm single *s*.

Naw Sista...that's NOT why you're single!

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[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by Sexy Mocha:
LOL! ThatGirl, your points are INDEED valid! If ever the truth was told, you just told it. Talk about putting on airs!! I think that's why I can't stay in a good relationship for more than a few months! I'm a gemini (moody, split personality, etc.), anyway, when I meet a guy...of course I don't want him to see this side of me (not yet anyway), so I just act as sweet as a peach pie...then after a couple of weeks, my true self emerges and they have the nerve to trip They're all like "Dam girl! What happened to that nice, sweet young lady I met?!?" Then my head turns 360 degrees (think Exorcist) and I say " She's no longer here" Your post has got me to thinking, maybe if I keep it real from the beginning....hmmmmm.

I know a Gemini, and she's alot like that! Hey Clippy, did you peep this?

[Sexy Mocha]

Ok OriginalApe, What do you think a real woman would do/be? And, yes I did give a lot more than two cents...a topic like this warrants a well thought out answer

[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by Sexy Mocha:
Ok OriginalApe, What do you think a real woman would do/be? And, yes I did give a lot more than two cents...a topic like this warrants a well thought out answer

A REAL GOOD WOMAN would know herself. In knowing herself, she would accept herself with pride; she would not suffer from feelings of inadequacies that lead to strange behaviors that drive men away(i.e. unfounded distrust, paranoia,[Bruhs know what I mean])

She would show love to her man without solicitation( from her man)--even when she's angry with him-and EXPECT IT IN RETURN. She would not judge him, but trust him. She would give whatever she expects to receive-plus a whole lot more!

[Sexy Mocha]

Now there's an answer!! However, the "strange behaviors" that you mention don't usually come from "feelings of inadequacies", but rather from inconsiderate-playing too many games- cheating ass- "I never do anything wrong, you're just tripping" men. Some men are just incapable of admitting when it's their own issues and behavior patterns that lead them out the door, it's so much easier to blame it on a women's insecurities!

[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by Sexy Mocha:
Now there's an answer!! However, the "strange behaviors" that you mention don't usually come from "feelings of inadequacies", but rather from inconsiderate-playing too many games- cheating ass- "I never do anything wrong, you're just tripping" men. Some men are just incapable of admitting when it's their own issues and behavior patterns that lead them out the door, it's so much easier to blame it on a women's insecurities!

I concede. Many of us do cheat, as do you sistas. But what about that percentage of us that are OVERLY SUSPICIOUS and DO trip? Wouldn't that cause you to end the relationship? And suppose you tell the man that it's over, and he refuses to accept it?

I happen to believe that certain things people do/don't do cause people to think about cheating, and then it happens(sometimes by design, sometimes not). I agree with you that people should take responsibility for their actions, both men and women. After all; dogs come in BOTH SEXES!

I like that FIRE in your words girl!!!!!!!

[thatgirl]

It's a no win either way, most of the time. If you are feeling somebody, nine times out of ten, they're feeling somebody else. If somebody's feeling you, you play along for a minute then before you know it, you're bored to DEATH. Relationships are ridiculous. *Can't ya tell that I'm a Leo?*

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Proverbs 14:7
Go from the presence of a foolish man, when thou perceivest not in him the lips of knowledge.

[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by thatgirl:
It's a no win either way, most of the time. If you are feeling somebody, nine times out of ten, they're feeling somebody else. If somebody's feeling you, you play along for a minute then before you know it, you're bored to DEATH. Relationships are ridiculous. *Can't ya tell that I'm a Leo?*

Yes I can. I a Leo too.