Organizations after undergrad that are like fraternities in terms of brotherhood?

[UnfortunateGDI]

Hi there guys,

As you can tell by my name, I am not too happy being a GDI at my university. Right now I am heading into my final semester of college and due to some issues I could not rush a fraternity. You see, I took the community college route but ended up staying an extra semester at my community college. After transferring to my current university (a large SEC school), I had some minor problems adjusting in my first semester as a STEM student since I was on my own for the first time. Classes at my college were a lot harder too so I had some minor issues with time management which are now fortunately resolved. After my first semester, I consistently made the dean's list and will likely graduate college with a 3.7.

That said, I was also a son of immigrants and that led to me not even knowing the importance of Greek Life on American college campuses. It wasn't until I was in my second year of college that I saw the beauty of being in a fraternity. At first it was through movies and popular belief but then I researched it and asked around.

Unfortunately being that I am a 21 yr old who is almost done with college, I will never get to be in a traditional college fraternity no matter what I do. The one thing that made me see the beauty of fraternities was the fact that you have a close group of male friends you can bond with and make life long connections with. I could care less about hooking up with a cute sorority girl or partying like crazy, what I want is a close group of male friends I can hang out with and just be friends with really.

You see, when I was growing up, I was also homeschooled and though this helped me academically, it hurt me a lot socially. I know that I can just go out and chat with people and I have done that but for the first time in my life I really want to belong to something that is like a fraternity in the sense of a brotherhood.

Are there any things like this in grad school or life after college?

[33girl]

Don't try to join something in grad school (other than professional organizations). Concentrate on getting your masters.

Once you graduate, get a job and settle into a community, look into Masons, Jaycees, Kiwanis and other community groups. The joining processes for these vary greatly from group to group and place to place, so tread lightly. In some communities asking to join is taboo, some it is not.

[UnfortunateGDI]

could a grad student join a fraternity anyways? And please do not give me suggestions about what decision to take in that regard, I know what I am getting myself into.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by UnfortunateGDI

could a grad student join a fraternity anyways?

Do a Google search. Good luck.

[PersistentDST]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Do a Google search. Good luck.

Excellent answer. My best friends who joined frats after undergrad did that and more...

[SoCalGirl]

Originally Posted by UnfortunateGDI

could a grad student join a fraternity anyways? And please do not give me suggestions about what decision to take in that regard, I know what I am getting myself into.

You're asking for info without advice.

Not exactly the best way to ask for help when you could just do your own research.

[UnfortunateGDI]

I think it is possible to do that, don't see why someone would tell me not to try and be in a fraternity as a grad student when I did not ask for that. Please tell people to read my post again, all I asked about was fraternal organizations after college not be my parents and tell me what I can or can't join.

[sigmadiva]

We are better suited to give you information and advice since those who have posted in this thread are members of GLOs, so we know of what we speak.

Good luck on your search!

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by UnfortunateGDI

I think it is possible to do that, don't see why someone would tell me not to try and be in a fraternity as a grad student when I did not ask for that. Please tell people to read my post again, all I asked about was fraternal organizations after college not be my parents and tell me what I can or can't join.

Why are you arguing? And your tone is not coming across well. At all. You don't get the answer you like; however you get the answer that is accurate or correct, so then deal with it. Or move on. Or whatever. Coming back and asking the same question until you are told what you want to hear isn't how GC works. Or life, for that matter.

I get the immigrant bit, and the homeschooled bit. And I could give you legions of examples of people who have had one or both of those factors (or other factors) and have not tied their happiness and social abilities to a GLO in college. Happiness is an inside job. A fraternity isn't going to fix you. Only you can fix you.

[LAblondeGPhi]

Originally Posted by UnfortunateGDI

could a grad student join a fraternity anyways? And please do not give me suggestions about what decision to take in that regard, I know what I am getting myself into.

I think 33girl meant that you shouldn't try to join an organization like Kiwanis or Masons during grad school, since you seem to have issues with time commitments and your demanding studies.

Originally Posted by UnfortunateGDI

I think it is possible to do that, don't see why someone would tell me not to try and be in a fraternity as a grad student when I did not ask for that. Please tell people to read my post again, all I asked about was fraternal organizations after college not be my parents and tell me what I can or can't join.

OK, first of all. You have A HORRIFIC ATTITUDE. You need to calm down, and be respectful to people of whom YOU ASKED TO TAKE THEIR TIME AND ANSWER A QUESTION YOU COULD HAVE FIGURED OUT ON YOUR OWN. Do you know what it means to be grateful for people doing you a favor?

Second of all - advice and unsolicited information comes along with any answer to a question. Often in life, the most useful information is that additional bit that you didn't explicitly ask for. That's kind of how most conversations work on planet earth. You may have noticed.

No one here wants to be your parents. People are giving you all the same kind of response they would give anyone else who came on here and asked your kind of question. Calm down.

[UnfortunateGDI]

So my social skills are the ones that need work? Okay lets rewind.

" Don't try to join something in grad school (other than professional organizations). Concentrate on getting your masters."

That is a command and not even something I asked for. I asked explicitly for fraternal like organizations in college and if they exist. No where did I explicitly say "hay guys should I join a fraternity in grad school?". If you cannot read then that isn't my problem, that is yours.

Quit worrying about my life and what grad school is going to be like, I made it through college with a good GPA and I know what I am getting myself into. If you cannot answer the question at hand then don't even respond to the thread. The question itself is: What organizations after college are like fraternities. The question is not: Should I join a fraternal organization after college?

[DrPhil]

You all better not answer this bossy smartass GDI's questions.

[UnfortunateGDI]

That said, I found this site through google and so far the only things I have heard about are Free Masons and the Military. I was looking for other organizations that are like a fraternity in terms of a brotherhood and I do know it is too late for me to be a part of a fraternity anyways. If you cannot do something as simple as just answer that question and talk about different fraternal organizations then why even post on this thread? Sure 33 might be a moderator but anyone can see that her posts touch on so much stuff that nearly irrelevant to this thread. If I wanted to ask about the workload of grad school I would go to forums intended for that purpose.

This forum is intended for answering questions involving Greek Life so is it too much to ask for to focus on that rather than playing the role of helicopter parent and trying to tell me horror stories about academics in grad school?

[UnfortunateGDI]

anytime now, someone will give a relevant answer and it won't be some bitter angry sorority girls who are likely past their prime and mad about seeing someone make something out of their lives.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by UnfortunateGDI

anytime now, someone will give a relevant answer and it won't be some bitter angry sorority girls who are likely past their prime and mad about seeing someone make something out of their lives.

LOL.