Dropping ADPi, Can I join another?

ijustwantout · #1 10-12-2013, 05:36 PM

Hey guys,
So I recently pledged Alpha Delta Pi and went through "alpha initiation." However, I recently found I don't have any connection to the girls and there not quite my cup of tea (Still a fabulous sorority though!). I am looking to drop, but still want to be in greek life. I was wondering if I drop, can I join another sorority since I am only an "Alpha" (ADPi's term for pledge), and haven't gone through full initiation? Any help would be great, thanks!

AZ-AlphaXi · #2 10-12-2013, 05:54 PM

As long as you haven't been initiated then you are eligible to join another NPC sorority. You would be eligible for recruitment at the next formal recruitment period. If you'll receive a bid if you go through recruitment again is another question entirely. At many campuses non-freshmen and especially those who depledge are at a disadvantage in recruitment.

FSUZeta · #3 10-12-2013, 06:09 PM

You will have to wait until formal recruitment next year, but you will be eligible to rush again at that time, since you have not been initiated.

adpiucf · #4 10-12-2013, 09:21 PM

Yes. You can drop and join another sorority, but you can't join another sorority until next year's recruitment. Good luck!

DubaiSis · #5 10-12-2013, 11:27 PM

So you pledged an ADPi chapter of 20 women? It must be the smallest ADPi chapter on the planet if there are no women you can connect with after something between 0 weeks and 8 weeks. Because I've always known who I would be best friends with for the rest of my life in that amount of time. And it's a fabulous chapter of women you have nothing in common with? I can only read from that that you are NOT fabulous. But won't the other sororities also be too good for you?

als463 · #6 10-13-2013, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by DubaiSis

So you pledged an ADPi chapter of 20 women? It must be the smallest ADPi chapter on the planet if there are no women you can connect with after something between 0 weeks and 8 weeks. Because I've always known who I would be best friends with for the rest of my life in that amount of time. And it's a fabulous chapter of women you have nothing in common with? I can only read from that that you are NOT fabulous. But won't the other sororities also be too good for you?

Can I just say how much I LOVE your response to this? I think you are saying what many of us are thinking.

ASUADPi · #7 10-13-2013, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by DubaiSis

So you pledged an ADPi chapter of 20 women? It must be the smallest ADPi chapter on the planet if there are no women you can connect with after something between 0 weeks and 8 weeks. Because I've always known who I would be best friends with for the rest of my life in that amount of time. And it's a fabulous chapter of women you have nothing in common with? I can only read from that that you are NOT fabulous. But won't the other sororities also be too good for you?

^^^^love this!

Not that I want to "scare" the OP, but doesn't it tend to get around when a new member drops a group and then goes through formal the next fall? Does it depend on the school on whether that can be a negative or not?

But I'm sure I can speak for all of us when I say that none of us would want a girl who doesn't like our chapter to initiate. If you don't like ADPi I say drop, but I also say you need to be very well aware that recruitment may not be as successful next year for you.

Jill1228 · #8 10-13-2013, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by ijustwantout

Hey guys,
So I recently pledged Alpha Delta Pi and went through "alpha initiation." However, I recently found I don't have any connection to the girls and there not quite my cup of tea (Still a fabulous sorority though!). I am looking to drop, but still want to be in greek life. I was wondering if I drop, can I join another sorority since I am only an "Alpha" (ADPi's term for pledge), and haven't gone through full initiation? Any help would be great, thanks!

QFP
DubaiSis, I adore you

pinksequins · #9 10-13-2013, 12:20 PM

If the chapter is as small as suggested, it is quite possible that there isn't a good fit. In such a case, it's often better for both the chapter and new member to part ways. Of course, that doesn't speak to whether the OP will be successful in securing a bid elsewhere in the future nor does it answer the question of why the OP was not able to discern the lack of fit earlier. In any event, the chapter and she aren't a good match for whatever reason. That's perfectly okay. Both parties can move on.

ijustwantout · #10 10-13-2013, 02:36 PM

Ok, so I totally understand that formal would be incredibly hard for me next year, but the fact of the matter is that I don't have a connection with any of the girls in my sorority. I feel bad for dropping, but I'm not enjoying it and I don't see any other option. If one of you guys have a suggestion for me that would be great instead of just being just the catty sorority girls you guys are proving yourselves to be. Thanks

ASTalumna06 · #11 10-13-2013, 03:02 PM

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Originally Posted by ijustwantout

Ok, so I totally understand that formal would be incredibly hard for me next year, but the fact of the matter is that I don't have a connection with any of the girls in my sorority. I feel bad for dropping, but I'm not enjoying it and I don't see any other option. If one of you guys have a suggestion for me that would be great instead of just being just the catty sorority girls you guys are proving yourselves to be. Thanks

QFP

I'm getting good at this!

ASUADPi · #12 10-13-2013, 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by ijustwantout

Ok, so I totally understand that formal would be incredibly hard for me next year, but the fact of the matter is that I don't have a connection with any of the girls in my sorority. I feel bad for dropping, but I'm not enjoying it and I don't see any other option. If one of you guys have a suggestion for me that would be great instead of just being just the catty sorority girls you guys are proving yourselves to be. Thanks

Now I'm officially pissed.

You come onto a forum and start going off about how you don't like anyone in a sorority, which you then name, and then ask if you can drop and join another one.

Then when you are told 1) you CANNOT join another sorority for a year (seriously did you NOT listen when you were told about the binding agreement prior to signing your bid card?) and 2) that depending on your campus and year in school that recruitment next fall could be tough for you. You were told "go ahead and drop out".

So because you don't like our answers (which are the truth) we are "catty sorority girls".

So now I'm going to be the "catty sorority girl" that you insisted I (and every other panhellenic sister on here) is....

"yes, special snowflake you can drop out of ADPi because you are only an alpha member and join a new sorority right now. That pesky binding agreement rule between all the 26 national sororities doesn't apply to you".

ijustwantout · #13 10-13-2013, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by ASUADPi

Now I'm officially pissed.

You come onto a forum and start going off about how you don't like anyone in a sorority, which you then name, and then ask if you can drop and join another one.

Then when you are told 1) you CANNOT join another sorority for a year (seriously did you NOT listen when you were told about the binding agreement prior to signing your bid card?) and 2) that depending on your campus and year in school that recruitment next fall could be tough for you. You were told "go ahead and drop out".

So because you don't like our answers (which are the truth) we are "catty sorority girls".

So now I'm going to be the "catty sorority girl" that you insisted I (and every other panhellenic sister on here) is....

"yes, special snowflake you can drop out of ADPi because you are only an alpha member and join a new sorority right now. That pesky binding agreement rule between all the 26 national sororities doesn't apply to you".

Hahahahahahaha :'D that was fabulous. Obviously I totally understand that I have to wait to join a sorority, that's a pretty obvious thing... The only reason I named ADPi is because I wasn't sure if I still had my Panhellenic eligibility since I was technically "initiated" as an alpha member and no other sorority at my campus has that. So you definitely need to settle, I have been very appreciative of everything most people have had to say (especially pursuing other activities outside of a sorority!) and will totally take their advice into consideration. No need to get pissed, it is not that big of a deal. I never talked crap about the sorority, I just don't feel like I fit in. Wow. Calm yourself.

Titchou · #14 10-13-2013, 06:20 PM

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Hahahahahahaha :'D that was fabulous. Obviously I totally understand that I have to wait to join a sorority, that's a pretty obvious thing... The only reason I named ADPi is because I wasn't sure if I still had my Panhellenic eligibility since I was technically "initiated" as an alpha member and no other sorority at my campus has that. So you definitely need to settle, I have been very appreciative of everything most people have had to say (especially pursuing other activities outside of a sorority!) and will totally take their advice into consideration. No need to get pissed, it is not that big of a deal. I never talked crap about the sorority, I just don't feel like I fit in. Wow. Calm yourself.

And DGs are "initiated" as Pi Alphas, etc, etc, etc. We all have some sort of formal pledging ceremony. You are not different. What was binding was SIGNING the Bid Card, not the formal pledging ceremony. Sorry you didn't pay attention when you had the opportunity to sign it.

Yes, you may quit but you do need to understand this may be your only shot at being Greek. If that's OK with you, it's certainly OK with us.

And we never, ever, ever like it when someone comes on here, says they don't like/fit/love/whatever their group and then NAMES IT! Very bad form, my dear.

ASUADPi · #15 10-13-2013, 06:37 PM

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Originally Posted by ijustwantout

Hahahahahahaha :'D that was fabulous. Obviously I totally understand that I have to wait to join a sorority, that's a pretty obvious thing... The only reason I named ADPi is because I wasn't sure if I still had my Panhellenic eligibility since I was technically "initiated" as an alpha member and no other sorority at my campus has that. So you definitely need to settle, I have been very appreciative of everything most people have had to say (especially pursuing other activities outside of a sorority!) and will totally take their advice into consideration. No need to get pissed, it is not that big of a deal. I never talked crap about the sorority, I just don't feel like I fit in. Wow. Calm yourself.

You are the one who posted that we were being "catty". What did you think would happen? Did you really think you could call us "catty" because you weren't getting the answers you wanted and no one would call you out on in it?

We all understand that our chapters may not be everyones cup of tea, but to come on this forum and giving names is a whole other issue entirely. You could have easily said "I joined a panhellenic sorority during formal fall recruitment and I'm just not feeling it". Instead you said "I joined ADPi and I'm just not feeling it".

As a non-initiated member of a sorority, I don't think you are going to quite understand the LOVE that one has for their chapter and for greek life in general.

I would be saying this even if it wasn't ADPi you were talking about.