Most Important Words of Advice

[UGAalum94]

I'm psyching myself up to write a bunch of recs and so I'm thinking about recruitment. We may not need this as a separate thread since we've got so many others, but I was thinking it might be fun to compose a list of each of our top piece of advice that we'd have PNMs follow, even if we know it's practically impossible.

Mine would be:

Try your best to like all of the chapters as much as you can.

[carnation]

Let's see...don't pay attention to the other PNMs, who may appear gorgeous and self-assured. You could end up with a bid and they may not. You never, ever know.

[ComradesTrue]

Don't make rash decisions (i.e. dropping out) when your emotions are running amok. See the process through, no matter what. Give the chapters who invited you back a chance to show you what they are about. Scores of people have had their minds changed by groups later on in the week. You don't have to sign the card following pref, so nothing is lost by completing the process.

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Recruitment is a lot like dating. Sometimes the flashy charming guy who makes a great first impression and all the girls love isn't the right one for a long term relationship.

[BAckbOwlsgIrl]

No matter what you think that you will know will happen, YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT WILL HAPPEN NEXT.

SORRY, SISTA YOUR CRYSTAL BALL AND EVERYONE ELSE'S IS BROKE.
I don't care what people have told you and how much you have read, even on GREEKCHAT...YOU CAN'T PREDICT THE FUTURE.

This why I encourage women to stick it out at all phases.

That wicked ass bitch, you know the one who is nice once every 28 days?
She could end up being your being your best friend.
You just DON'T KNOW.
That one moment when you are at your lowest, when you least expect it, she will clean off your puke-ridden comforter, take care of you and get you to bed with the towels that she found in your closet.
She will console a broken heart, shattered dreams; encouraging to you put your big girl panties, hold your chin high and show the world that you can and will kick ass!

Or maybe she won't. YOU JUST DON'T KNOW.

[carnation]

^^^ awesome

[AnotherKD]

Originally Posted by BAckbOwlsgIrl

No matter what you think that you will know will happen, YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT WILL HAPPEN NEXT.

SORRY, SISTA YOUR CRYSTAL BALL AND EVERYONE ELSE'S IS BROKE.
I don't care what people have told you and how much you have read, even on GREEKCHAT...YOU CAN'T PREDICT THE FUTURE.

This why I encourage women to stick it out at all phases.

That wicked ass bitch, you know the one who is nice once every 28 days?
She could end up being your being your best friend.
You just DON'T KNOW.
That one moment when you are at your lowest, when you least expect it, she will clean off your puke-ridden comforter, take care of you and get you to bed with the towels that she found in your closet.
She will console a broken heart, shattered dreams; encouraging to you put your big girl panties, hold your chin high and show the world that you can and will kick ass!

Or maybe she won't. YOU JUST DON'T KNOW.

On that note? I met a girl on my freshman hall that I absolutely hated. And, she hated me. I rushed and pledged first semester that year, and she rushed the spring semester. She saw me at a rush event and almost didn't stop by, simply because of me. Yadda yadda, she became my little. I still, about 15 years later, consider her one of my best friends, even though we see each other only once every 2 years or so.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by AnotherKD

On that note? I met a girl on my freshman hall that I absolutely hated. And, she hated me. I rushed and pledged first semester that year, and she rushed the spring semester. She saw me at a rush event and almost didn't stop by, simply because of me. Yadda yadda, she became my little. I still, about 15 years later, consider her one of my best friends, even though we see each other only once every 2 years or so.

That's really funny. You never know!

If you don't fall in love with the chapter that gives you a bid, "find your home", or know deep in your heart that you ended up in the place you were meant to be at the end of the week, don't give up. Formal recruitment is a very superficial and artificial week. You haven't really gotten to know the sisters in your new sorority. Give it some time and real effort. You won't regret it, but you probably will if you quit without even giving it a shot.

[ASUADPi]

1. keep your mind open. Not all chapters excel during formal recruitment.

2. remember that you are only meeting a small % of the sisters, if the chapter is huge, YOU WILL find someone you mesh with.

3. ignore the recruitment gossip. I know easier said than done but why would you base a life decision on what other 18 year old girls are saying?

4. complete the recruitment process. dropping out because you think you didn't get a "top" house is selfish. Think of all the girls who were completely dropped from recruitment, they would KILL to be in your spot!

5. don't come onto greekchat asking us "what are my chances". we can't tell you that. we don't even know you. plus, we cannot share our membership selection practices.

[TNAuburnMom]

My most important piece of advice is call or text your mother daily, especially right after you get a bid.

[carnation]

^^^ Like! Like! Like!

[FSUZeta]

See the process through until the end.

[AXOrushadvisor]

1. If you do not connect with one girl in the Chapter she is just that, 1 girl. There are probably 50 more you will connect with.

2. A lot of stuff you hear during recruitment about Chapters is JUST NOT TRUE! I even hear stuff about my own Chapter that is just false.

3. If you don't like a group please do not be rude or unkind. Mind your manners.

4. Take the process all the way until the end. If you don't like the Chapters your preferencing go through the process you might change your mind and you might not. You really have nothing to loose.

5. If you get to the end of the process and you can not see yourself in any of the Chapters you have left DO NOT SIGN YOUR BID CARD. If you get to the end of the process and you only want one chapter ONLY PUT THAT CHAPTER DOWN.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Don't panic and carry a towel.

[KSUViolet06]

Treat every day like it's the first day all over again.

What I mean by that is when you get your first round of cuts, look at your list, and pretend that these chapters are the only ones that exist and that it's your first day ever meeting them. Give them a fresh chance every day.