Sophomore Problems

geedprobz · #1 12-25-2011, 03:32 PM

Hey! I'm a sophomore rushing at a small liberal arts college. I rushed last year but due to my gpa (2.7) I didn't get what i wanted and dropped out of recruitment. I am very close to almost all members of a certain sorority. I want to rush again but i am a little scared. Although i realize that there is no excuse for ill academic behavior, I had a lot of family problems, a lot of which kept me from school and my accumulative gpa didn't get much better; however, this past semester i got exactly a 3.0. which is a major upgrade from my previous semester (1.7) I was wondering if i could get some insight as to whether to rush again or not. I didn't know if there were anything to be accounted for hard work and dedication. Or if they could see that you were trying your hardest.

The girls know my situation and I feel that I could offer a lot to the chapter, I want to inspire girls who have been through a rough home life to power through their problems and show them they are beautiful and can overcome anything. I feel that these are things that sororities gear to motivate through themselves. I have many letters of rec from different chapters of this organization, and one from an alumni of my school. One letter of rec is from an executive member of an SEC school. I have also composed a letter to the chapter explaining to them what they mean to me, and that I am retaking a lot of my classes from previous semesters to improve my gpa.

please help me if you can

geedprobz · #2 12-25-2011, 03:34 PM

p.s. I know for sure the min. requirement is a 3.0 gpa but my accumulative is a 2.7 at this moment

princessamy · #3 12-25-2011, 03:45 PM

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Originally Posted by geedprobz

Hey! I'm a sophomore rushing at a small liberal arts college. I rushed last year but due to my gpa (2.7) I didn't get what i wanted and dropped out of recruitment. I am very close to almost all members of a certain sorority. I want to rush again but i am a little scared. Although i realize that there is no excuse for ill academic behavior, I had a lot of family problems, a lot of which kept me from school and my accumulative gpa didn't get much better; however, this past semester i got exactly a 3.0. which is a major upgrade from my previous semester (1.7) I was wondering if i could get some insight as to whether to rush again or not. I didn't know if there were anything to be accounted for hard work and dedication. Or if they could see that you were trying your hardest.

The girls know my situation and I feel that I could offer a lot to the chapter, I want to inspire girls who have been through a rough home life to power through their problems and show them they are beautiful and can overcome anything. I feel that these are things that sororities gear to motivate through themselves. I have many letters of rec from different chapters of this organization, and one from an alumni of my school. One letter of rec is from an executive member of an SEC school. I have also composed a letter to the chapter explaining to them what they mean to me, and that I am retaking a lot of my classes from previous semesters to improve my gpa.

please help me if you can

QFP

AZTheta · #4 12-25-2011, 03:58 PM

We truthfully cannot answer your question as to whether or not to rush again.

What is the policy of the college panhellenic re: minimum GPA requirement for recruitment?

If you've read and done your research, then you know that we don't discuss membership selection on GC. We don't know anything about the policies of the chapter you have your heart set on (which, in and of itself, is problematic on multiple levels). The best advice you will get is to go through and see what happens. Good luck.

geedprobz · #5 12-25-2011, 04:02 PM

I just wanted some friendly advice, I didnt expect to get a straight forward answer! However, the panhellenic min gpa requirement is a 2.4

DubaiSis · #6 12-25-2011, 04:12 PM

My advice is go through but if your friends have told you their minimum GPA is a 3.0 and you have a 2.7, I would not exactly go out buying letters just yet. Your friends could have all the best intentions in the world and EVERY girl in the chapter could want you, but if they have to cut you because of grades, they do. Also, they can easily say they had to cut you for grades when it could be something else.

That being said, a 3.0 minimum seems pretty high to me and I think I'd start looking at your other options on campus. If there are other chapters who will take you and you want sorority membership and not just membership in that group (lifetime, blah blah blah), I'd start re-evaluating your priorities now.

Greek_or_Geek? · #7 12-25-2011, 05:05 PM

It is very possible a chapter may have no flexibility in deciding to drop PNMs who do not make the minimum GPA, no matter how many members you know or how many recs you have. A 3.0 is hardly something to brag about, especially when it was only for one semester. You still look like a grade risk if that's all you could make when you weren't having problems.

That you have your heart set on one sorority when you are in this predicament is even more troubling. If you really are that close to so many members and they think you are all that, certainly they would be willing to wait another year until you were able to make grades.

Of course you can go through recruitment and see for yourself. But you should be very honest with yourself about how it will make you feel if things don't go as you'd like.

DeltaBetaBaby · #8 12-25-2011, 05:33 PM

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Originally Posted by geedprobz

Hey! I'm a sophomore rushing at a small liberal arts college. I rushed last year but due to my gpa (2.7) I didn't get what i wanted and dropped out of recruitment. I am very close to almost all members of a certain sorority. I want to rush again but i am a little scared. Although i realize that there is no excuse for ill academic behavior, I had a lot of family problems, a lot of which kept me from school and my accumulative gpa didn't get much better; however, this past semester i got exactly a 3.0. which is a major upgrade from my previous semester (1.7) I was wondering if i could get some insight as to whether to rush again or not. I didn't know if there were anything to be accounted for hard work and dedication. Or if they could see that you were trying your hardest.

The girls know my situation and I feel that I could offer a lot to the chapter, I want to inspire girls who have been through a rough home life to power through their problems and show them they are beautiful and can overcome anything. I feel that these are things that sororities gear to motivate through themselves. I have many letters of rec from different chapters of this organization, and one from an alumni of my school. One letter of rec is from an executive member of an SEC school. I have also composed a letter to the chapter explaining to them what they mean to me, and that I am retaking a lot of my classes from previous semesters to improve my gpa.

please help me if you can

Have you asked your friends?

geedprobz · #9 12-25-2011, 09:13 PM

I have asked a few friends of course they aren't able to tell me much of anything but encourage me to go through.

In reply to Greek or geek I think you misunderstood me. I have been going through a rough time my whole life. I mentioned my home life lightly it's not just one incident it just happened to get a lot worse this past year. They did give me a year to improve my grades while as my home life got worse during that year. However these past 2 months I have begun to get stronger and have been using my experiences to better myself and raise awareness for others. I am by no means bragging about a 3.0 but for all that has came to me this year it is a drastic improvement as compared to previous semesters. I understand that Greek life puts a great emphasis on scholastics and respect it dearly. I have never had issues with academics until my college career not due to intelligence but lack of help.

I just wonder when a group takes the time to hep you and sees that you are making the steps in the right direction and could benefit their chapter, are there exceptions? Is there a chance to well, get a chance to show them that you are worth the bid and that I am retaking classes because I am in a better state of mind and know I am capable to make the grades now that I am in a healthier stage of my life.

knight_shadow · #10 12-25-2011, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by geedprobz

I have asked a few friends of course they aren't able to tell me much of anything but encourage me to go through.

Old_Row · #11 12-25-2011, 11:58 PM

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Originally Posted by geedprobz

I have asked a few friends of course they aren't able to tell me much of anything but encourage me to go through.

In reply to Greek or geek I think you misunderstood me. I have been going through a rough time my whole life. I mentioned my home life lightly it's not just one incident it just happened to get a lot worse this past year. They did give me a year to improve my grades while as my home life got worse during that year. However these past 2 months I have begun to get stronger and have been using my experiences to better myself and raise awareness for others. I am by no means bragging about a 3.0 but for all that has came to me this year it is a drastic improvement as compared to previous semesters. I understand that Greek life puts a great emphasis on scholastics and respect it dearly. I have never had issues with academics until my college career not due to intelligence but lack of help.

I just wonder when a group takes the time to hep you and sees that you are making the steps in the right direction and could benefit their chapter, are there exceptions? Is there a chance to well, get a chance to show them that you are worth the bid and that I am retaking classes because I am in a better state of mind and know I am capable to make the grades now that I am in a healthier stage of my life.

I don't even know what this means. Have you mistaken a sorority for a social service agency?

You said you have spoken to plenty of friends in the sorority about it. How do you expect strangers on the internet to respond? Even if we knew you, knew your school and knew every bylaw of the sorority you are set on, we still couldn't answer your questions. If your friends are encouraging you to rush then just do it.

geedprobz · #12 12-26-2011, 12:16 AM

Well that was rude.. I'm not asking for a social service agency..I was referring to grades..makin changes in my GRADES.. My question was are there ever exceptions when a majority of the group likes you and can see that your gpa will change in the upcoming semester? I was simply explaining the situation to the forum so you can have the same insight that my peers do...I just need outside advice before I get my feelings hurt.

AZTheta · #13 12-26-2011, 12:36 AM

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Originally Posted by geedprobz

Well that was rude.. I'm not asking for a social service agency..I was referring to grades..makin changes in my GRADES.. My question was are there ever exceptions when a majority of the group likes you and can see that your gpa will change in the upcoming semester? I was simply explaining the situation to the forum so you can have the same insight that my peers do...I just need outside advice before I get my feelings hurt.

You've been given good advice.

No one has a crystal ball to predict anything with any degree of certainty when it comes to grades or human behavior. Please.

This scenario sounds very familiar: in essence you are asking for the outcome of the race before you place your bet. Life is not like that.

Again, good luck.

33girl · #14 12-26-2011, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by geedprobz

I have asked a few friends of course they aren't able to tell me much of anything but encourage me to go through.

Then that's a no.

If these were truly close friends, who were willing to stand up and put their credentials on the line for you as a grade risk, they would tell you if you had a chance. The fact that they're being ambiguous just shows that they can't do that. It may not be what they personally want - it may be a dictate from their advisors or HQ that they cannot take on grade risks at this time - but it is what it is. Either that, or you've mistaken the height of esteem these women hold you in - or else they like you as a person, but don't think you would be suitable as a sister. There are plenty of women I liked a lot that I wouldn't have given a bid to if you paid me.

The fact that you dropped out of rush last year because you "didn't get what you want" (even though there were apparently groups who still wanted YOU) doesn't help your case either.

Greek_or_Geek? · #15 12-26-2011, 11:54 AM

What 33girl said. I am starting to think you are an "over sharer" if so many people know about your situation and you're claiming to be close to so many members. These girls could just be polite.

You also mentioned that a bad outcome will hurt you and your over reactions here support that. Since the odds are greatly stacked against you, I'm going to change my opinion and say I think going through recruitment now is a bad idea. You need to concentrate on your grades.