Honeymoon Registry

JennRN · #1 10-07-2010, 05:06 PM

Has anyone ever seen this before?
My cousin is getting married next month and I just got an email from her maids of honor-not sure who all got the email, but anyway-it contained a link to their honeymoon registry, aka stuff we can buy them for their honeymoon-like, an upgrade to a suite, massages on the beach, etc. The email was encouraging us to do so.

I have never ever ever seen this done before. My gut reaction is that it's tacky as shit. The couple can afford their honeymoon (trust me, there is no $$$ issue)-so why the hell am I being asked to fund their honeymoon?? Is this a new trend that brides are doing?? Is it acceptable?
I mean-really, it probably shouldn't annoy me as much as it is, but I think it's the rudest thing. Buy me a shower gift, and wedding gift, and honeymoon gift?? NO. Fund your own shit.

Ok, vent over.(It's been a bad week). But I was just curious if this is a new thing??

Jill1228 · #2 10-07-2010, 05:10 PM

It ain't just you! That's BEYOND tacky!

Drolefille · #3 10-07-2010, 05:38 PM

Wait, is the implication that this is instead of a typical wedding gift or on top of a wedding gift? (or shower gift?) Because if it's just another registry site where you buy them a massage instead of a toaster, I don't have a problem with it. Otherwise, I think it's annoying and wouldn't participate.

Kappamd · #4 10-07-2010, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

Wait, is the implication that this is instead of a typical wedding gift or on top of a wedding gift? (or shower gift?) Because if it's just another registry site where you buy them a massage instead of a toaster, I don't have a problem with it. Otherwise, I think it's annoying and wouldn't participate.

No, I believe it is in place of a wedding gift.

Drolefille · #5 10-07-2010, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Kappamd

No, I believe it is in place of a wedding gift.

Yeah that doesn't bother me. It depends on how well I know someone whether I do the registry gift or put my own thing together; but where someone registers, whether Walmart or a resort, why would I care?

Kappamd · #6 10-07-2010, 05:39 PM

I have started seeing information about setting up honeymoon registries on a lot of cruise/resort websites. It seems to be a new trend targeted towards couples who want to register/may feel pressure to register, but may already be "established" and not need a lot of the typical registry stuff.

Not a fan, and I won't be doing it.

Alumiyum · #7 10-07-2010, 05:59 PM

If it's instead of a wedding gift, I could get on board. I know for some couples that already have all the house items they need, this might be more useful to them. If it were in addition to a wedding present...they could suck it.

Xylochick216 · #8 10-07-2010, 06:09 PM

One of my best friends is doing this in lieu of a traditional registry. She's lived with her fiance for a few years, and aside from some new linens and things, she'd rather have some experiences on their honeymoon that they wouldn't normally have (like excursions, spa treatments, etc.). It's a lot more useful for them. If they just didn't register, people would take the liberty to buy things they don't want.

Always AlphaGam · #9 10-07-2010, 10:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Alumiyum

If it's instead of a wedding gift, I could get on board. I know for some couples that already have all the house items they need, this might be more useful to them. If it were in addition to a wedding present...they could suck it.

Agreed.

My cousin and his long time fiancee wed last summer and established a honeymoon registry. They've been together almost 10 years and bought a home a few years ago so the usual wedding registry items were not needed. Still I threw in a bunch of gift cards just because.

They went on a month-long honeymoon to Japan (they saw the entire country!) and kept a blog so we could keep up with them.

I don't think it's tacky at all but it really depends on the couple. They're not wealthy, but they're not money hungry people either. Had it been one of my cousins I absolutely cannot stand, I probably would have been all F-U!

ThetaPrincess24 · #10 10-09-2010, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Alumiyum

If it's instead of a wedding gift, I could get on board. I know for some couples that already have all the house items they need, this might be more useful to them. If it were in addition to a wedding present...they could suck it.

One of my bestie's did this when she got married. They had wedding registries but also the honeymoon registry. They already were living together in a house at the time they got married and they in not so many words, "strongly encouraged" people to purchase from the honeymoon registry rather than the traditional gift registries (created only to appease the groom's mother/family). So that's what my husband and I did--we got them a breakfast in bed upgrade for two mornings to help make their honeymoon more memorable/enjoyable rather than "housewares" they didnt really need or want.

I think this is a type of gift that should replace a wedding gift, not something extra along with a shower & wedding gift.

Kappamd · #11 10-07-2010, 06:14 PM

Yeah, I don't think it's necessarily tacky (IF the couple is doing it in lieu of a traditional registry), but for some reason I don't think I would be comfortable doing it.

But hey, more power to those who do. I'm sure it beats some ugly vase or something equally useless.

groovypq · #12 10-07-2010, 06:32 PM

I've gotten a lot of advertising about these. It's sort of tempting, because between my fiance and I we have all the "house stuff" we need. I've heard of people registering for sporting equipment or other "offbeat" stuff, so why not?

But this would definitely be for a regular wedding gift, not in addition!

JennRN · #13 10-07-2010, 06:54 PM

No, no, this isn't in lieu of a traditional registry-this is in addition to the 4 places they've registered for standard house stuff.

Alumiyum · #14 10-07-2010, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by JennRN

No, no, this isn't in lieu of a traditional registry-this is in addition to the 4 places they've registered for standard house stuff.

Then yeah, that is damn tacky. I wouldn't feel obligated to gift from both.

33girl · #15 10-07-2010, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by JennRN

No, no, this isn't in lieu of a traditional registry-this is in addition to the 4 places they've registered for standard house stuff.

Registering in 4 places is bad enough. I would personally give them something really tacky and big from the dollar store.

It is a good idea IN PLACE of a regular registry though, as more people are getting married after they've already bought homes and don't need the gifts 18 year olds living on their own for the first time needed to set up housekeeping.