I miss my sorority

cannon37 · #1 02-24-2009, 11:00 PM

I went through rush in the fall, and was a new member for the first semester. I had a big, learned all the necessary things to become initiated, and became very close to a lot of the girls. Throughout the semester I was homesick because I had moved 4 hours away from home. At the end of the semester I decided to transfer to a school back home. They did not have the sorority I was pledging at my new school, and here none of the sororities seem to fit me. I now want to go back to my old school and continue my initiation process, however I do not know if this is possible. I signed papers when I left, but I cannot recall what the terms were. If anyone knows anything about this, please help! Remember I was not yet initiated into the sorority, just a new member. Thanks for your help

phisiglindsey · #2 02-24-2009, 11:05 PM

I would say your best bet is to contact HQ of the sorority to where you were a new member. They could tell you if you are able to continue with that sorority.

KSUViolet06 · #3 02-24-2009, 11:12 PM

I would suggest contacting a chapter officer or advisor about potentially coming back. They should be able to tell you about the policies/procedures.

At some sororities, you'd be able to re-join without problems, while at others, you'd have to be extended another bid in order to do so. So you need to talk to someone in the chapter about it.

Smile_Awhile · #4 02-25-2009, 12:34 AM

I can tell you that it's my org's policiy that bids are extended for a calendar year. We had two cases this past semester that received bids in the fall, but were unable to finish the process because of personal issues. During our spring recruitment (informal), they came back through recruitment. But there was no turning them down, as their bid was still active.

Beware, though! This may not hold true for all orgs!

#5 02-25-2009, 12:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Smile_Awhile

I can tell you that it's my org's policiy that bids are extended for a calendar year. We had two cases this past semester that received bids in the fall, but were unable to finish the process because of personal issues. During our spring recruitment (informal), they came back through recruitment. But there was no turning them down, as their bid was still active.

Beware, though! This may not hold true for all orgs!

We had the same thing happen for a few girls while I was a collegian, my sister-daughter included.

Chapters can terminate a new member's pledgeship for whatever reason, right?

fantASTic · #6 02-25-2009, 01:29 AM

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Originally Posted by OTW

We had the same thing happen for a few girls while I was a collegian, my sister-daughter included.

Chapters can terminate a new member's pledgeship for whatever reason, right?

Not AST. We are not allowed to revote on new members.

lyrelyre · #7 02-25-2009, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Smile_Awhile

I can tell you that it's my org's policiy that bids are extended for a calendar year. We had two cases this past semester that received bids in the fall, but were unable to finish the process because of personal issues. During our spring recruitment (informal), they came back through recruitment. But there was no turning them down, as their bid was still active.

Beware, though! This may not hold true for all orgs!

I think this must be a campus rule.

PM_Mama00 · #8 02-25-2009, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by phisiglindsey

I would say your best bet is to contact HQ of the sorority to where you were a new member. They could tell you if you are able to continue with that sorority.

Do NOT go to HQ. This might sound mean and I don't mean for it to, but they have more important issues to deal with. Talk to the President of the sorority (or membership director maybe) and they can talk to the appropriate HQ person. (Inter)Nationals have advisors for every department of sorority life and you might not necessarily know who to go to. Also like has been mentioned, the President would know if they are over total and what not.

Smile_Awhile · #9 02-25-2009, 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by lyrelyre

I think this must be a campus rule.

I'm sure it's possible. But your reasoning for saying that?

33girl · #10 02-26-2009, 02:30 PM

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Originally Posted by lyrelyre

I think this must be a campus rule.

No, that's a Panhellenic rule. They didn't leave campus or transfer, they just couldn't/didn't finish pledging and so are still bound unless the sorority releases them. The thing that is screwy in smile_awhile's scenario is that the girls should NOT have gone through rush again.

ForeverRoses · #11 02-26-2009, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Smile_Awhile

I can tell you that it's my org's policiy that bids are extended for a calendar year. We had two cases this past semester that received bids in the fall, but were unable to finish the process because of personal issues. During our spring recruitment (informal), they came back through recruitment. But there was no turning them down, as their bid was still active.

Beware, though! This may not hold true for all orgs!

This was the rule when I was in school (on my campus). In fact, we had a girl that didn't get initiated for personal reasons, then re-rushed the next year. We were told by our advisor that her bid from us was still good until pref night. So she could decide the day of pref that she really wanted her bid with us and not go through pref or even go to pref, not sign her bid card and re-accept her bid with us. It was really screwy and I haven't heard of other schools with this rule (note: it was not just my org, it was a campus panhel rule as far as I can tell, since another group did have someone renew their bid after attempting to re-rush).

texas*princess · #12 02-25-2009, 08:49 PM

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Originally Posted by phisiglindsey

I would say your best bet is to contact HQ of the sorority to where you were a new member. They could tell you if you are able to continue with that sorority.

Agreed.

Question answered, thread over

violetpretty · #13 02-25-2009, 01:36 PM

I might be wrong so of course the best thing to do would be to check with the chapter president and/or adviser, but...

I would think that the slate would be clean for both cannon37 and the chapter she pledged. I think she needs to be extended another bid to rejoin. She is free to go through recruitment and join any chapter that bids her, and the chapter is not bound to give her a bid.

I say this because when a woman pledges a chapter without initiating into it and then transfers, she is eligible to go through recruitment at her new school right away. The "you can't go through recruitment for a calendar year after signing a bid" becomes null and void when the woman transfers, so I don't see why the bid at the chapter at her first school would still be good.

OneHeartOneWay · #14 02-25-2009, 02:15 PM

Aside from her chapter's policy, wouldn't Panhellenic need to be invovled, as well? If the chapter filled her NM spot with another NM, or is over total, they may not be able to add her to thier roster, even if the sorority's policies state that the bid is still "active/open."

33girl · #15 02-25-2009, 06:27 PM

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Originally Posted by OneHeartOneWay

Aside from her chapter's policy, wouldn't Panhellenic need to be invovled, as well? If the chapter filled her NM spot with another NM, or is over total, they may not be able to add her to thier roster, even if the sorority's policies state that the bid is still "active/open."

As violetpretty said - her pledge to her sorority was broken when she transferred. If the chapter's at total then yeah, she's SOL.