Is it Cheating?

da1udesire2005 · #1 01-30-2004, 09:25 PM

Is it considered cheating if your man looks at porn? I personally dont think its cheating unless he starts fantasizing about the women in the porn. I dunno tell me what you think. . . .

Eclipse · #2 01-31-2004, 01:14 AM

If he's looking, he's fantasizing. Why else would a man look at a nekkid woman? LOL

tld221 · #3 01-31-2004, 01:23 AM

women fantasize just like men do...so are we cheating?

NO. its fabricated. i think most will agree.

but if theyre looking at it before/during/after intimate moments, thats a problem. still, not cheating, but an issue. remember, if you can have sex with him, you can talk about whats goin on.

brickhouse492 · #4 01-31-2004, 05:40 PM

I do not think it is cheating. I would much rather my man look at porn instead of physically cheating or trying to date another woman behind my back.

Diva_01 · #5 01-31-2004, 08:06 PM

I'm with you brick. I'd much rather he look at it than cheat on me as well. I think that's it's perfectly fine as well as he wasn't addicted to it or needed in order to be turned on to or enjoy sex. A lot of men do it and he will probably rebel if you tell him not to do it... let the man handle his business!

Strive · #6 01-31-2004, 09:52 PM

It depends on how you define cheating.

For some people cheating only counts when two people physically connects. Others consider cheating counts when you are thinking about connecting with some one.

In my opionion, when a boyfriend/husband choose porn movie over his girlfirend/wife, that is definitely cheating.

SummerChild · #7 02-01-2004, 01:05 PM

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Originally posted by da1udesire2005
Is it considered cheating if your man looks at porn? I personally dont think its cheating unless he starts fantasizing about the women in the porn. I dunno tell me what you think. . . .

I don't think so.
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Intense1920 · #8 02-01-2004, 04:22 PM

I don't consider it cheating. Like others have said if your mate becomes addicted and all of his attention is devoted to porn, then it's a problem and needs to be worked on.

Strive · #9 02-01-2004, 05:24 PM

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Originally posted by James
ITs not a cheating issue at all . . . thats not even the right question. The question is whether the possibility that he needs porn to be stimulated, or is picturing other women when he is with you, bothers you.

And thats your problem really, not his, unless you make it his lol . . .

I didn't read the question that way.

James · #10 02-01-2004, 05:31 PM

I think you are right. I got caught up in the replies . ..

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Originally posted by Strive
I didn't read the question that way.

NaturalDelta · #11 02-02-2004, 12:27 AM

Internet Porn is a gateway to cheating. Recently on The View, that question was asked and they mentioned that many men begin cheating after seeing that. They start to fantasize about certain things, and try to go out and get it.

djjukebox · #12 02-02-2004, 11:21 AM

He could fantasize about other Women just looking at MTV, BET or Janet Jackson's white meat Superbowl performance lol...

Really... it's not cheating unless he's cheating... He's cheating if he's intimate with another person.

Fantasy, masterbation and a few other things are not cheating.

SKEEphistAKAte · #13 02-02-2004, 12:33 PM

No, it's not cheating. I'll leave it at that.

Love_Spell_6 · #14 02-02-2004, 05:52 PM

Heck no its not cheating... Cause when I'm watching Ray Lewis play...Im thinking about more than his Tight Defensive playing skills

.. ITs all fantasizing..

preachdawg · #15 02-02-2004, 06:35 PM

As a Preacher I deal with this question all the time. Is it? or isn't it? Hard question because cheating is relative. now Adultry is a whole different thing entirely. By biblical definition it is having intercourse with someone other than your spouse. So you are not committing adultry, btu it can lead to it. In philosphy we would call maturbation, and the likes the lesser of 2 evils. Unfortunalitely Bible doesn't fully address maturbation, if at all. Anybody have any private questions just PM me. Peace!!

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