Hello

[SandCastleQueen]

I am new here I just wanted to stop in and say hello to my fellow PNAIMs. Hopefully we can all find our homes at the end of this wonderful journey!

[33girl]

Just an FYI...

It is best to be as discreet as possible in your AI pursuit. If you are looking at a particular group or groups it is best to keep that information private.

[SandCastleQueen]

Thank you for the advice!

[ree-Xi]

Yes... and take the GLO name off any and all posts.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Yes... and take the GLO name off any and all posts.

Quoted and bolded for emphasis. This includes posting in the forum of the GLO in which you are interested.

[SandCastleQueen]

Why is it that AI is this big secretive process? Girls going through rush are not told to hide the fact that they are pursuing sororities, why should women who are attempting AI be told to hide the groups they are interested in?

This post isn't meant to be rude or cocky, it's a genuine question!

[kddani]

Originally Posted by SandCastleQueen

Why is it that AI is this big secretive process? Girls going through rush are not told to hide the fact that they are pursuing sororities, why should women who are attempting AI be told to hide the groups they are interested in?

This post isn't meant to be rude or cocky, it's a genuine question!

Take some time to educate yourself before asking questions. There are tons and tons of posts on here about AI.

FYI, many people (and many sororities) believe that AI is an honor to be bestowed, not something that a woman should pursue.

[icelandelf]

Originally Posted by kddani

Take some time to educate yourself before asking questions. There are tons and tons of posts on here about AI.

FYI, many people (and many sororities) believe that AI is an honor to be bestowed, not something that a woman should pursue.

Completely agree. If you want information about AI and a specific GLO, you need to go to their official website and you will more than likely be able to find the information you seek.

[SandCastleQueen]

From what I have gathered through research, there are quite a few sororities that are very welcoming and accepting of women that pursue them. Not to say that they initiate every woman that contacts them regarding AI, but I feel like they are more accepting of it than a lot of people on this site. Who knows, I could be wrong, but that's how I feel about it.

[texas*princess]

Because AI is NOT the same thing as collegiate recruitment.

For most sororities AI is reserved for women who members believe hold the ideals of their sisterhood, women who are not members and contribute time and resources to the sorority/sorority's cause (for example, there is a thread here about a woman who advised a local college chapter and was not a member, or mothers of members who contribute,etc), are outstanding community leaders, etc.

In other words, it is something a group does to honor a specific person.

Many women (feel free to read the threads here) did not rush... or rush and got cut... or whatever... and 30 years later, they are trying to fulfill this college dream of theirs to be in a sorority and use AI as a backdoor to join one. For many sororities it is simply not appropriate for random people to contact them to see if they have AI, and how does it work, and how can I join, etc.

[SandCastleQueen]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

Many women (feel free to read the threads here) did not rush... or rush and got cut... or whatever... and 30 years later, they are trying to fulfill this college dream of theirs to be in a sorority and use AI as a backdoor to join one.

I can understand why people would get upset over that. However, my personal reasons for seeking out AI has to do with philanthropy and being able to serve in some way (as an advisor, alum chapter officer, etc.)

I know that many women probably have ulterior motives, but I do not!

Sorry if I opened a can of worms, I was just curious!

[PenguinTrax]

As has been mentioned, please read the Forum information at the top of the folder, plus the Forum TOS and read back through the MANY MANY posts on this topic.

Regardless, play nice ya'll. I know we haven't had any drama around here lately and that's just fine my lil' ol' me. ;-)

[violetpretty]

It's better to be on the down low because if someone sees that you are pursuing their GLO for AI, and they think your reasons for wanting it are stupid, they might see to it that you have no chance in hell for becoming a member through AI. AFAIK, every NPC does AI (they vary in how rare it is), but in most cases, the org approaches the woman instead of vice versa. I personally don't have a problem with people asking my sorority's HQ about AI, because I know that my sorority's HQ will choose the right women for AI.

[baci]

ITA^^,violetpretty.

I do feel this can be a sensitive topic, but we have to have respect for everyone here and that includes someone coming to ask questions. I just feel delivery on certain responses can be a bit harsh. There are people that come to AI for the wrong reasons, but on the flip side there are some people that are amazing. There is so much involved regarding an individual's quest for AI and I feel in the end it does work out the way it should. I always try and treat people the way I would like to be treated or I manage to remain silent.

[AlphaFrog]

Stop looking for drama. You've obviously read enough to figure out the PNAM acronym, which means you read enough to realize your posts would cause drama. And it's pretty generic drama at that. If you're going to start drama, at least make it entertaining.