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01-25-2010, 05:45 AM
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Denied...Denied...Accepted?
Hey Ladies!
My roommates and I were having a discussion regarding NPHC orgs and one roommate is an interest of 'ABC' sorority. She applied for membership during Spr. 08...however, she was not accepted. She definitely intends to try again next time, but we were wondering if she were denied again...and again the next time...and again another time... would she eventually be accepted?
I realize that if they had to have denied her membership for some reason or another, (i.e. grades, com. service [or lack therof], etc] but once everything was "up to par" with even the MINIMUM requirements of that org and after years of trying ...would she eventually be accepted even if she had to go through an alumnae chapter?
I hope this question makes a little sense, LOL. If not, I can try to clarify...and if REALLY not then...I'll hang my head in shame.
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01-25-2010, 11:43 AM
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Originally Posted by aspiringchica08
Hey Ladies!
My roommates and I were having a discussion regarding NPHC orgs and one roommate is an interest of 'ABC' sorority. She applied for membership during Spr. 08...however, she was not accepted. She definitely intends to try again next time, but we were wondering if she were denied again...and again the next time...and again another time... would she eventually be accepted?
I realize that if they had to have denied her membership for some reason or another, (i.e. grades, com. service [or lack therof], etc] but once everything was "up to par" with even the MINIMUM requirements of that org and after years of trying ...would she eventually be accepted even if she had to go through an alumnae chapter?
I hope this question makes a little sense, LOL. If not, I can try to clarify...and if REALLY not then...I'll hang my head in shame.
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Your question makes sense but it's still dumb.
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01-25-2010, 01:59 PM
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Your question makes sense but it's still dumb.
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01-25-2010, 12:01 PM
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Hm..okay thanks!
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01-25-2010, 12:34 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by aspiringchica08
I realize that if they had to have denied her membership for some reason or another, (i.e. grades, com. service [or lack therof], etc] but once everything was "up to par" with even the MINIMUM requirements of that org and after years of trying ...would she eventually be accepted even if she had to go through an alumnae chapter?
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Do you typically go to restaurants, buy clothing, and date men that only meet your MINIMUM requirements? (It's edible, it fits, it has a penis)
Sorry ladies, that just stuck out at me. Going back to my lane
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01-25-2010, 01:25 PM
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Thanks for your response...
What I meant by that was I know that orgs do not want to accept membership of an aspirant who meets only minumim req.
But when I said everything was "up to par...even with minimum req.", I can't say what up to par may mean with that particular org. To a NG, it may mean one thing and something totally different to a Greek. So I just said even the minimum to say that she has at least done comm. service, has good academics, things of that sort.
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01-25-2010, 02:06 PM
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Originally Posted by aspiringchica08
Hey Ladies!
I realize that if they had to have denied her membership for some reason or another, (i.e. grades, com. service [or lack therof], etc] but once everything was "up to par" with even the MINIMUM requirements of that org and after years of trying ...would she eventually be accepted even if she had to go through an alumnae chapter?
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If everything isn't up to par right NOW why is she even applying at this time???
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01-25-2010, 02:20 PM
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Aspiringchica08, NPHC organizations expect applicants to keep applying as many times as necessary. The more you apply, the more it looks like 'its in your heart'.
The rejection takes over as basically a mind game that applicants are somehow, missing something from their lives if they don't keep trying harder to be a member. The rejection also is supposed to make applicants hold dear, the principles of lifetime commitment, since it took alot of 'work and rejection' to become a member.
Amazing how grad chapters may boast having 500 members/200 financial members, yet the lifetime commitment of service is only carried out by 50 members. What happened to the other 450???
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01-25-2010, 02:34 PM
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Aspiringchica08, NPHC organizations expect applicants to keep applying as many times as necessary.
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That's crazy talk.
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01-25-2010, 02:35 PM
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Amazing how grad chapters may boast having 500 members/200 financial members, yet the lifetime commitment of service is only carried out by 50 members. What happened to the other 450???
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Umm. And what did this have to do with her question?
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01-25-2010, 05:09 PM
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Spinderella has a point--and she would know. Personally I don't know anyone who hadn't been denied at least twice before being accepted into their org of choice. It took me four tries. And although she probably won't admit it, Dr. Phil shared with me that it took her three times.
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01-25-2010, 05:31 PM
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Originally Posted by ladygreek
Spinderella has a point--and she would know. Personally I don't know anyone who hadn't been denied at least twice before being accepted into their org of choice. It took me four tries. And although she probably won't admit it, Dr. Phil shared with me that it took her three times.
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Only 3-4 times? It mustve been in your heart, deep in your heart.
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01-25-2010, 07:19 PM
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Originally Posted by ladygreek
Spinderella has a point--and she would know. Personally I don't know anyone who hadn't been denied at least twice before being accepted into their org of choice. It took me four tries. And although she probably won't admit it, Dr. Phil shared with me that it took her three times.
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This is why I can't confide in you. Mouth almighty!!!!
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01-25-2010, 07:24 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Spinderella
Aspiringchica08, NPHC organizations expect applicants to keep applying as many times as necessary. The more you apply, the more it looks like 'its in your heart'.
The rejection takes over as basically a mind game that applicants are somehow, missing something from their lives if they don't keep trying harder to be a member. The rejection also is supposed to make applicants hold dear, the principles of lifetime commitment, since it took alot of 'work and rejection' to become a member.
Amazing how grad chapters may boast having 500 members/200 financial members, yet the lifetime commitment of service is only carried out by 50 members. What happened to the other 450???
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Since you can't possibly have been exposed to thousands of members in hundreds of chapters across the U.S. and beyond, your personal experience (on the outside looking in of course) means nothing. Perhaps the members that you know personally would be the best persons to answer your questions. Right now you just sound like a typical hater and the worst kind; the kind that thinks they know (swears they know) when they don't. You should explore why that is. Rejection maybe?
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