Divorce: Why is it So Prevelant?

AKA2D '91 · #1 11-28-2005, 06:44 PM

I had to make this it's own thread. I just learned...
http://stlamerican.com/articles/2005...ingit00001.txt

I'm saddened to hear about this and all of the others of late:
Eddie, Gabrielle, Babyface, Jessica/Nick,Terrance (again) now Morris.
Is it "Hollywood PC" to NOT be married these days?

What's really going on?

unspokenone25 · #2 11-28-2005, 11:15 PM

Soror...you mean Morris Chestnutt?! Didn't know he was off on the market? Hmmmmmmmmmmm...

Tickled Pink 2 · #3 11-28-2005, 11:19 PM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91
...Is it "Hollywood PC" to NOT be married these days?

What's really going on?

It seems to be. Something is definately going on in Hollywood. They need some strong married couples to step up and set positive examples. Someone needs to tell Hollywood couples that marriage is NOT a game - it takes work - and just because you have the $$ and easy access to leave does not mean you can do whatever you want - be it abuse, infidelity, or just plain unwilling to compromise & then jump up and get a divorce.

On another note - all of this press concerning Angelina Jolie's and Brad Pitt's "relationship" is sickening. It's just not cute.

emeraldAKA99 · #4 11-29-2005, 12:17 AM

I never even knew he was married.

PerfectPearl · #5 11-29-2005, 01:10 AM

I am dumbfounded. I didn't know he had a wife, let alone a Pam. You know Pam is a sistah. I wish them the best of luck.

darling1 · #6 11-29-2005, 01:12 AM

judging from the article, it seems that morris needs to check himself. you dont roll out of a marriage cuz your wife aint 'hearing' you.

tickled, i agree with you. not just hollywood folks, but any of us in long term relationships or are looking to find success in one need to understand that it is hard work; alot of give and take and at times each one giving more than what they may want for the greater good.

i too am sickened by this brad/angelina thing.

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Originally posted by Tickled Pink 2
It seems to be. Something is definately going on in Hollywood. They need some strong married couples to step up and set positive examples. Someone needs to tell Hollywood couples that marriage is NOT a game - it takes work - and just because you have the $$ and easy access to leave does not mean you can do whatever you want - be it abuse, infidelity, or just plain unwilling to compromise & then jump up and get a divorce.

On another note - all of this press concerning Angelina Jolie's and Brad Pitt's "relationship" is sickening. It's just not cute.

btb87 · #7 11-29-2005, 09:46 AM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91
Is it "Hollywood PC" to NOT be married these days?

What's really going on?

Soror, although you didn't ask, I'm beginning to believe it's an epidemic not only in H'wood, but everywhere. As others have noted, marriage is HARD work! If two people don't want to work at it, it's bound to fail, especially with so many other things vying for one's attention.

AKA2D '91 · #8 11-29-2005, 10:04 AM

No, but...

I just found it intriguing that soooooooo many celebrity couples are asking for separations or divorces, ESPECIALLY some of the(what we thought were) successful AF AM "power couples".

stardusttwin · #9 11-29-2005, 01:10 PM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91
No, but...

I just found it intriguing that soooooooo many celebrity couples are asking for separations or divorces, ESPECIALLY some of the(what we thought were) successful AF AM "power couples".

I'm really not all that surprised at some of the recent divorces...I wonder if their close friends are even surprised. Just because you are in the public limelight doesn't mean you are making the right choice for a life partner.

Eddie's marriage has been suspect for years.

Gabrielle and Morris have both been married less than 4 years. Seems they both got to that point where the honeymoon wore off - either you can deal with the person or you can't.

Nick/Jessica - if you've seen just one episode of Newlyweds you wonder how Nick stuck it out as long as he did - no on's virginity is worth the nonsense he put up with!

Terrence - while his wife left him I would hardly refer to them as a power couple - actually I applaud her for leaving now cause it would have been easy to stay now that he's making steady money.

The only couple that really surprised me was Babyface & Tracey Edmonds. It seemed that they had worked out being the power couple both holding down demanding jobs.

I think celebrities get caught up just like real life people. How many people do you know that got caught up with the wedding and the planning and gave little thought to the actual marriage?

AKA2D '91 · #10 11-29-2005, 01:18 PM

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Originally posted by stardusttwin
. How many people do you know that got caught up with the wedding and the planning and gave little thought to the actual marriage?

Ha! Ha! I understand what you are saying. I know one person in that situation. However, until recently (since Katrina) I didn't know too many people getting married.

It just seemed that once the divorce ball in Hollywood started rolling, it hasn't stopped. I'm thinking who will be next?

DC_Zeta1920 · #11 11-29-2005, 01:33 PM

Just like in real life, these people were not ready to be married. Point Blank.

I think some people are more in love with the wedding planning than the marriage itself. Maybe, just maybe if people will realize that marriage does not equate to fairy tale land then maybe they would last.

Conskeeted7 · #12 11-29-2005, 03:11 PM

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Originally posted by DC_Zeta1920
Just like in real life, these people were not ready to be married. Point Blank.

I think some people are more in love with the wedding planning than the marriage itself. Maybe, just maybe if people will realize that marriage does not equate to fairy tale land than maybe they would last.

I have to agree that many people expect marriage to be a fairy tale. When the 'honeymoon' ends and they have to deal with real issues, they would rather just leave. This stems from not being truly committed in the first place. If you are committed to your marriage, you will not let money, kids or sex (the top reasons for divorce) deter you from your relationship. Additionally, a lot of people are unprepared mentally and emotionally for dealing with another person on the level that marriage requires.

irishpipes · #13 11-29-2005, 03:16 PM

Sorry to crash, but this is an interesting and sad topic. I think one reason Hollywood people divorce so much is that they have so much money. For most people, divorce brings on heavy financial consequences to both parties. The Hollywooders are not going to encounter a drastic change in their lifestyle if they split, so that is one huge deterrent gone. I'm not saying it is the only reason, but I think it contributes.

btb87 · #14 11-29-2005, 07:17 PM

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Originally posted by Conskeeted7
If you are committed to your marriage, you will not let money, kids or sex (the top reasons for divorce) deter you from your relationship. Additionally, a lot of people are unprepared mentally and emotionally for dealing with another person on the level that marriage requires.

Preach, Soror preacher!
*Soror btb passing 'round the offering plate. . .*

unspokenone25 · #15 11-29-2005, 07:40 PM

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Originally posted by btb87
Soror, although you didn't ask, I'm beginning to believe it's an epidemic not only in H'wood, but everywhere. As others have noted, marriage is HARD work! If two people don't want to work at it, it's bound to fail, especially with so many other things vying for one's attention.

Soror, I agree. People are "falling in love" with the idea of being married and not realizing that marriage (and the relationship leading up to) is truly hard work. I know so many people that I went to high school with that got divorce b/c they wanted to add "I'm married" onto their resumes as another accomplishment in their life.