If you could do it again...RE: Clothing

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by mom2ee

okay PLEASE help this PNM momma out and not only give me the dresses, but the web site to order. down to the wire and precious angel daughter wont worry about clothes!

Not to pry, but if she doesn't even want to put in the effort to find clothes for recruitment, does she REALLY want to go through, or is she being pressured into trying it? If she actually does want to be in a sorority, she needs a major reality check. Recruitment requires some effort put in, as does sorority life in general. Those recruitment skits don't appear out of thin air, greek week doesn't win itself, and initiation doesn't just happen! If she's not willing to put in the time, does she really want to be there?

[ColdInCanada11]

Originally Posted by FleurGirl

Not to pry, but if she doesn't even want to put in the effort to find clothes for recruitment, does she REALLY want to go through, or is she being pressured into trying it? If she actually does want to be in a sorority, she needs a major reality check. Recruitment requires some effort put in, as does sorority life in general. Those recruitment skits don't appear out of thin air, greek week doesn't win itself, and initiation doesn't just happen! If she's not willing to put in the time, does she really want to be there?

Co-sign on this. She's an adult going to university. It is not THAT difficult to find clothes if you allow the proper amount of time. Are you going to fly in and do everything for her every single time something needs to be done?

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by FleurGirl

Not to pry, but if she doesn't even want to put in the effort to find clothes for recruitment, does she REALLY want to go through, or is she being pressured into trying it? If she actually does want to be in a sorority, she needs a major reality check. Recruitment requires some effort put in, as does sorority life in general. Those recruitment skits don't appear out of thin air, greek week doesn't win itself, and initiation doesn't just happen! If she's not willing to put in the time, does she really want to be there?

Or, alternatively, she feels that she doesn't want to join an organization that will judge her so much on her looks, and feels that putting in more effort now than she would as a pledge is counterproductive for everyone involved.

[ColdInCanada11]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Or, alternatively, she feels that she doesn't want to join an organization that will judge her so much on her looks, and feels that putting in more effort now than she would as a pledge is counterproductive for everyone involved.

I think that there is a correlation between recruitment and the type of Greek life you would experience after. For example, you can wear jeans and a t-shirt for all three open rounds, and a nice skirt and top for preference at my school- a casual, laid back school (There are about 100 Greeks/27,000 students). We don't have homecoming, we have two formals a year, there are 3 mixers/exchanges with fraternities a term, everything is at someone's house (we're unhoused here). However, at bigger schools where there is a very specific dress code (ie. Shorts and shirt on day one, sundress on day two, etc), Greek life tends to be more involved. There are most likely far more mixers, semi-formals, Greek week, etc. Therefore, she's probably going to have to be more conscious of dress codes anyways.

This has been said a million times, but people will judge you on your appearance. It in no way means that you have to spend 3 hours a day getting ready, it just means that you have to figure out what makes you look put together.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by ColdInCanada11

I think that there is a correlation between recruitment and the type of Greek life you would experience after. For example, you can wear jeans and a t-shirt for all three open rounds, and a nice skirt and top for preference at my school- a casual, laid back school (There are about 100 Greeks/27,000 students). We don't have homecoming, we have two formals a year, there are 3 mixers/exchanges with fraternities a term, everything is at someone's house (we're unhoused here). However, at bigger schools where there is a very specific dress code (ie. Shorts and shirt on day one, sundress on day two, etc), Greek life tends to be more involved. There are most likely far more mixers, semi-formals, Greek week, etc. Therefore, she's probably going to have to be more conscious of dress codes anyways.

This has been said a million times, but people will judge you on your appearance. It in no way means that you have to spend 3 hours a day getting ready, it just means that you have to figure out what makes you look put together.

Agreed on all points, but it also varies from chapter to chapter. If a girl is not one to dress up often, then it doesn't make sense for her to dress up for recruitment and end up in a chapter where she is not a good fit.

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Or, alternatively, she feels that she doesn't want to join an organization that will judge her so much on her looks, and feels that putting in more effort now than she would as a pledge is counterproductive for everyone involved.

That's sort of like saying you don't feel like looking for nice clothes for your job interview, because you don't want them to hire you based on your looks. However, in both scenarios you have a very brief period to make a good impression, and someone who looks like they've invested some energy into making themselves presentable will win out every time. It's more about putting your best foot forward and showing off your best self than being judged solely on appearance.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by FleurGirl

That's sort of like saying you don't feel like looking for nice clothes for your job interview, because you don't want them to hire you based on your looks. However, in both scenarios you have a very brief period to make a good impression, and someone who looks like they've invested some energy into making themselves presentable will win out every time. It's more about putting your best foot forward and showing off your best self than being judged solely on appearance.

No, it's not like that at all, as much as people like this analogy around here. There is a huge difference between dressing appropriately for an event, and spending weeks in advance preparing outfits and accessories for an event.

Dressing to the nines and getting manicures, spray tans, and spanx for recruitment when you never plan to do those things again is NOT going to help you find the chapter that is the best fit.

[TNAuburnMom]

Originally Posted by FleurGirl

Not to pry, but if she doesn't even want to put in the effort to find clothes for recruitment, does she REALLY want to go through, or is she being pressured into trying it? If she actually does want to be in a sorority, she needs a major reality check. Recruitment requires some effort put in, as does sorority life in general. Those recruitment skits don't appear out of thin air, greek week doesn't win itself, and initiation doesn't just happen! If she's not willing to put in the time, does she really want to be there?

Found out they have been dealing with a family emergency and unable to get out to shop. Plan B is to order some things online and use a lot of what she has in her closet.

[Sciencewoman]

To look at it from a different angle, I loved clothes, but I HATED shopping with my mom when I was that age. She'd always go for the sale-price item, even if I hated it, just because it was on sale; she'd find something else to go try on that she spotted while we were checking out, etc. She'd stay in the store for 8 hours if she could. It could be a case of that...daughter is showing her independent side before she heads off to college. I bought everything on my own once I got to college...there was a darling boutique right by campus, and the ladies there were really helpful.

[happilyanchored]

I just went through about 100+ pages of polyvore dresses and could not find it I'm sorry. I did come up with a few others though and here are the links to the main pieces:


dress, shoes


dress, shoes

[justgo_withit]

^Is it wrong of me to think that the shoes for the second set look like they have nipples? I am taking a women's health class right now, it may be controlling my mind...

[happilyanchored]

Maybe just a little...or I may just be so madly in love with cap-toed shoes right now that I refuse to see them like that :P

[justgo_withit]

I like them much better from the head-on perspective/on people, but that picture definitely had me choking on my bowl of cocoa puffs! I particularly like them with the pink-ish pants, looks very effortless for a heel.

[UFgatorx3]

BAHHAHA. oh my gosh the people on here are so funny! i love it! okay thank you for those links i realllly love both those dresses as well! okay guys i officially declare that we need to have a weekend where everyone on GC gets together to go shopping.

kthanksbye

[WhiteDaisy128]

The red dress: Link to Asos -- it's out of stock.

Random google fact. If you open up a google image search, you can drag and drop images to the search bar and it'll find image matches. I dragged the image from GC to find a match on google images.