identical twins, different universities, overlapping recruitments... - Page 15

Drolefille · #**211** 07-10-2007, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by tld221

see, i thought it was just an overzealous PNM who would have her certainty crushed... but who knows, it seems like she committed a slew of rush faux-pas knowing that she had it in the bag anyway...

I agree with you on the overzealousness; I'm surprised by the extremes some people have gone to with their guessing!

Faith4Keep · #**212** 07-10-2007, 10:49 AM

Yeah, I guess in my experience (reading retro threads and my own recruitment) PNMs who have said stuff like "I'm definitely going XYZ" or "I know I'm going to get a bid to ABC" usually are just on their best behavior at the chapter during recruitment, making sure they are not crossing their legs (only their ankles), smiling a whole lot, and carrying good conversation. Then, as you said, many times they heart-breakingly get cut.

In this story, Callie runs into the house and says things to the actives like, "I can't wait to be your sister" or "I can't wait to live here!" as opposed to just saying these things to the PNMs. I guess that's the only difference I see. But it could still be sheer overzealous-ness.

amanda6035 · #**213** 07-10-2007, 10:50 AM

All I can say is, I'm glad I didnt go to a school with alot of sororities, and I'm glad I am the first greek in my family. {Un}fortunately for any legacies I may have - I'm a founder of my chapter. I really really REALLY hope that they dont go through this Legacy CRAP. Being a legacy is great....if that's what the girl wants, but it really sucks for girls who want their homes to be elsewhere, and that chapter doesnt give them a chance, just BECAUSE they are a legacy. At the same time - that chapter - such as deer valley - doesnt really "have a choice" in who they pick, because they are practically being forced to give bids to legacies and legacies only.

Woohoo-join my chapter! your mom/aunt/sister/grandma was a member so you have to be too!

recruitment · #**214** 07-10-2007, 10:57 AM

another predicate... and only one other after this. this, at least in my opinion, will help many of the participants in this thread with some confusion about my family... and will hopefully clarify a few aspects of our lives. thank you for your anticipated understanding.

no, our father was not president of the university nor was he a famous politiician... he was an excellent and highly respected attorney. remember... i was the one who went away to school.

my father's family had been and were truly blessed... but they were most certainly a true blessing to so many people... especially our city. they were very phlianthropic in their generoisty. they truly helped make our city a much finer place to live, love and enjoy life. they loved the arts and were very generous. there were a few "places" named after them, so consequently our last name was quite well known... and we consequently always were asked... "not that family!"

now, please... please no negative comments, i am not bragging nor am i saying "look how wonderful and beautiful i am"... this was just a truly wonderful moment in my life. my senior year in high school, i was given the wonderful opportunity to meet and get to know many young ladies from large cities, medium size towns to small towns and, yes, even farms... and those young ladies were truly among the most poised and charming as "ufpiphi" has said. i really do not this want it spoiled, but it explains why so many people knew us or knew of us. football is big in the state where we lived. near the end of football season... on the road to a state championshsip, they also had another road for the ladies. we had an "all state homecoming queen." at the beginning of playoffs they gathered all, and i mean all... of the homecoming queens from all over the entire state to select the "all state homecoming queen." no one from my school or our our city had ever won this title. this was the closest thing to a "beauty pagent" i had ever been exposed to... on the outside i was trying to be very poised but inside i knew i was totally out of my element and i knew it and i was very frigthened. i had just turned seventeen and had never been to or though anything like this and i was not schooled in "beauty pagents" like many of the other ladies had been. that was really "unchartered territory" for me. this was probably the only time in my entire life that i regretted our mother shielding us from what she had endured with the miss america pagent.

mother is definitely a different generation... and no she did not compete in pagents all over everywhere. back then she was the beauty queen for her university who then had to represent her university in the state pagent. she was and is a strikenly beautiful woman, she is almost "regal" in her bearing and appearance. she had absolutely no idea what she was getting into... it was just a a responsibillity she had to fulfill... but there were wonderful scholarships and she had to represent her university. well... represent them she did. our grandmother, like our mother... had schooled her well with music and vocal lessons most of her life. she won the first and only time she had ever competed in anything like that, but that is how it was back then... and that was her life. she really did not care for the whole spectacle of atlantic city and was actually very glad and relieved she did not win and never expected to. however, she thoroughly enjoyed the activities and duties during the ensuing year while she represented our state... especially the fully insured corvette convertible she got to drive for a year. that part of it would have been wonderful, but all of the parades and fairs and events got old and really interferred with her education. like many, she soon realized that she need to either take the entire year off or drastically reduce the number of hours and activities she could take or participate in. her universiity was wonderful in accomodating her... but she also felt as though they made far too much of it, but it was a "bragging right" and a source of pride for her smaller university... and especially her sorority. she never goes to any of the reunions or the state pagent.

so i get the privilege of going and participatiing in this huge gathering of all of the young ladies who were the respective homecoming queens from seemingly every school in our state... large and small. oh... they were stunning! i think it really frightened all of us... all of these young ladies dressed in so many different ways, so many differernt types of girls and so much anticipation and joy. but along with that same the typical high school drama. screaming, yelling and crying. in retrospect, it was somewhat like recruitment and helped me somewhat understand what might happen. mother had found this abolutely gorgeous fulled beaded gown... not flowing, but a sheath that to me just oozed of elegance (and, yes... i wore hose with sequins of the back... lol... but they did not show as it was a full length gown and it fit me!) wow, she has great taste! i felt like a "queen" and that really helped make me feel much more at ease and made the entire experience fun and interesting. i did not retreat into my very poised and quiet style, i wanted to enjoy this as this was the only time in my life i would ever get to do anything remotely like this and it was a truly wonderful experience. even syd was alright with it and was vicariously enjoying it through me... and she was with me every step of the way until we were presented (good training for the debutante season to soon follow!) much to everyone's surprise, i won. so i had met truly wonderful, beautiful, funny, kind, caring, elegant, normal, funny, witty and intelligent young ladies from all over my state. we all know how overly dramatic high school girls can get... and this was high school drama as high as it can get. i loved it and loved everyone i met. i must admit i did not know that i would have to go to all of the football games, large and small, all over creation and smile, wave and watch all of these football games from schools i had never heard of. for me, it got old really fast and took me away from "my real life"... until the large schools came on their march to the state championship... that, for me, made it the thing of dreams and made for a truly wonderful year. so, going to a large comrehensive state university, beinig the "all state homecoming queen"... people i had never met knew me and knew syd... or knew of us. so i went into recruitment having people so graciously greet me as though we had been friends forever. but again... that was a "positive - negative".... as there were those who totally disdained the entire spectacle... but that is life. for me, it was a year of dreams come true.

sorry for the indulgence... and there is only one other "thing" i promise, all will soon know what i have been alluding to throughout this thread.

cheers!

maximus406 · #**215** 07-10-2007, 10:59 AM

We were always so competitive about legacies, we rushed our own legacies hard and rushed other legacies even harder to make sure they saw another option outside of their legacy. There was certainly competition to "steal" legacies. Maybe that is because I am from a small greek system with only 4 chapters, I don't know.

Double legacies are always fun too, my chapter was so excited because last year they got a new member that was a legacy to DZ and another chapter on campus. Of course she was in house DZ, her sister was in chapter at the time but all the chapters rushed this girl hardcore.

tinydancer16 · #**216** 07-10-2007, 11:21 AM

Even though recruitment didn't refute it in her most recent post, I think I might retract my previous statement about agreeing with AlphaFrog about mom being a bigwig in whichever sorority. In her original post recruitment stated :

"our mother...tended to limit how much she did as an alumna of her sorority. remember that because it is one of the "twists" that makes this entire recruitment saga more comlicated."

I thought I remembered reading something to that effect so I went back and looked...and of course am now left wondering again.........drat.

tld221 · #**217** 07-10-2007, 11:34 AM

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Originally Posted by tinydancer16

Even though recruitment didn't refute it in her most recent post, I think I might retract my previous statement about agreeing with AlphaFrog about mom being a bigwig in whichever sorority. In her original post recruitment stated :

"our mother...tended to limit how much she did as an alumna of her sorority. remember that because it is one of the "twists" that makes this entire recruitment saga more comlicated."

I thought I remembered reading something to that effect so I went back and looked...and of course am now left wondering again.........drat.

that doesnt rule out the "mom being a bigwig" theory - maybe she was a head honcho back in the day and now just lays low on the local alum level, primping her youngings to becoming perfect legacy Aspens... or Deer Valleys, whatever.

tinydancer16 · #**218** 07-10-2007, 11:44 AM

Also a good theory...good grief. Now I'm just confused. Usually I'm good at figuring these things out!

recruitment · #**219** 07-10-2007, 12:47 PM

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I am just happy the story is continuing! And yes, it was me who wrote my entire retro thread and then C&P a little bit at a time not recruitment.

thank you, thank you... i have said that over and over.

no... i am not a "writer." no... i am not an "editor." i am just a normal working woman trying her best to tell her recruitment story, along with that of her sister... and that of her two best friends. i have never, ever thought i was a particularly creative person, i am just too analyical.

i am just writing about our journeys as i go and have been trying to make it as interesting as i am capable of doing. it literally takes forever. granted i write a great deal at work, but it is totally different, totally. i have labored over this thing forever, i never dreamed it would take this much time and so many awful turns. and this format for posting gc uses... i was definitely not prepared for how difficult it can and does get for me, i have a wonderful secretary that "covers" my errors at work and i truly realize how fortunate i am to have her in my professional life. i have always thought i was smart... wrong, i should have done it like maximus406, but isn't hindsight always so much better?

i am just writing as i go... that is why i have made every single grammatical error known to mankind... misspellings, run-on sentences... and dangling participles. i am totally embarassed... and i apologize for not proofing these posts more thoroughly... but i have such a limited about of time. i am truly sorry.

thank you maximus406!

cheers!

tld221 · #**220** 07-10-2007, 12:50 PM

ok great - now finish the story.

(notice that there are no exclamation points or playful smilies. we're effing serious now. finish the G-D story.)

AlphaFrog · #**221** 07-10-2007, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by tld221

ok great - now finish the story.

(notice that there are no exclamation points or playful smilies. we're effing serious now. finish the G-D story.)

I <3 U.

tld is my interracial girly crush.

amanda6035 · #**222** 07-10-2007, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by tld221

ok great - now finish the story.

(notice that there are no exclamation points or playful smilies. we're effing serious now. finish the G-D story.)

Quit being a b*tch. Some of us actually want to read it, instead of attempting to piss her off where she doesnt want to, thanks.

epchick · #**223** 07-10-2007, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by amanda6035

Quit being a b*tch. Some of us actually want to read it, instead of attempting to piss her off where she doesnt want to, thanks.

You need to take a chill pill
How is TLD pissing the OP off? If the OP gets pissed by tld telling her to finish her g-d story, well then so be it.

Seriously, this thread is getting too long and taking too much time. Some people (like me) just want it to be done, so we can see what happens.

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Originally Posted by tld221

ok great - now finish the story.

(notice that there are no exclamation points or playful smilies. we're effing serious now. finish the G-D story.)

I <3 u also tld221!!!

tld221 · #**224** 07-10-2007, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by amanda6035

Quit being a b*tch. Some of us actually want to read it, instead of attempting to piss her off where she doesnt want to, thanks.

no, this is not about being a b*tch. it's about getting on with the friggin story. it's about the OP getting it together and stop being an attention-hungry threadstarter, stringing people along in this allegedly false but nonetheless entertaining retro rush. it's about us taking her seriously as a (potentially) respectable GCer. it's about you not tryna start no chit in here.

and if she's pissed off by li'l ol' me over a retro rush thread (yeah, real fighing words

) well she needs to toughen her e-skin.

AlphaFrog · #**225** 07-10-2007, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by epchick

I <3 u also tld221!!!

I'll fight you for her!!