Rush at UCSC - Page 19

justamom · #**271** 01-04-2002, 10:00 PM

Maybe another meeting is in order. It is important that everyone understad the REASONS behind the other person's opinion. If there are solid reasons, then an explanation is in order. If it's a wishy-washy thing the group dynamic may be getting out of whack. This is a time of give and take for the sake of the future, but you don't want to lose the motivation. Someone has to have been at this point, give it a couple days and I feel the advice will come in. I wish I could help you, but I don't have a clue, I'm just in awe of you and your efforts. If you were mine, I'd give you a hug and a kiss right now!

volgirl2376 · #**272** 01-04-2002, 10:18 PM

ok wishinhopin, im on the verge of moving to california so *I* can help you! Im so excited for you...and so disappointed at the same time that you are having so much trouble with other people...I wish I could do something!

Peaches-n-Cream · #**273** 01-04-2002, 11:41 PM

I'm sorry that you are so frustrated, Corina. I suggest that you read "Seven Steps of Highly Effective People" by Covey. It helps you get organized if you apply the steps.
You and your new sisters can decide what you want from your sorority in terms of rush, dues, and initiation. I still suggest that you begin to function as a sorority even if you don't have rush. You can have weekly meetings for sorority business and weekly sisterhood events like lock ins, ice cream socials, movie nights, lunches, and dinners. When you get into a routine you can move on to other things like parties or mixers, philanthropy or charity events, and, of course, recruitment. I suggest that you and the other core founders brainstorm about what you want from your sorority, prioritize, and set a plan in motion. You can be up and running in a few weeks!
If you aren't sure what you want from your sorority, check out www.npcwomen.org in order to get some ideas. Good luck! I know sometimes it can be frustrating, but you are so close so don't give up!

Peaches-n-Cream · #**274** 01-04-2002, 11:52 PM

Oh I forgot. Committees. When you decide what you priorities are, set up committees and delegate responsibilities. For example, you could have rush, sisterhood, social, fundraising, and scholarship committees. That way everyone can participate and play an important role in your sorority!

amycat412 · #**275** 01-05-2002, 12:24 AM

Postponing rush until Spring is not So bad--
Its 2 months away.
Gives you time to put together a really solid, organized, effective and fun rush.
Gives you time to publicize it.
Gives you time to make sure you are a part of the Univ's Student Groups officially so you can participate in Fall Recruitment right alongside GPhiB.
Its gonna happen, but its gonna take some time.

Hang in there!

Sarah/volgirl -- really? why cali? and where in california?

volgirl2376 · #**276** 01-05-2002, 12:29 AM

I think wishin is from San Diego - too bad Im in boring ol Tennessee

Hey amycat - are you the girl who was talking about meeting Bon Jovi on another thread? If so, my best friend Missy is completely jealous...she has loved them from the beginning - and no letting up now

amycat412 · #**277** 01-05-2002, 12:42 AM

Wishin goes to school in Santa Cruz.

But I think she is from SD.

Yes, Bon Jovi is my boyfriend. He loves me.

LOL!

volgirl2376 · #**278** 01-05-2002, 12:46 AM

ahhh ok - then i need to move to santa cruz to help her

and i wont tell my friend that he is with you now...she would be devestated

amycat412 · #**279** 01-05-2002, 12:59 AM

Sarah- check your PMs

volgirl2376 · #**280** 01-05-2002, 01:04 AM

thanks for the PM - i finally have proof for my friend! do you mind if I show her? you definately make a cute couple!

ps oh yes, your mailbox is full!

amycat412 · #**281** 01-05-2002, 01:21 AM

You can show her.
I just emptied my mailbox.

We DO make a cute couple, don't we? sigh.. ha ha ha

carnation · #**282** 01-05-2002, 10:38 AM

Wishinhopin--

Maybe you can have the local alumnae Panhellenic to come in and talk to your girls about life in an NPC GLO! I really think that once the nationals start coming around, you'll have more interest. Have that meeting with the girls and spell out what you need from them!

wishinhopin · #**283** 01-05-2002, 04:47 PM

I am so very frustrated. None of this would be such a big deal at all if there wasn't the monetary issue behind it. Yes, I would be willing to cut my losses on those shirts, except that I don't have the money for them. Not if I want to eat and buy books also. I tried to call and cancel my order, because if we aren't having rush this quarter, I don't need them, and I guess none of the other girls can help me with any of the costs, so I don't know what to do. I'm freaking out because I have sooooo many other things to stress out about and I don't feel like we are working together to make anything happen, plus I think we need help and we literally do not (from what I know of) have anyone we can turn to for assistance. There's no panhel, no alumni, no supervisors who seem to feel any need to respond to me, no nothing. This is just about as low as I've been feeling about all of this- I just don't know if I can do it. This is so much more difficult than I thought it would be. I don't want to give up but I don't see how I can get it done. I'm sorry this post is so depressing, I'm just frustrated and overwhelmed.

dzsaigirl · #**284** 01-05-2002, 05:26 PM

Are you registered as a student organization? With a constitution and everything? Then it sounds like you're set. Until you have membership, you will not have income to spend, so I would suggest making some flyers on your computer about interest meetings for a new social sorority on campus. You could meet in one of the dorm lounges or something, that way you are visible. Order pizza or have chips and cookies and something to drink. People will show up for free food. Then have people fill out name, phone, email, major, GPA, etc. so you can get in touch with them. Then have them bring their friends next time. Once you get people to join, then you can discuss dues, which should probably be low until you really start to have operating costs. You don't have to be making silk screened shirts and stuff from the get-go. Start out simple and attract membership through info sessions.

Other things you can do after having info sessions: Watch videos at someone's dorm room or apartment, go to university sports events, work out together, study together. Offer to take students that don't have transportation to the grocery store or to the mall or something. There are all kinds of things you can do! I am now rambling!

The reason I know this is because I am a member of DZ which is strong on our campus, lots of members, been around a long time, etc. After I joined that, I helped start up a music fraternity and I realized that #1: We could not approach things like I did in DZ 'cause we had no money, #2: The number one objective is to get people to show up and find out about your org and convince them that they will have a part in founding something great that will soon be a dominating force on campus (yes, be confident and believe that this will be true...if you start out with that attitude, you will succeed).

I rambled again! If you have any questions, feel free to PM me.

shadokat · #**285** 01-05-2002, 11:03 PM

Corina--

As someone who is a colony advisor for a new chapter, I can tell you that starting a new group is NOT easy!! And this colony has a whole international sorority behind them.

As dzsagirl said, you need to get organized and not worry about money so much. One thing I wonder is if you're eligible for any campus funding because you are a recognized student organization. I would highly recommend checking that out. This way, you can get some money (probably not tons of money, but a bit) to maybe buy some refreshments for your info sessions or such.

I'd be happy to talk to you and help, so feel free to PM me when you get a chance.

Wishing you the best of luck!