Schools where you absolutely positively need recs

[SWTXBelle]

. . . but the question has come up from a sister in the north - which sororities REQUIRE a rec before a pnm can be pledged? If it is treading into membership selection, I apologize. Please feel free to pm me with whether or not your GLO requires recs. I will use the information only to answer my sister's question, and certainly will not publicize it.

[33girl]

Is she looking for this info for a daughter/bio sister's rush, or just to know it?

I trust you, but quite frankly, she might be another story (as would be anyone who we don't know from their posts on here).

[DeltaBetaBaby]

I'm not going to answer your question, but let's put it this way: a rec is, when it comes down to it, an endorsement from an alumna. Every chapter I have ever heard of in any NPC org has alumna present at membership selection. You can connect the dots.

[SWTXBelle]

This sister (who I know personally) is working with an alumnae panhellenic in the north which is resistant to sponsoring informational sessions for pnm because "We don't do recs in the north". Her point is that while chapters might not use them in the same way chapters in the south do, there are groups that require them.

We know of at least 4 groups that REQUIRE them before pledging; she simply wanted to be able to quote a specific number of groups when she addresses them and tries to get them to provide informational meetings for high school seniors.


I certainly understand if you don't want to spill the beans; personally, I wish groups would be upfront about it. It seems to me a bit unfair to require recs and not let pnm know that they cannot be pledged without them.

eta - And it's unfair to advisers to have them need to scramble to get a rec on a girl the chapter wants but who doesn't have a rec. Not that I've ever done that . . .

[33girl]

Ahhhh. I'll put it this way. There are groups on my campus and on friends' very similar campuses, who members of those groups on GC have pretty much said on here you MUST have a rec to be formally bid/pledged to the GLO (and it's been that way for a long long time). I would be very surprised if the majority of the women who joined these sororities had recs going into rush. What they did or how they got these recs during or after rush, that's their biz and something I'm sure that they take care of.

Alumnae are not always a part of rush.

The problem is if you say that so and so group needs a rec to be pledged, it could potentially affect the rushee's perception of that group. "ABC wants me to jump through hoops, screw that. I'll just concentrate on XYZ."

[superbity]

Hey all, I am a bit behind in terms of gathering recs... To be honest the whole thing kind of slipped from my mind until early June. I've spent the last week and a half or so contacting friends, family, teachers, etc. asking if they could put me in touch with someone, but no luck except for one (possibly two) chapters.
I will be going to the University of Missouri. Rush starts August 14th. I've been searching everywhere - the school's PHA site, and the individual chapters' sites, but I can't find any info about a recommendation deadline. I know that last year it was August 1st. I was thinking of contacting my local alumnae chapters, but as I most likely don't know any of these ladies, I don't want to be a hassle. Considering when my rush starts, do you think it is too late to politely ask them to put me in touch with a local alumna?
This would give them somewhere around a month to write me a letter...?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by superbity

Hey all, I am a bit behind in terms of gathering recs... To be honest the whole thing kind of slipped from my mind until early June. I've spent the last week and a half or so contacting friends, family, teachers, etc. asking if they could put me in touch with someone, but no luck except for one (possibly two) chapters.
I will be going to the University of Missouri. Rush starts August 14th. I've been searching everywhere - the school's PHA site, and the individual chapters' sites, but I can't find any info about a recommendation deadline. I know that last year it was August 1st. I was thinking of contacting my local alumnae chapters, but as I most likely don't know any of these ladies, I don't want to be a hassle. Considering when my rush starts, do you think it is too late to politely ask them to put me in touch with a local alumna?

You do not contact the individual chapters (alumnae or collegiate) or the college panhellenic. You need to contact the alumnae panhellenic closest to you. http://www.npcwomen.org/alumnae-panh...directory.aspx

[superbity]

Originally Posted by 33girl

You do not contact the individual chapters (alumnae or collegiate) or the college panhellenic. You need to contact the alumnae panhellenic closest to you. http://www.npcwomen.org/alumnae-panh...directory.aspx

I see - sorry about that, I got kind of confused with all the chapters and terms. I already sent out an email early this morning to the local Tri Delta alumnae chapter.. hope that's not considered rude or tacky..? Do you think it'd be too late for me to contact my local alumnae panhellenic? I don't want to rush anyone...

[33girl]

Originally Posted by superbity

I see - sorry about that, I got kind of confused with all the chapters and terms. Do you think it'd be too late for me to contact my local alumnae panhellenic? I don't want to rush anyone...

You won't know unless you try. Just go email them right now.

[SWTXBelle]

I just got an e-mail from a frantic pnm - and yes, I'm going to write the rec.

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by superbity

Hey all, I am a bit behind in terms of gathering recs... To be honest the whole thing kind of slipped from my mind until early June. I've spent the last week and a half or so contacting friends, family, teachers, etc. asking if they could put me in touch with someone, but no luck except for one (possibly two) chapters.
I will be going to the University of Missouri. Rush starts August 14th. I've been searching everywhere - the school's PHA site, and the individual chapters' sites, but I can't find any info about a recommendation deadline. I know that last year it was August 1st. I was thinking of contacting my local alumnae chapters, but as I most likely don't know any of these ladies, I don't want to be a hassle. Considering when my rush starts, do you think it is too late to politely ask them to put me in touch with a local alumna?
This would give them somewhere around a month to write me a letter...?

I just got a whole slew of requests from my local alumnae panhellenic this morning. It shouldn't be too late, but the sooner the better.

[RazorbackRush]

The Denver Panhellenic Association website is not in working order. I have been trying to find contact info for them for a month. I live in Colorado and need recs for the University of Arkansas. I have found some on my own, but really wanted to use that group as a resource. Does anybody know how to contact them?

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by RazorbackRush

The Denver Panhellenic Association website is not in working order. I have been trying to find contact info for them for a month. I live in Colorado and need recs for the University of Arkansas. I have found some on my own, but really wanted to use that group as a resource. Does anybody know how to contact them?

It looks like they have a Facebook page.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

For you rec-savvy women: what should a PNM do when she finds out her youth group advisor is an NPC sorority alum, but has no idea what a rec is or how to write one?

[Always AlphaGam]

Now that PNMs know they shouldn't solicit recs on GC, they've taken to the FB pages of HQs.

http://www.facebook.com/alphagammadelta

Seriously? I'm all for using social media to your advantage, but COME ON.

ETA: She went to the Delta Gamma and Tri Delta pages and posted the exact same thing. Won't be surprised if she hit up all of em!