Last summer I read several posts from a GreekChatter who was about to go through SEC rush. She was understandably very nervous and unsure of herself. I wrote her a PM with some advice and words of encouragement, she wrote me back and we continued to e mail one another whenever she had a question about greek life.
She mentioned one day that she had recs from all but three houses; Delta Zeta being one of them. I did not offer to write her a rec, but I suggested she give me a telephone call so we could chat a bit.
She did just that, and we talked for an hour and a half. I found that she was a polite, charming and intelligent young lady. She was active in her church, school and community and had outstanding grades. I felt that I got to know her better in a ninety minute one-on-one conversation than I had EVER gotten to know a rushee during rush week. At the end of the conversation, I told her I would write her a rec.
Understandably, not all of us would feel comfortable doing this. It is a judgement call. If I had not thought she would be able to uphold the ideals of my sorority, I would not have made the offer and, had she asked me, I would have politely declined.
The way I look at it is this...the Sisters that initiated every single one of us trusted us enough to share the Ritual with us. As we all know, that is never something to be taken lightly. Along with becoming a sister comes the responsibility to act in the best interest of our sisterhood. When I wrote a rec for this young lady, that is exactly what I felt I was doing.
I guess my longwinded post can be encapsulated in one sentence..."Use your judgement and do what you think is in the best interest of your sorority"
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