i have a question

[JMNew83]

Hi Dawn Marie,

1.) I suggest making your board on Ashworth College private or deleting it altogether. That's way too much information for non-members to see. You talk way to brash, negatively and down to your fellow sisters. And this is ONLY in the first post!

2.) I've been where you were. I had a similar misunderstanding happen to me on Greek Chat. I'm part of the business sorority Gamma Phi Delta and was responding to a woman who expressed interest on Greek Chat when men from the Christian fraternity Gamma Phi Delta chimed in. It was inappropriate for them to do, but the posts can live on and on and on and come in searches with your name, your school's name and your sorority name. At a certain point you just have to let it go and embrace discretion.

3.) I don't see how you get any membership requests with that board as is. You do not want to have ALL your membership requirements on a public board. That's something you want to discuss with your prospective face-to-face, on the phone or via personal mail. I can only imagine what the other organizations on campus are saying about this. Discretion is so important to sorority life, chapter life and recruitment.

4.) You should also watch how you speak to others on Greek Chat. Interested women read your organization's post as "guests" so you have no idea how many people are or who is actually reading your posts. Having a clean (positive) online imagine is the first step in successful recruitment.

5.) Blaming your founder for your organizations mistakes only brings negativity, splits up your sisters into groups of: those who support you and those who support her and it takes away from the programs and missions you try to implement as a chapter. At a certain point, you have to take ownership for your mistakes, implement a new of dealing with things, and move forward.

I understand where you are coming from with the frustration of being the only one holding the whole organization together. However, alienating your sisters will bring forth the disbandment of your chapter. You have to know and believe in the mission and founding principles of the organization in order for it to work. If you need help with the Constitution, I suggest googling other organizations to see what they do. I don't think anyone on Greek Chat will post that.

By the way, you do have a cute crest!
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Gamma Phi Delta Sorority, Inc.
A Business & Professional Sorority
Member since Fall 2k3

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by JMNew83

Hi Dawn Marie,

1.) I suggest making your board on Ashworth College private or deleting it altogether. That's way too much information for non-members to see. You talk way to brash, negatively and down to your fellow sisters. And this is ONLY in the first post!

2.) I've been where you were. I had a similar misunderstanding happen to me on Greek Chat. I'm part of the business sorority Gamma Phi Delta and was responding to a woman who expressed interest on Greek Chat when men from the Christian fraternity Gamma Phi Delta chimed in. It was inappropriate for them to do, but the posts can live on and on and on and come in searches with your name, your school's name and your sorority name. At a certain point you just have to let it go and embrace discretion.

3.) I don't see how you get any membership requests with that board as is. You do not want to have ALL your membership requirements on a public board. That's something you want to discuss with your prospective face-to-face, on the phone or via personal mail. I can only imagine what the other organizations on campus are saying about this. Discretion is so important to sorority life, chapter life and recruitment.

4.) You should also watch how you speak to others on Greek Chat. Interested women read your organization's post as "guests" so you have no idea how many people are or who is actually reading your posts. Having a clean (positive) online imagine is the first step in successful recruitment.

5.) Blaming your founder for your organizations mistakes only brings negativity, splits up your sisters into groups of: those who support you and those who support her and it takes away from the programs and missions you try to implement as a chapter. At a certain point, you have to take ownership for your mistakes, implement a new of dealing with things, and move forward.

I understand where you are coming from with the frustration of being the only one holding the whole organization together. However, alienating your sisters will bring forth the disbandment of your chapter. You have to know and believe in the mission and founding principles of the organization in order for it to work. If you need help with the Constitution, I suggest googling other organizations to see what they do. I don't think anyone on Greek Chat will post that.

By the way, you do have a cute crest!
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Gamma Phi Delta Sorority, Inc.
A Business & Professional Sorority
Member since Fall 2k3

I doubt there are interested women anywhere, let alone lurking on Greekchat.

Off to find the infamous business vs. Christian Gamma Phi Delta battle.

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I doubt there are interested women anywhere, let alone lurking on Greekchat.

Off to find the infamous business vs. Christian Gamma Phi Delta battle.

In the words of Kelis, I hate you so much right now!!!

[dawnmarie]

excuse me...i dont care about the FACEBOOK PAGE at all but OUR sorority board IS PRIVATE!!!

[bostongreek]

Originally Posted by dawnmarie

excuse me...i dont care about the FACEBOOK PAGE at all but OUR sorority board IS PRIVATE!!!

If people outside the sorority can access it, it is not private.

[Pingyang]

Your sorority board comes up on the first page of a Google search using the exact words in your signature. It's nowhere near private.

If you want to make your sorority's message board private, see:
http://www.phpbb.com/kb/article/create-a-private-forum/
http://www.phpbb.com/community/viewt...f=46&t=1315605

Something dated from this year (January 2010) on the college message board is relevant, particularly when it involves chapter finances.

[dreamseeker]

Ctfu...not as private as you thought apparently

[agzg]

In my opinion, this is one of the reasons sororities in an online setting don't work. In traditional sororities, there's often no lingering proof of what went on behind closed doors, it's all she said/she said, whereas online it's allllll out there.

Message boards are relatively easy to hack, too. So... good luck keeping that stuff private. This is also why we tell newbies here at GC not to post too much identifying information, if they're a PNM, and don't encourage members to post about private chapter business. Teh intarwebs nevah fo'get.

[Barbie's_Rush]

I'll take train wrecks for 500, Alex.

OP, you and your "sorority" are one big stinking hot mess.

[33girl]

Is the motto of this sorority/Ashworth College "Eradicating the Godless Apostrophe"?

[chickenoodle]

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Really? You're shocked that people noticed you all over the internet?

How the hell are you going to find a job? Most employers will Google prospective employees and if this is what they see, you're screwed.

This thread is totally going in the trainwreck thread.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by chickenoodle

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Really? You're shocked that people noticed you all over the internet?

How the hell are you going to find a job? Most employers will Google prospective employees and if this is what they see, you're screwed.

This thread is totally going in the trainwreck thread.

She is in her 30s and has a real job (hence my horror at the spelling, grammar and punctuation). That one Google search brings up a whole slew of forum posts that share too much information. I actually feel bad that someone in their late 30s didn't think to CHECK that the forum she thought was private, was actually private.

Snarkiness aside, I still don't get how a sorority can exist online. Few (3 or 4) people attend your meetings (apparently don't follow Robert's rules bc how can you have quorum?), your social events are held on Facebook Game applications, and membership is dependent on the frequency of forum posts. I don't understand how you can develop or maintain a "sisterhood" of 35 people when you probably have never all been in a room together? What are the criteria for "member intake"? Sure, having a place to go online is great and fun, and far be it for me to try to deprive someone from doing what they want, but why does it have to be a Greek-letter sorority? If you want to be part of a social group IRL, there are many places, even an adult community sorority. I'd love to know HOW this all operates.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

She is in her 30s and has a real job (hence my horror at the spelling, grammar and punctuation). That one Google search brings up a whole slew of forum posts that share too much information. I actually feel bad that someone in their late 30s didn't think to CHECK that the forum she thought was private, was actually private.

Snarkiness aside, I still don't get how a sorority can exist online. Few (3 or 4) people attend your meetings (apparently don't follow Robert's rules bc how can you have quorum?), your social events are held on Facebook Game applications, and membership is dependent on the frequency of forum posts. I don't understand how you can develop or maintain a "sisterhood" of 35 people when you probably have never all been in a room together? What are the criteria for "member intake"? Sure, having a place to go online is great and fun, and far be it for me to try to deprive someone from doing what they want, but why does it have to be a Greek-letter sorority? If you want to be part of a social group IRL, there are many places, even an adult community sorority. I'd love to know HOW this all operates.

I wonder if they have a Facebook application for their rituals? They'd save a lot of money on battery operated candles by using the glow of a monitor instead.

[Save Ferris]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

I'd love to know HOW this all operates.

It's pretty apparent that it does not operate well.


OP, if you really want your sorority to be respected, you need to respect your sorority and your sisters. Don't out the founder for "being lazy". Without her, you wouldn't have your sorority at all. If you want people to take you seriously, use proper grammar and check your spelling.

[Ooh La La]

The date I saw on that was from January...

And wow. Just wow.