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Originally posted by SummerChild
Aephi Alum, this is pretty much my point of view as well. Marriage is about partnership, not submission.
I know that there will be those who say that not both parties can be equal all the time. This is exactly my point from my other thread: if you are more wise or learned or feel especially stronger about something than your partner than I would say that you are the dominant figure for *that* transaction or issue. Thus, no you are not *always* equal in every certain thing but, in my opinion, that equality would change based on the facts in place, not based on who happens to be the man.
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Why does the issue of who is in "control" on a particular issue matter?? Of course marriage is a partnership...but MANY times two partners disagree and someone has to make the final decision....IMO it should be the man... I just think too many woman want to wear the pants in the home....and i dont think a strong brotha is going to stick around forever for that...
A difference in my perspective is that I've seen this work in many households...my mother in no way is a weak woman....and is very opinionated....but when its time to make the final decision...she speaks her peace and lets my Dad handle it..she never says I TOLD YOU SO if he makes the wrong decision...she's supportive..but again...submitting works in the context of a Christian marriage...when the man is submitting himself to God...not when he's just trying to have his way and be in control.... I believe the best men have great women by their side...not struggling to get his position....
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