Would you marry someone in the military?

[Rio_Kohitsuji]

I've dated a guy from each service branch....so apparently I have to problems w/men in uniform,

I guess if I had met a serviceman before meeting my current bf and wanted to marry him, I wouldn't have a problem with it. However, right now I'll my guyfriends are deployed so I'm just taking care of their girlfriends here, so I get enough of the deployment grief.

[KillarneyRose]

Originally posted by Coramoor
Plus, it's very, very difficult to have a comfortable living on an enlisted person's pay, unless both of them are working.

Shoot, it's hard to have a comfortable living on an officer's pay unless the wife works as well. Most active duty folks I know are two income households, or they live extremely modestly.

When Mr. KR's reserve unit was called up and he had to go to Dubai two years ago, he was an O-4 and I would not have been able to manage if the company he was with at the time hadn't paid us the difference between his Navy and civilian pay.
Well, I could have but it would have meant major cutting back.

I've always felt that the military pays enough to exist on, but not to really live on (if that makes any sense?)

[orchid2]

Originally posted by cashmoney
The girls in there are dykes anyhow.

I'm not

Way to stereotype.


It's kind of hard for girls who are in this situation and have chosen it for our careers... not many men are willing to follow us around the world at the expense to their own careers. Unless you get lucky and snatch up a good one who really, really loves you

[Still BLUTANG]

it depends.

it's not the danger factor, it's the you're at someone else's beck and call besides ME factor combined with the i've never been good at long distance relationships so i avoid them at all costs factor.

i wouldn't seriously date a guy in the military, but if a guy i was seriously dating decided to join, i'd stick it out to see if it could work.

[_Opi_]

No.

[DSTCHAOS]

Nope.

I require too much attention and routinization/semi-predictability in terms of the future. I also require spontaneity in a relationship but NOT in the form of "honey, I just found out I'm being sent to Iraq in a couple of months!!!!"

[OtterXO]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Nope.
I also require spontaneity in a relationship but NOT in the form of "honey, I just found out I'm being sent to Iraq in a couple of months!!!!"

I agree with you on that. Plus, I think I would be on edge the ENTIRE time he was gone. Not really a nice way to live life.

[33girl]

No, unless they were getting out before we married. I don't want to move around or have him be far away for long periods, plus I don't really find uniformed men that sexy. (Unless it's Marlon Brando in Sayonara. mmmmmm.)

I would say the same thing if he was always away in any job, like a trucker - Dad33 was thinking of doing that and Mom33 said "if you do, tell me goodbye for good." Lots of their friends lived that life for a long time, but I think having the man you love gone so much would just be devastating.

[aleha]

Im dating a military fellow----i agreee with those who say they are sexy hunks---mine is!!

But I love him enough to accept his absences.. so I dnt think its much of a problem.

[Benzgirl]

Maybe we should turn it around. A military man would never marry ME. I'm too outspoken about decreasing the defense budget and diverting it to Education and Health Care. I also think we should have been out of Iraq by now. That said, my views start too many arguments of which I'm not willing to compromise.

My very good friend married a man in the air force. Had he not left the service, they would have been divorced. Desert Storm (during and after), created a huge strain on their marriage. A couple of times he has mentioned reenlisting, and she puts the Yellow Pages on the kitchen table, opened to "Divorce Attorneys"

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by Benzgirl

Maybe we should turn it around. A military man would never marry ME. I'm too outspoken about decreasing the defense budget and diverting it to Education and Health Care. I also think we should have been out of Iraq by now. That said, my views start too many arguments of which I'm not willing to compromise.

AMEN.

[christiangirl]

No. I don't think I could handle the lifestyle. I love to travel as much as the next person, but I don't like the idea of having to uproot myself, sometimes at a moment's notice. Plus, not having him around, constantly worrying if he would come home the next time, etc. These things would bother me from the beginning, but once we had kids this would absolutely drive me nuts. Not that you can't raise healthy, secure kids while you're moving around (or that kids who never move always grow up well), but uprooting them would worry me. I'd worry about them having all sorts of attachment issues and whatnot. I know that's silly, but it'd probably go through my mind anyway.

[SthrnZeta]

I always said no, never, not in a million years, fun to date but not marriage material. And here I am, engaged to a signal officer who's deployed for 12-15 months. You can't help who you fall in love with and who you're meant to be with. And if that right man happens to be in the military and has to leave for a while, it'll be worth the wait. You don't know what you can handle until you're asked... And I strongly believe God never asks you to shoulder more than you can bare.