Too Much Baggage?! - Page 2

CrimsonTide4 · #16 10-14-2003, 02:26 PM

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Originally posted by TonyB06

I couldn't have made it without CT4 and Gina who took a little Alpha boy by the hand and showed him how to quote and smiley face...and now I'm a GC Man!!!

thank yall so much

ooooooooooooooooh SHOOT!! He used SMILIES too!!! This boy is a bad mamma jamma!!

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Originally posted by Delph998
CT4, Can I sing at your wedding though?! I gotta voice that you ain't even ready for!! Let me stop!

You can sing CHORUS in the beloved circle during the SONG!!

delph998 · #17 10-14-2003, 02:31 PM

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Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
ooooooooooooooooh SHOOT!! He used SMILIES too!!! This boy is a bad mamma jamma!!

You can sing CHORUS in the beloved circle during the SONG!!

Like that?! Oh okay..I see how you gonna do your Sawrah!! It's all good...I have no problems singing SO-LOW during the Sweetheart Song!

1savvydiva · #18 10-14-2003, 02:32 PM

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Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
**bowing** Thanks ma'am. You still cannot sing at the wedding.

Dayum!!!

(You mean to tell me I touched up my dyeable red shoes with a red Sharpie marker for nothing? )

**I'm wearing you down man, I'm wearing you down!**

CrimsonTide4 · #19 10-14-2003, 02:34 PM

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Originally posted by 1savvydiva
Dayum!!! (You mean to tell me I touched up my dyeable red shoes with a red Sharpie marker for nothing? )

**I'm wearing you down man, I'm wearing you down!**

______________________________________________ dead

btb87 · #20 10-14-2003, 03:04 PM

okay, lemme add my $.08 worth. . .

Seems like everyone's given great advice, and I agree with what's been said. Another thing to think about is your reaction to/interaction with the kids. My husband had a son before we got married, and I'll be honest - I had problems with him at first because I wanted my husband (then boyfriend/fiance) to myself, but as I got older and matured, I realized that it is extremely important and essential that he have a relationship with his son and that he would always be a part of OUR lives, as long as I was married to him.

But I guess I jumped the gun a little too soon. You haven't had your first date yet, huh?

To quote a famous woman (the lady on the train at the end of "Coming To America") GO FOR IT HONEY!

Wish you the best! After all, this date may give you some insight as to how the "relationship" may progress. Keep us posted!

delph998 · #21 10-14-2003, 03:35 PM

ISDiva,

You're a straight mess!

BTB87, thanks for your input. I really don't have a problem with his children. They're pretty little girls. I think he should definitely be apart of their lives. I think I'm cool with it because they're older and not in the same state. If they were here, it probably would be mroe in my face. I have, however, always said that I want my man to be exclusively mine (children, 1st wife, etc.), but you know how that goes.

I will go out with him and I will let y'all know what happens.

ANOTHER QUESTION:

What is too much baggage? I have another friend that doesn't have any kids, never been married, college educated, greek, Christian, great family background, yada, yada, yada, but has SO MANY INTERNAL ISSUES!! He's highly insecure, unapproachable, not sociable, very needy, very spoiled, mama's boy...oh, he drives me insane! He is also trying to talk to me, but I feel more drawn to first guy because he doesn't have those issues. I mean this dude here is OFF THE METER! Hates to apologize, has a bad temper, spoiled, stubborn, so set in his ways, etc. I could go on and on...is that too much baggage?

btb87 · #22 10-14-2003, 03:44 PM

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Originally posted by delph998
ANOTHER QUESTION:

What is too much baggage? I have another friend that doesn't have any kids, never been married, college educated, greek, Christian, great family background, yada, yada, yada, but has SO MANY INTERNAL ISSUES!! He's highly insecure, unapproachable, not sociable, very needy, very spoiled, mama's boy...oh, he drives me insane! He is also trying to talk to me, but I feel more drawn to first guy because he doesn't have those issues. I mean this dude here is OFF THE METER! Hates to apologize, has a bad temper, spoiled, stubborn, so set in his ways, etc. I could go on and on...is that too much baggage?

Leave his no apologizin', bad tempered, spoiled, stubborn, set in his ways, insecure, unapproachable, unsociable, needy, mama's boy self with HIS MAMA! Let her deal with him and wonder in another few years why she ain't got no mo' grandchirren! If he's that way now, just wait until he shows you his true colors!

I'm sorry - I got a little carried away. . .

Getting back to work. ..

delph998 · #23 10-14-2003, 03:53 PM

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Originally posted by btb87
Leave his no apologizin', bad tempered, spoiled, stubborn, set in his ways, insecure, unapproachable, unsociable, needy, mama's boy self with HIS MAMA! Let her deal with him and wonder in another few years why she ain't got no mo' grandchirren! If he's that way now, just wait until he shows you his true colors!

I'm sorry - I got a little carried away. . .

Getting back to work. ..

LOL!! That was off the chain!

1savvydiva · #24 10-14-2003, 04:03 PM

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Originally posted by btb87
Leave his no apologizin', bad tempered, spoiled, stubborn, set in his ways, insecure, unapproachable, unsociable, needy, mama's boy self with HIS MAMA! Let her deal with him and wonder in another few years why she ain't got no mo' grandchirren! If he's that way now, just wait until he shows you his true colors!

I'm sorry - I got a little carried away. . .

Getting back to work. ..

Don't hold back B...tell us how you really feel!

I just realized that I haven't had anything productive to add to this thread!

I do agree with what everyone has said though. Sadly, it is a fact that there are a LOT of brothers out there with children...that doesn't make them undateable. I think the most important thing is how he handles his responsibility. Hell, I probably SHOULD have had a coupla kids right now, but on the same token I know that I will make a good wife. Circumstances happen to everyone...I would rather have a man with kids that takes care of his responsibility, than a man-whore who just hasn't gotten caught yet ANYDAY!

Good Luck, listen to your head, then follow your heart...and keep us posted!

TonyB06 · #25 10-14-2003, 04:04 PM

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Originally posted by delph998

ANOTHER QUESTION:

What is too much baggage? I have another friend that doesn't have any kids, never been married, college educated, greek, Christian, great family background, yada, yada, yada, but has SO MANY INTERNAL ISSUES!! He's highly insecure, unapproachable, not sociable, very needy, very spoiled, mama's boy...oh, he drives me insane! He is also trying to talk to me, but I feel more drawn to first guy because he doesn't have those issues. I mean this dude here is OFF THE METER! Hates to apologize, has a bad temper, spoiled, stubborn, so set in his ways, etc. I could go on and on...is that too much baggage?

Well one thing is clear, D998...YOU GOT GAME--menfolk just fallin' everywhere!

Anyway, the 2nd guy seems different. If his game is so tight, why the internals? Re-reading what you listed about him, I gotta ask, why is there even a question?? (unless this guy is a bruh...in which case you gotta reach beyond all these little nit-picky things you just listed and touch his inner genius

1savvydiva · #26 10-14-2003, 04:11 PM

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Originally posted by TonyB06
(unless this guy is a bruh...in which case you gotta reach beyond all these little nit-picky things you just listed and touch his inner genius

LMAO! I bet YOU couldn't even say that one with a straight face!

lovelyivy84 · #27 10-14-2003, 04:19 PM

Hmm.

I think what concerns me, more than the kids, is the reason behind the breakup with his first marriage. Is he still power tripping? Are you going to be ok with a man who so clearly has a need to be dominant in your relationship?

If you are down for the traditional roles in a relationship then go for it! But if you are more independent and he has not changed, that could be a big issue...

Whatever you do with this brotha, STAY AWAY from the other one. Situations are things that change on a daily basis, but a BAD ATTITUDE stinks up the place foreva!

delph998 · #28 10-14-2003, 04:23 PM

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Originally posted by TonyB06
Well one thing is clear, D998...YOU GOT GAME--menfolk just fallin' everywhere!

Anyway, the 2nd guy seems different. If his game is so tight, why the internals? Re-reading what you listed about him, I gotta ask, why is there even a question?? (unless this guy is a bruh...in which case you gotta reach beyond all these little nit-picky things you just listed and touch his inner genius

He is your bruh!! I didn't want to say it though! And for the record, I DO NOT HAVE GAME!

delph998 · #29 10-14-2003, 04:25 PM

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Originally posted by lovelyivy84
Hmm.

I think what concerns me, more than the kids, is the reason behind the breakup with his first marriage. Is he still power tripping? Are you going to be ok with a man who so clearly has a need to be dominant in your relationship?

If you are down for the traditional roles in a relationship then go for it! But if you are more independent and he has not changed, that could be a big issue...

Whatever you do with this brotha, STAY AWAY from the other one. Situations are things that change on a daily basis, but a BAD ATTITUDE stinks up the place foreva!

Hey Lovelyivy...actually he said that SHE was power trippin' because she was making more money, not him. Thanks for your input girly!

lovelyivy84 · #30 10-14-2003, 04:27 PM

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Originally posted by delph998
Hey Lovelyivy...actually he said that SHE was power trippin' because she was making more money, not him. Thanks for your input girly!

Interesting..rare but I can see where it might happen. I don't know if I would believe him without more info from her or people who saw what happened though. I know more men who would have trouble with a woman coming home and saying this is my money and I'm spending it how I like than women who would push it all up in the man's face (although sistas can be a lil TOO independent at times).