Disappointed mom - Page 2

dukemama · #16 10-18-2008, 11:44 PM

The OP's post is disgusting. She should be ashamed of herself.

nittanyalum · #17 10-19-2008, 12:01 AM

tinydancer · #18 10-19-2008, 12:16 AM

OP's post is about the saddest thing I have read in a really long time. Daughter seems proud of her sorority. Mama should be, too.

Jill1228 · #19 10-19-2008, 12:30 AM

She is happy. She is enjoying herself. She has a life! You should be supportive of her.

Most important, you need to get a friggin life!

Your unpanhellenic attitude is a freaking disgrace!

Buttonz · #20 10-19-2008, 12:47 AM

I feel horrible for your daughter. You should be happy for her.

I hope your not my sister because if you are I'd be very disappointed in your horrible attitude towards another NPC...in fact, I am regardless of the fact.

KappaKittyCat · #21 10-19-2008, 12:48 AM

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Originally Posted by sail100

My daughter went through rush this fall. I didn't expect her to go through, and since she's a bit on the shy side I really didn't encourage it knowing how stressful and heartbreaking it can be.

"You could fail. You shouldn't try at all."

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At this point I tried to get her to drop out

"You're not perfect. You should quit."

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I'm embarassed for her.

Nope. You're embarrassed for you. Your daughter's not good enough for you. You should be ashamed of yourself, not of your daughter. You want to alienate her? Just keep doing what you're doing.

KSUViolet06 · #22 10-19-2008, 12:58 AM

My advice? Relax, and let your daughter make decisions for herself. If she is happy where she is, let her be and be supportive. Be proud of your daughter no matter what sorority she's in, because at the end of the day, she's your daughter.

If she is happy, why would you encourage her to drop? You already said that she is shy. Why would you want her to go through recruitment again? If she goes through again, if the school is competitive, she could potentially end up getting released entirely. As a mom, I can't see how you could want that for her.

I'm sorry, but if it means more to you for your daughter to be in a top sorority with an active social calendar than it is for your daughter to be happy, then you need to re-evaluate your life and your priorities. I don't really think you'll get a ton of sympathy here, just because of the way this comes off.

AlphaRuby · #23 10-19-2008, 01:32 AM

She could really be a great asset to her chapter and really enjoy the people she's met; it's very sad that a mother would want to take that away for the sake of social status.

Xidelt · #24 10-19-2008, 03:34 AM

Is this mom for real?

dvs-dz · #25 10-19-2008, 09:39 AM

Have you considered that your daughter may have found a group where she is accepted and wanted? Where she has found friends she will have for a lifetime? That she wasn't just settling because she chose to continue to their pref and accept their bid? That maybe the other sororities (which would make you proud) may have treated her shabbily?

I take it your daughter must take after her father more than her mother.

AOII4ME · #26 10-19-2008, 10:03 AM

To the OP,

You can't help how you feel. You might consider that everyone is different and chooses differently. For whatever the reason, your daughter has chosen to see this through. I think it is true that sometimes moms get so wrapped up in the choices our children make, we can't separate what is their choice and what is ours to choose. I do think she will sense that you are uncomfortable with her decision and that will hurt her. I have several children and have tried to live the 'whatever they are is good enough, and hope they are able to apply it to me, and everyone in their lives. And, the truth is, it's not about you. If you just love her and help her with the choices she makes, it might help you both. Good luck.

kddani · #27 10-19-2008, 10:15 AM

Thank God your daughter found a place where she's happy and that's supportive of her. Because you're certainly not. You're a sick woman. So happy that your daughter is away from you now and with people who can teach her what it's really like to have people who care about her and her happiness, not just what social ladder she'll help them climb.

alum · #28 10-19-2008, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Xidelt

Is this mom for real?

Doubt it.

Kevin · #29 10-19-2008, 10:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Xidelt

Is this mom for real?

Sock puppet checklist:
1) Create account with authentic looking name... check.
2) Start a thread wherein sock puppet acts like a caricature of a stereotype... check.
3) Watch the fallout and enjoy!... check.

Munchkin03 · #30 10-19-2008, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Xidelt

Is this mom for real?

Yeah, I can't get all invested in this to reply because it's probably fake.