Rush at UCSC - Page 39

wishinhopin · #**571** 03-30-2002, 09:52 PM

Quick question...this thread really isn't about rush (nor has it been for a good six months now!)...is it ok where it is? I don't want to be in the wrong place if I'm not supposed to. Should it be moved to greek life or something? I don't even know if that's possible. I'm fine with this, I wasn't sure though if it was a problem!
love, Corina

justamom · #**572** 03-30-2002, 10:08 PM

Corina, others may not agree, but here is my opinion. This is YOUR thread! This is better than ANY reality based program the networks can offer. It's like a novel (ie-the NeverEnding Story comes to mind) and we can't put it down. I think it would be a shame to lose the continuity of this journey. In a way, you are teaching those who will come after you. It's also the best colabrative work on GC. Keep it going! You have a tremendous following

Optimist Prime · #**573** 03-30-2002, 10:11 PM

to describe the thread in greek chat terms, its thirty nine pages of wonderful

mmcat · #**574** 03-30-2002, 11:06 PM

just keep trucking...
you are right where we need you to be.
just don't let the day to day weird you out.
i sense an upcoming happy ending. and we want to be there with you and for you as it happens.
lol
mmcat

wishinhopin · #**575** 04-01-2002, 02:45 PM

Recruitment starts tonight! Here's the schedule:
Mon (tonight): Info night with snacks, we'll be painting clay pots also
Tues: Picnic with Pi Alpha Phi fraternity
Wed: BBQ and softball with Delta Omega Chi fraternity
Thurs: Sisterhood pajama party, watching movies and planting forget me nots in the pots we decorated, just hanging out basically.
Fri: One on one interviews w/ prospective members
Sat: Bid Night

I hope people show up! I know at least one girl is showing up for sure, so that's a good thing. I can't believe that I'm now like full circle from where I started on greekchat...life is so crazy! I'll post after tonight's event.
love, Corina

wishinhopin · #**576** 04-02-2002, 01:47 AM

Hey everyone...

quick recap. 3 girls showed up, two more are expected for tomorrow night, and I'm excited. They were really sweet and funny and I think- just from what I know right now- that they could really mesh well with us. So we'll see what happens. I'm excited! And...I totally got my dream college job of working at a Clinique counter at the new Macys by my school Go me! More later, soooo tired and hungry.
love, Corina

FuzzieAlum · #**577** 04-02-2002, 12:47 PM

Cool! Good luck with the rest of rush!

wishinhopin · #**578** 04-02-2002, 09:41 PM

Hey everyone,

I have class tonight, so I won't be able to make it to our rush event. But, I'm sure things will go well, and we'll have at least 4 girls there! I'm really happy. Also, we got an email from the Delta Gamma extension director, and she told me that they can't expand this year, but if our plans somehow change, we should get in touch with her...she said we had a great positive attitude! So that's sortof a backup in case we feel like we don't mesh well with Sigma Sigma Sigma and/or Alpha Xi Delta, or if they aren't interested in colonizing with us. Exciting huh? More later!
love, Corina

wishinhopin · #**579** 04-03-2002, 01:27 PM

Have two spare seconds, so this has to be quick. Like I said, I had class last night. I guess one of the girls from the first night also had class, and her friend didn't show up, don't know why. The third girl from the first night did show up, and so did two other girls. So hopefully things will work out. I'm very stressed right now, but I'm trying to stay positive about all of this. More later.
love, Corina

TriSigmaTX · #**580** 04-03-2002, 03:37 PM

Corina,
Follow up is most important so keep it up! Don't ever give up on anyone just because they don't show up once. Get out there and you all should meet a new woman and ask her to come by, it's not too late at all!

justamom · #**581** 04-03-2002, 04:09 PM

The second girl may have been to shy to come without the first girl. A lot of people don't like going to events alone.

TriSigmaTX knows what she's talking about!!!
Follow up is most important so keep it up! Don't ever give up on anyone just because they don't show up once. Get out there and you all should meet a new woman and ask her to come by, it's not too late at all!

mmcat · #**582** 04-03-2002, 08:53 PM

let nobody drop by the wayside.
encourage her to meet you for lunch or for coffee in between classes. you need to be creative to make sure that you really really look at everyone.
cheers and good luck
mmcat

wishinhopin · #**583** 04-04-2002, 02:43 PM

Hey everyone,

Last night was soooo fun. Doing the BBQ at the Delta Omega Chi house was definitely the most fun I've had in a while. The guys were all really chill, we just hung out and ended up playing poker and dominos and listening to music with them, watching the baseball game, etc. I got to know some of the girls better- some didn't show up, either they couldn't make it or they just didn't show, we called all of them, plus I invited another girl but she couldn't make it- and we just generally had fun. Tonight will be another relaxed night, and I'm not feeling as stressed about the whole process. Things will work out.
More after tonight!
love, Corina

wishinhopin · #**584** 04-05-2002, 03:55 AM

I am so delusional. I can't believe I made that last post as though everything is just ok. Yes we had fun, most of us. But some of my sisters who showed up later didn't have so much fun, and I feel really bad. Suffice it to say that we previously established some standards of decorum (do's and don'ts if you will) and I screwed them all up. I totally wasn't even thinking at all. I don't know what I was doing, or how I didn't realize that some of the stuff I did wasn't appropriate, but I feel awful now. I'd rather not get into the details, but I know that I embarrased my sorority and I feel horrible- plus I went back on my word by not abiding by the plans we originally set. And the most ridiculous thing is that I didn't even realize until tonight that something was significantly wrong- like I didn't even realize it was a big deal. My sorority needs so much work, and we had a HUGE meeting tonight to try to deal with it, but I'm so overwhelmed. We're all overwhelmed. We have plans on how to fix things, and make our sisterhood stronger, but I just feel awful. I'm supposed to be setting a good example! I didn't do anything terribly awful, but what did happen shouldn't have and I feel like the worst president in the whole world. I know everyone makes mistakes but I should have been thinking more! I'm so overwhelmed. One mistake doesn't automatically make me a bad president does it? But it isn't just that night, it's also everything...I feel like if I was cut out to be president we would be doing so much better now. I hate questioning myself. Tonight at our meeting I straight up offered for us to hold relections or even for me to leave if they felt like I wasn't doing what I should be doing...IU told them the truth, which is that I didn't want to be there if they didn't want me there. Sometimes I feel left out of the group I guess. There are so many more issues behind this, and I am much too tired to post them all tonight. I'll fill in some of the more important details tomorrow- tonight was just some self loathing I had to get off my chest so I could sleep.
love, Corina

justamom · #**585** 04-05-2002, 09:32 AM

"Would have-Could have-Should have"....We ALL have them, those moments you described as "self loathing". I don't have any idea what you did or how your sisters reacted, but it's over and done.

If an apology is in order-then do so. If it's a simple case of making an "@$$" out of yourself...well WHO HASN'T. There have been numerous posts on this matter so maybe someone can chime in and give you some sound advice. Unless you are more specific, we can't really help you with damage control.

You are in a difficult position and there will be times you feel seperated from the whole. No sorority is perfect-NOTHING in life is perfect. Sometimes, how you respond AFTER an incident defines you more than the incident itself.